i want my real mum back (Bonding With Step-Children)

Member Name: ginger69

Product:	Bonding With Step-Children
Date:	12/05/05 (463 review reads)
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Advantages: some step chidren can be very loving and accept you

Disadvantages: they can drive you totally crazy, it can be very stressful

I've kown my partner for seventeen years, we met in the T.A we were both medics, we ended up going our seperate ways for a while but for years ago we met up again he had been married and had a son he and had spent alot of time traveling with the army. When we met up again he moved in with me after about six months an we've never looked back. My problem started when his son started to come down and stay for visits he hated me and blamed me for his mum and dads split up although i was no where about when that happened. Then a year ago he cam to live with us, we found out that his mum had not been looking after him properly she was leaving him at home on his own she was giving him bacon sandwiches for his dinner and she did'nt care if he went to school or not' then she tried to top herself'we discovered this was the third time that she had tryed so my partners son was removed from his mother and given to his dad with access aranged so he could still see his mum. He has never fogiven us for bringing him to our home as it is quite a distance from his mother. She lives in the north of England and we live in the south, he blames me and his dad for him being with ushe does not see that his mum has done anything wrong. He actually watched what his mother did which was taking drug with drink which landed her in hospital, he thinks that we are cruel and mean because we won't let him go back to live with his mum, his done everything posible to encourage us to send him back and believe me i've come very close, as i am his main carer because dad works so he directs alot of stuff at me. He has done things like wiping poo on the toilet wall, deliberately weeing on the floor and all over the toilet, to wetting the bed on purpose and alot of other extemly annoying things. Ive had to learn to grit my teeth with him because his behavour is down to his mother, she never set no bounderies and let him do what he wanted to do, he found my house a little hard to settle into as he did'nt get his own way here he had set times and he ate proper and regular meals. His eased off a bit on me with some of the discusting stuff he did that was only because i started to make him clean it up himself he did not like that so he stopped. We still have bad days but until he comes to terms with the fact that he is staying with us and not going back to his mum his not going to totally calm down. he most certainly has turned my world upside down.

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