when I fell pregnant with my first son I was ecstatic, I threw myself into reading all the books on pregnancy what to eat and not to eat, about the birth and what to expect after. I had the idea in my head that my baby was going to fall into this perfect routine, not have a dummy, be exclusively breastfed and sleep through the night by 6 months YEAH RIGHT he wasn't structured at all, he didn't breastfeed well and ended up very poorly with mastitis, to which went to bottle feeding, he was also a very suckley baby after the one day of endless crying my mum said "try this" it was a dummy I burst into tears and felt such a bad mum, all the books had told me that my baby was to be a certain way and he wasn't, but you know what I never looked back, my son was a happy content little boy once I calmed down and followed what felt right

I have since had a second son and have thrown away those silly books away, I had a relaxed pregnancy and I feet so calm now, I know with number two, you have more of an idea, of what you are doing, but I followed my instinct and have managed not to pull out any of my hair in a big frazzled mess.

Having the two boys, one is 2 the other 6 months, so they are close in age, is a big challenge, some days it feels like its just nappies and bottles but when I see them playing and smiling with each other it makes it all worth to know what I'm doing is right for me and my boys.

so don't feel like you are not doing right just because someone else does it differently let your maternal instinct guide you trust me it will be right for you and your family