Your not my mum? (Bonding With Step-Children)

Member Name: emma150

Product:	Bonding With Step-Children
Date:	05/05/04 (431 review reads)
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Advantages: An extended family.

Disadvantages: Hard., Children can hate you.

Imagine a child telling you it hates you or you broke there parents up would you sit and take this? Well thats what been a step parent is all about children can be very hurtful but thats all they are children it is normal for them to express anger towards you and resent you after all you split there parents up or so they see it that way. I know I dont like my step mum there are so many boundries you cannot cross as they are not your children and your not there parent. I have three soon to be step children aged 13 11 and 9 they have always treated me with respect never back chatted and been great with my children there siblings. I buy them presents for christmas and there birthdays I try to involve them in our life the only problem I have is there mum who resents me and thinks I want to be there mum. Why would I want to when I have 4 children of my own I just want to be a friend to them. Someone they can talk to I dont know what I would do if they were cheeky towards me I would probably let there father deal with them after all who am I to tell them what they can and cannot do im not there mother. Sometimes step children can be very hard to deal with but you have to remember they have feelings and they are probably hurting what child wants to see its parents split up and fight over them but talk to them tell them you dont want to take anyones place let them know your there if ever they need someone to talk to This can maybe help you build bridges if they live with you try not to be hard on them as they are having to adjust just like you are and its harder for a child and most of all let them know they are still loved and always will be even though mummy and daddy dont love each other any more they will always love the child.

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