effects of divorce (Children & Divorce)

Member Name: sparky111

Product:	Children & Divorce
Date:	19/10/08 (84 review reads)
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This is my account of divorce both as a child and an adult as my parents divorced and i am now seperated from my husband too.

I was about 5 when my parents divorced, i dont really remember the actual split, i just remember my dad picking me up at weekends and taking me to his new home.

I was very close to my dad and looked forward to his "visits" but used to get very upset when it was time to go home, each time he left i was heartbroken, i even got close to his new partner and missed her when i went home, my mother also met a new man.

Once my mum had a new partner things changed, and in the end as i was getting so upset on each visit my dad allowed my mothers new partner to adopt me, he thought my life would be happier, i was 6 at the time, it was the worst thing he could do, my stepfather was awfull, and i no longer have contact with my mother, we lost touch in my teens, and havnt seen her since

As i grew older i knew i wanted to get back in touch with my dad and it took some years but i got there, i was 24 when i regained contact with him, and so glad i did we are so alike in many ways, and the love i had for him as a child was still there, i dont blame him for how things turned out he was trying to do the best for me.

Whilst in contact with my dad i introduced him to my fiance who i met when i was 22, they got on really well.

My wedding day arrived, my dad didnt give me away though as i hadnt been back in touch that long and had already asked a close friend to do it, it took me such a long time to say yes to marriage and would not have children until i was, so in the end i loved and trusted my partner enough that i said yes.

We married when i was 26 and i was happy with my decision to get married, we then bought a house and then went on to have a child, it was the happiest period of my life.

Then it all started going wrong, the arguments started and we seperated shortly after for various reasons, my worst nightmare had come true, it was my parents all over again, it was awfull.

In the end my friends helped me get through it, and i picked myself up, and brought my child up the best to my ability we are so very close and im a lot stronger a person for it, and me and my ex are friends now for the sake of our child, you have to make the best of a difficult situation

Summary: there is a light at the end of the tunnel