being a parent (Being a Parent)

Member Name: scottsmum

Product:	Being a Parent
Date:	25/10/08 (35 review reads)
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Advantages: having someone love you so much

Disadvantages: tiring, hardwork

From turning about 18 and leaving school all I dreamed of was settling down and having kids, i was very maternal and couldnt wait. Several years of begging my partner we finally started trying and was shocked falling pregnant the 1st month just after my 21st birthday, my little boy was born unexpectantly a month early in aug 2005, followed by my little girl who i had at home in sept 2007 and now currently expecting my 3rd (and final) due 1st may.

I had always dreamed of being a mother as had so much love and caring i wanted to do, but also because part of me felt like i needed to be needed and give kids a fantastic start in life. I hate going round and seeing children poorly dressed and unclean, or children being hit badly in public or even worse sworn at, you would then see the children rebelling as they got older and a hate relationship developed.

I didnt want that, I wanted my kids to be well loved and cared for, and not to be spoilt but still have what they needed. I wanted to build up friendships and relationships and make sure they could always come to me. Im no push over, my son is 3 and have introduced a naughty step, which he understands very well and as a result hardly have to use it. The best bit i find is filling with kids with praise though when they do right. I try to do loads with them and keep them entertained and busy, i enjoy being an active part of their life and being a full time mum means i there for them when they need me. we paint, bake, make things, colour etc and find something to do each day we are at home.

At first i was worried about going out to groups as didnt know anyone with babies, but its the best thing i have done, soon i started building friendships as did my son and go to more and more groups, 3 years down the line we are all still friends and most have a daughter similar age to my daughter as well. Although feel a little left out this time as Im the only one expecting.

Being a parent, especially full time, is hard work and demanding, the days can drag and somedays you just want a break but cant have one. When i feel like this i make sure i go out the house, whether its shopping, park or a group to give you a change of scenery, i also make sure we do something each day to pass the time, and when things go bad just remember the good times as they certainly out number the bad times.

Being a parent is the best thing i have ever done, my children are still young, but im hoping the parenting skills i have picked up from friends and family and have used will help influence my children in to who they grow up into and give them the best start in laugh, meaning im proud of them but also they are proud of me.

Summary: i wouldnt change it for the world and will soon be a parent for the 3rd time