Bonding With Step-Children

These days it seems more and more common that families are split up and step children are te norm. I hae two step children myself. Me and my husband have been together for nearly 7 years, and when we met, his children were aged 3 and 6. It was obviously a very difficult time for the children, as I was thier dads first girlfriend since splitting up with his ex wife. It took them a while to adjust to seeing us together. They are good kids, and we all get along like one big happy family now. I have had a little boy, who is now aged 1 and they love their little brother to bits. We have the kids every weekend, and the rest of the time they live with their mum. It all sounds ...  Read the complete review

I got to know my future step son whilst working with his grandad, I would baby sit him a few times while his dad went out as he stayed with his dad at weekend's, and eventually I started a relationship with his dad. I knew my step son had a lot of hard times as a child as his parents had a messy split and there were rumours that he wasn't treated as he should of been, his clothes were dirty and he was always hungry when he came from his mum's. Before I was in a relationship I got on really well with him and became really close to him, he was 2 years old at the time and I would take him to the park and play football in the garden with him and he ...  Read the complete review

My story is spread over 16 years. In 1992 I was separated when I met my current husband. At the time my 2 children were nearly 7 and 4. My new partner had 2 children from a previous marriage aged 6 and 5 who lived with their parents. After dating for about 3 months my new partner moved in with me and my children. At that stage the children's father who had set up home with another woman, was having regular contact with them. We have my partner's 2 children every weekend and they came to stay regularly. Every year we all went on holiday together and we got on really well. We married in 1996. There were difficulties with my first husband over contact when he would ...  Read the complete review

I met a man a few years ago and we got together. He came with a son who we welcomed into our home, he also has two other sons who live with their mother. The son who came to live with us destroyed any trust any of us had in him, he simulated oral sex on my two youngest boys, stole from us and treated us like absolute crap. He eventually went to live with his mother to everyones relief and due to the thing she had done i will not have him in my home near my kids. My partners other two kids only seem to want money, this means that my kids have to give up what little they do have, i just don' think this is fair and i'm really resenting the situation, we never see the other 2 boys either and they have no interest.

I first met my step children when they were aged eight and five and we have been together as a family for ten years! Throughout that time, as with all families, there have been both highs and lows, but generally for me, the experience of being a step parent has been very positive. When their Dad and I first started seeing each other they were very excited that Daddy had got a girlfriend and wanted to do everything with me. I think that when they realised that I was becoming a permanent fixture that insecurites started to set in and that was the most testing time! They became quite possessive of their Dad and wanted to do things exclusively with him. However, ...  Read the complete review