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Go with the flow.
Member Name: kama0529
Advantages: Feel in control.
Disadvantages: Things don't always go according to plan.
I'm coming at this from a slightly different perspective from most people here as my perspective is generally based on my professional experience rather than personal experience. As anyone who has had a baby will know, your midwife will talk to you fairly early on about your birthing plan - how you want to have your baby delivered into this world. And fortunately, for most mothers, the birth of their baby goes according to plan and everyone's happy.
However, my concern is that sometimes parents are so set on keeping to their birth plan that they don't take into consideration the fact that things don't always go according to plan - and therefore things need to be changed when that happens. Ultimately the safety of you and your baby HAS to come above your ideals about how the delivery should actually take place, and in my experience parents sometimes get carried away with wanting the candles and the soft playing music and don't take into account that, in some situations, not being willing to change your plan can and will result in the life of yourself and / or your baby being put in jepordy.
I've had parents say to me that midwives sometimes over clinicalize situations and therefore intervene when there is no need to. Of course I can't say that this never happens, but generally midwives are committed to helping mothers to have their baby in the way that they wish. However, they not only have to look after the wishes of mothers, but they also have at least two lives to look out for also. They do not change your birthing plan without good reason and so I highly recommend that you listen to them and be willing to change accordingly.
I've been aware of mothers who have refused to allow a caesarian section when there has been severe foetal distress; or mothers who have insisted on having no monitoring despite signs that there is a serious issue; and the consequences of this has been tragic in some circumstances.
I'm not wanting to play the scaremongerer here - because of course most births are uneventful in terms of complications and everything is wonderful. But when complications happen, then flexibility is necessary and your wishes have to be put on the back burner because I'm sure ultimately what you want more than anything is a healthy baby at the end of it.
Summary: Make a plan but be prepared to change it.