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Children & Divorce
Member Name: katyboo123
Children & Divorce
Date: 24/11/09, updated on 07/02/10 (106 review reads)
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One thing which I hope is prevalent in my review writing is that my family mean the absolute world to me. My parents have passed their values to me and they have shaped the person that I am today. I watch programs like Supernanny and I see how children behave, I just know I wouldn't have dared to behave that way for my parents... make no mistake, we were dysfunctional in our own ways, but I think having a family, whether that be your blood relatives, parents, spouse, offspring, siblings, or whether it's a step family, or whether it's a home made family of people you care about and cohabit with, then I think everyone needs one for personal development and to make them in to an emotionally stable person.
Meet my family:
Mam (Carole), Dad (Steve), Sister (Sarah) + Dog (Rusty). Skoda on the drive and 2 bed semi in a nice part of the town.
I wasn't allowed to watch trainspotting until I was 18. Growing up my parents weren't strict as such, but they believed certain things were not suitable for children's eyes. I couldn't stay out after 11pm even at 18 while I was living at home, I wasn't allowed a key to the house until I turned 18 and my parents would still wait up for me on a night to get in. No partner's could stay over, they would have to take the couch. For a treat on birthday's and other seldom occuring occassions we were allowed a McDonald's, the rest of the time it was home cooked food with plenty of vegetables and proteins. This regime sadly did not extend to protection for me and my sister against witnessing bitter and twisted arguments and conflict between the two of them.
We were absolutely showered in love, we never had anything but never wanted either; one of my earliest memories was going to my Nanna's for tea and my Mam eating pilchards on toast for weeks, my Dad just surviving on coffee and toast - I didn't realise it at the time, but this was because they couldn't afford to even have the heating on for us in winter! We got 2nd hand toys for Christmas and we wore cast offs and hand me downs. We could never go on school trips unless my Grandparents paid. We both knew and still know the value of things and are really appreciative even if we don't get very much for a Christmas gift or Birthday, we still love the little things. We were never spoilt, I started working in a bed linen shop at 13 and I bought my own uniforms for school, gave my Mam a couple of quid when I could for her Take a Break magazine and I treat my little sister to sweets all of the time. I never got Nike Air Max trainers handed to me on a plate, or anything of the other fads that came and went, I would have to work to buy them things.
Settling down so young, having two little girls a couple of years apart, working 3 jobs a piece to make ends meet, over so many years led my parents to resent each other and for about 3 years they screamed at each other and tore one another apart until in the end, they decided to call it a day and go their separate ways. We were all devastated. Dad did what any man would do in his situation and moved out so that Mam could stay in their home with us - he didn't want it to end, it was more my Mam in the end. He moved in to a bedsit and I would go round and help him cook and clean. Eventually our lovely family home was sold and all our memories left behind as we moved on to a new life.
Ironically this was the time Pink released Family Portrait.
Mam and Boyfriend Simon
Dad and Wife Sandy, Step Brothers Guy and Wesley
Sarah now living with Paul and baby nephew Aiden
So my Dad met up with his first girlfriend from school at their reunion and decided to marry her. She has two children, boys, Wesley is 21 and Guy is about 14. My Dad always puts me and my sister first, and we always get made exactly the same all of us. He makes a big effort to text me almost every day and he remains good friends with my Mam.
Mam has a boyfriend called Simon who she met on an internet site for Pet lovers. Sad I know. But I am not ashamed, they met as singletons to have some company when walking their dogs, safely. They still don't live together, he just stays on a weekend and a couple of nights every other week (depending on his shift pattern at work). He is generous and kind and he bends over backward for me, my Mam and my sister.
Then Sarah went on a date a couple of years ago and ended up staying over at the boys house, she never came home! They have a baby now and she is an amazing mother, which I guess reflects the way in which we were brought up.
I have many morals and I have many opinions largely influenced by my parents - not all good, for example I do not agree with arguing in front of people - no matter whether they are your children or just people in the pub. I don't think you should inflict your pain and heartache on others. I do however believe that you should work hard at a relationship, perhaps if my parents went to see a relationship counsellor they could have worked it all out. I can't list all my beliefs here, but I live by the values and morals instilled in me by family. Family is the single most important thing to me, I would die for my parents or my sister - I certainly wouldn't bite kick punch and scream obscenities at them as you see in Supernanny! :o)
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