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Children & Divorce
Member Name: theoffical
Children & Divorce
Advantages: Sometimes better
Children and divorce are two things that just dont go together. When I was 13, my parents divorced, and it competely destroyed me. For a while, I went off the rails, and got into a lot of trouble, both in school and out of it. Looking back, I think that I could have handled the situation a lot better, and I suppose at the time, I kind of blamed myself, even though their seperation has nothing to with the way I was. My sister took quite well, but she was much older than me, and if I am honest, she was the one that got me through it and made me realise that my parents were different people and couldnt be together any more. My brother was only 4 when my parents divorced, so he didnt know what was happening. Luckily, my dad only moved around town, so we still got to see him a lot.
This was the only upside to this divorce. It must have been the most peaceful divorce ever, and now my parents get on better than they did in the last years of their marriage. Both my mam and my dad got remarried, none of their parents I really got along with but you have to learn to live with change, it is a way of life. I suppose that if this situation ever comes up, you need to make sure that you protect your children, and make sure than they know that they didnt do anything wrong, and didnt cause any harm.
It is a lot for a child to deal with, especially at such a young age, so take their feelings into consideration. You need to work out what you are going to do, and more importantly, how you are going to break the news. God forbid this situation ever comes up in my house, I dont know how I would handle it. I look back now, and I realise it was better for everyone.
Summary: Need to handle it carefully