When every day is a bad day (Being a Parent)

Member Name: mumsie

Product:	Being a Parent
Date:	15/01/01 (16 review reads)
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Advantages: Be consistent,

Disadvantages: Trying not to overreact,smacking,stop and start again

Hi I'm mum to two children a little girl who is 3 and a boy who is 5 months and I'm not coping so well.
I feel split in two. They pull me in different directions the whole time and it's almost impossible to do right by both of them. What is right for the baby is'nt right for my older one and the same the other way around. When you've got the one you don't know how easy it is. Once you've got the two of them, it's more than twice the work.
When I had the one if she had a tantrum, I found that I could ignore it and stay fairly calm. Now with the two of them, if I try to ignore anything, it turns into a full scale war.
My oldest's good behaviour has gone out of the window and I'm now dealing with a monster, it seems that my childs behaviour has taken over my life. I just felt I had changed when I had my second child. I felt my patience had gone completely. If I saw parents shouting in the streetI used to think that was a terrible thing. When I had the one, I could reason with her and we would sort it out. When I had two, only one had to do the slightest thing wrong and I would fly of the handle.

Having a difficult child because of a new baby is an enormous strain, but I sit back and think and try to understand my childs behaviourmore and I believe I'm more likely to find a right answer. And even if I can't find an answer I'll probably cope a lot better. But it doesn't always work.

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