Priveliged Parent! (Being a Parent)

Member Name: HJAL

Product:	Being a Parent
Date:	04/11/08 (67 review reads)
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Advantages: Love, cuddles, kisses etc

Disadvantages: Sleepless nights etc but sooo worth it.

I feel so lucky to have my 2 gorgeous boys who are 3 years old and 7months old.

When I found out I was pregnant with my first i was absolutely petrified. I was only 19 and had no plans to have children at all. After a lot of talking we finally decided that, actually, we would love to have this baby.

I had an absolutely horrendous pregnancy as i suffered really badly with toothache and couldn't have strong enough pain relief because of possible harm to the baby. It was that bad that I had an appointment with a consultant to see about being induced early. The consultant actually agreed that if it did not get any better she would consider, all being well, inducing me a week early.

I started to really resent being pregnant and was worried that I had made a mistake. I was only 19 and looking back now i can admit that i wasnt really ready for the life changing effect a baby would have. I worried that I would'nt love the baby.

Then, the day before my due date, my boyfriends sister (who was also my midwife) came to see me and was worried that I had signs of pre-eclampsia so she took me up to hospital. After a few tests they decided that it would be best to induce me and the next day I gave birth to my beautiful baby boy, weighing a whopping 8lb 11oz.

The instant love that I felt for him was overwhelming! It was such a strong bond that when 3 years later, after trying for only 6 months, we discovered that i was pregnant again I really did worry that I could never love another child as much as my first born.

When I found out that I was pregnant, my gran who I was very close to, was in intensive care. I told her a few times that I was pregnant but I dont think she ever really knew. She died 8 weeks later and I was convinced that she had died to make way for my baby.

So, after wanting another child for over a year, when it finally happened I was wracked with guilt and grief and decided that I did not want this baby. I felt like this until I was in the last month of my pregnancy.

But when i gave birth to my second gorgeous baby boy at home, weighing 8lb 10oz, I felt immediate love for him. In fact the bond that we shared was so strong. Not more so than with my eldest, just different.

I cherish every day that I have with my boys. Don't get me wrong, we have our bad days, especially when we are all lacking in sleep but its worth every minute of stress and fatigue.

When they look at me and smile or give me a cuddle or say I Love You it is so special.

I have been lucky enough to stay at home with my children and see all of their firsts ( so far). It is such a good feeling when your child achieves something new and you are their to witness it. First smile right through to first day at school etc.

I wouldnt change anything for the world!

I love being a mum and feel priveliged and lucky that I have two healthy, happy boys.

I would definately recommend being a parent.

Obviously the disadvantages of being a parent are the sleepless nights and the stress of having to tell them off but it is definately worth it!

Summary: Love being a parent