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Colic was the 2nd worst thing I went through, the first was a drug free birth (take the drugs ladies!). He got it around 3 weeks old and it continued through to about 3 months. Oh the crying. So much crying.
I do not know if its exhausation but I have a very scarce memory of those first 3 months (many of my friends do too.). I do remember crying once. Just holding him at 5am, incredibly sleep deprived and crying. His Dad is a great guy to me but he was not an involved parent for the first year. As far as he was concerned Tyler was my job. Hes great now but God the first year I could of done with some support!
Nothing really got rid of colic. A few things helped me and I will share them just incase they help any other poor frazzled mother.
This does NOT work immediatly. You need to use it consistently before seeing any results. A few of my friends who used it gave up after using it just a few times. Thats not how infacol works.
This calmed Tyler so much. Infact this is how he slept at night for 5 months (thats the age he learnt to break out). Swaddling definitly calmed him and made him feel secure.
A WARM BATH
When all else failed a warm bath usually calmed Tyler down. To this day hes a real water baby and loves being in the bath (and now he's older in swimming or paddling pools) I very rarely had to deal with tears at bathtime (except when it comes to hairwashing these days!).
A BABY SWING
This is the BEST thing I ever had. Whenever I think of it I remember the night Tyler was up ALL night crying, refusing to sleep. Then i put him in his swing. The swing clicked with every swing and I found it hard to sleep with a noise but i dropped straight off. Those were the best 2 hours sleep of my entire life.
White noise is like a hairdryer, a vaccumm cleaner etc. When i did a hoover in the day, Tyler always dropped off. Unfortunatly when your colicy baby is upset at 2am your neighbours won't appreciate you in getting a bit of housework done. Luckily youtube has many white noise videos, my favourite was a video called "baby got colic" id play it through whilst cuddling a swaddled tyler. 95% of the time he was asleep way before 10 minutes of this noise.
Those were the only methods that worked for me and I did try quite a few. Of course its worth trying anything, all babies are different and what works for some may not work for you and vice versa.
Its important to remember babies do pick up on your stress. There is NOTHING WRONG with leaving your colicy baby crying for 5 minutes while you have a drink (tea, not vodka!) and turn on the radio. It is better that you leave them for 5 minutes then getting worked up yourself.
A support network is pretty important too, a few times I had my partners mum come over for an hour or so to help or even take him out for a little bit. Its not easy to do on your own and you should never struggle if you dont have to.
A lot of babies get colic, thats just the way it is, with any luck it will be gone by 3 months (when you've only dealt with it 2 weeks and you get told it'll be gone by 3 months it feels ages away but it really isn't!) And if your baby has it. Good luck! I hope you find a few of your own methods which work for you and baby!
I now have a toddler but I very clearly remember those jagged edge newborn days where day and night didn't meet like they do now - they just merged.
I had a relatively short enough labour (19 and a half hours) and apart from a few health complications, everything worked out okay. At the hospital I tore so bad that it took them three hours to stitch me up. Without numbing me :/. I remember passing out several times, coming to and then feeling the pain and pull of a stitch and would pass out again. And after this one of the horrible midwives poking around my bum and saying "Oh you have a massive pile here! DOES THAT HURT?" So I told her in no uncertain terms should she or one of her colleagues prod me like that again that I would do a roundhouse kick to the face :). She sheepishly moved out of the room and I didn't see hide nor hair of her again.
In hospital most of the mothers on the ward all chose to bottle feed their babies. I remember feeling embarrassed about my choice to breastfeed and I would partition myself off by closing the curtain around my bed when it was feeding time - over time and with hindsight I should have been happy I was able and willing to breastfeed, rather than feel ashamed of myself. I definitely feel that I was a touch depressed after my baby came along, I felt so detached from him at times and found myself feeding him because no one else was going to do it but me.
My midwife came round the next morning and gave me to usual spiel they give to mothers who breastfeed; 'don't give the baby a dummy, they'll get nipple confusion. Don't give them a bottle. Make sure you have a good latch...' and so on. Well, I broke all the rules. When we got home my mum took the baby over night, bringing him into me for feeding. This meant that through the night he'd be up howling and screaming - and the only thing that soothed him was a dummy. Again, with hindsight, this makes me feel like an awful human being. But I will say in my defence that I was very close to an edge with my depression at this point and sleep was paramount to keeping the scraps of whatever sanity I had left so although my son suffered through that night it meant that I could keep my depression under some kind of control and not completely spiral.
On top of the dummy I decided to try expressing some milk. By this point my son was feeding anywhere between every 20-40 mins and taking an hour or so to feed. We had a bad latch - something my nursing aunt picked up on and helped me through - and this was causing him to not get enough milk and therefore feel satisfied, but not for very long. The feedings were overwhelming me and I felt like all I was good for was for a feed.
My son has always been close to his dad, my husband, and this has been the case from birth. I remember trying to rock my son to sleep and he'd just cry and cry. When my husband took our son it seemed to calm him completely. This was probably a lot to do with my own tensions but I couldn't help but feel I wasn't useful unless it was for milk.
Two weeks after my son was born it was mine and my husbands first wedding anniversary and everyone was telling me I needed to go out. Of course I really didn't want too but I felt like I should, just to prove I wasn't depressed. Both my aunt and my mum - who has 4 children herself - were there, as well as my younger brother who is a dab hand with children but I still felt uneasy about going out. Like I said, I wanted to prove I wasn't depressed so I agreed to go out.
So I expressed a little of my breast-milk, put it into a bottle and stored it in the fridge - at this point our feedings had settled a little to every two hours so I would feed my son right before we left, he could have milk while I was out and he'd be okay until we got back. We were very lucky that our local cinema was a 5 minute walk from our old flat and this is the main reason why I agreed to go out - if they needed me I would just dart out of the cinema and run home. We went to see our film, rushed home when it was done and my son was very unsettled when I got home.
He had finished the bottle - about an hour after we'd left he'd started to cry. I learned then that a baby being unsettled isn't necessarily a hunger thing but that they take comfort in their mothers breast. I was annoyed no one had called me and that night was horrendous. He was up the whole night screaming his head off. By 5am I worked out it might be colic and jumped onto Google. The only thing I could see to give him would be Infacol.
I messaged a good friend of mine who had 2 children and asked about Infacol. She said it was the best invention since sliced bread (or words to that effect.) At this time I was a bit of a hippy about medicines and a bit skeptical of medicines in general so I put off buying Infacol for a few days. By the third night I couldn't take it any longer and so my husband bought Infacol. Well...my son woke for the odd feed but he was settled, quiet and seemed happier - and slept until 10am where he would usually wake up at 6-7am.
The Infacol seemed to work a treat, which kept everyone happy. I would definitely recommend using Infacol for a colicky baby - it worked wonders on my son - and I would say try to avoid giving a bottle to a breastfed baby as it does seem to induce their colic as they tend to suck in a lot of air from the bottle. However, in reality, this isn't always possible and so Infacol can work miracles :).
If you're suffering through this, I feel for you. Having been there myself I know it's not easy - but it also doesn't last forever. It will pass and get easier. Go easy on yourself, allow yourself some mistakes and don't blame yourself - a lot of babies suffer from colic, it is common and although it's not nice for both parties, it will pass.
my 7 month old Daughter had bad colic when she was younger. I began giving her Infacol and she was passing wind perfectly until she had an upset stomach and ended up running her down the emergency doctors, where we later found out she was a little colic and had reflux problems.
she is a very healthy baby but does get these little bouts of colic here and there still, she will bring her legs up when crying, pass wind while crying and just cry for no reason at all for longer periods than normal.
there is a solution though! the baby colic massage. After my midwife last visited at 4 months, she referred Angel to a colic nurse, and a date was set up to when the nurse would come to our house and show me how to do the colic massage. It's a very simple massage and luckily Angel loves massage time!! (we do it daily) it helps to pull funny faces and talk to them when you are doing it because it keeps them calm so the massage can take full effect.
There are many websites about that will be able to give you the ways of doing the colic massage. it's best done with baby oil or right after a bath because they are warm and it's easier to pass wind that way.
even though the crying is scary, just remember - they're not in no harm, they just have trapped wind and with a few rubs of the back and belly they will be perfectly fine,:)
I gave birth to my first son after 90hours in labour and an assisted birth. Joshua was born at a huge 8lb 10oz. We got him home and thought the next few months would be blissful - we were in for a big shock.
For the first 2weeks Joshua was such a good baby, I breast fed him for the first feed but after that I was so exhausted I could hardly hold him let alone feed him so, as dreadful as I'm sure some people will think it is, I bottle fed him. He took to it all like he had been doing it forever and we had no problems getting the milk in to him, getting the wind out became harder as the days went on but I was assured this was normal and told to just persevere.
Literally 2weeks to the day he was born my sweet little baby boy turned in to the spawn of Satan himself, he would cry constantly from 6pm till 9pm and nothing could soothe him. The Health Visitor said it was colic and not to worry it is perfectly normal, I was told to give him Infacol with every feed because it would help to bring his wind up. This seemed to only make him worse! Our dream of bliss soon turned in to a nightmare and as is with all newborn babies my son would only want me to hold him. We tried soft rocking, lavender candles, cold milk, warm milk, infacol, detinox, classical music, walks around the block, car drives, walking him up and down the house, holding him in every position imaginable, lying him flat...everything and NOTHING helped. It really was just a case of waiting it out. One night he went from 5pm to midnight and it was that bad we phoned the NHS helpline and ended up taking him to Primary Care, when we got there he stopped and fell asleep. This was the worst day and sticks in my mind quite clearly. It is the only time I broke down crying and had to leave Joshua with my Mom.
It is hard enough having your first child, you feel so alone and a complete wreck physically and emotionally but to have to deal with a baby with colic adds so much extra stress. I became withdrawn and couldn't hold conversations with people, I couldn't make any decisions and felt like a robot. After 2months of dealing with the awful screaming and being unable to do anything to help I went to see a different Health Visitor who suggested something called Colief. I was willing to try anything and went to the pharmacy to buy it straight away. It cost about £10 for a ridiculously small bottle, my Health Visitor said to get it on prescription but I would have had to wait to get an appointment so I just paid full price for it. You have to put two drops in every bottle an hour before they drink them and I think it breaks down the lactose in the milk making it easier to digest. I'm not sure if it was the Colief or the fact that Joshua was getting over it anyway but his colic started to abate, he was bringing more wind up and rather than having the 3hour crying sessions every night they were now 3-4 times a week - hallelujah! By the time Joshua a bit over 3months there was no more colic attacks and we had all started to breathe easily again and enjoy being new parents, normality had been restored!
When I found out I was pregnant with my second child people always asked if I wanted a boy or a girl, my answer was always the same....I just want a baby who is healthy and doesn't get colic. Luckily for us, the second one didn't get it.
If anyone is dealing with this I would suggest trying Colief (get it on prescription) and just keep in mind it will stop eventually. The hardest part is not being able to take the pain away. Joshua is 4 now and he is as healthy as can be, the only thing that might be a side effect is that he is a Mommys boy through and through...not the worst of side effects!
My much talked about daugher in my reviews had colic as a baby, and without doubt you learn to know what desparation feels like. On a previous review regarding SMA formula milk I wrote that i was advise to stop using this as sometimes the animal fats within it can be problematic and switch to farleys made with vegetable fats.
I also switched to using the Dr Brown bottles, now these were pricey I couldn't quote the latest price my daughter is 6 now, and to be honest I don't know if they work or if they are just a placebo, but when you are desparate you will try anything. If you are going to contemplate using them - steal some time to fathom out how you will get all the bits in your steriliser rather than wait until your desparate. I didn't use the teats that came with them though instead using the Avent ones as they have 0 month, 1 month, 3 month teats which means they have to work at getting the milk out as opposed to a larger teat which must to a baby be like just drinking a bottle of cola in one (think about it - would you feel bloated or belch).
Staying on the theme of thinking about ourselves, my health visitor said to me - would you lie down to eat? No, so don't lie your baby down sit them up to give a bottle, she also advised me to stop half way through and wind until a belch came, then finish the bottle and wind again until a belch came. She advised me that technique played as much a part as changing milk and bottles and spending abit longer winding was worth it - for not having to spend all night awake.
I did all of these things and within a week everything was back under control - the latter two points though I feel were hugely important. SMA I am not a big fan of and have said in my other review that any formula milk provider that has its own colic helpline should be viewed with some scepticism.
If your baby has colic you have nothing to lose by trying them sitting up and winding them twice - so give it a go.
Colic is a very difficult thing to diagnose. In fact, many doctors deny that it exists. Colic is a catch all phrase for a baby this is crying uncontrollably and will not stop no matter what you do. For many people, they think of colic as trapped wind.
I am a great believer in the philosophy that human babies are born too early because they would get too big to come out if they stayed inside the mother any longer. Due to our superior intelligence, our heads are bigger than the birth canal. Very few animals in the wild are as vulnerable as a human baby when they are born. I therefore think that we must replicate the womb as much as possible in the early weeks. It is important to swaddle, to carry them in a sling, the made loud white noises and to have lots of skin to skin contact. If none of these work then I know a few friends who have resorted to cranial osteotherapy that has worked wonders and helped their babies to go right through the night from the first treatment.
In all honesty, we were VERY fortunate that our baby is a dream and settles well and is content playing by himself for short periods. However, like all babies he gets trapped wind and sometimes just gets overtired and overstimulated and everything gets a bit too much and he cries. A good hearty cuddle and a walk around while talking or singing will always do the trick. We also tried gripe water which worked for the wind.
Sometimes though the crying is just too much and you don't know what to do or where to turn. Try crysis. They are great. http://www.cry-sis.org.uk/
Our little girl started with Colic, I would say from 1 week old. As soon as she was born her eyes were rolling and she was blowing bubbles...both signs of wind.Our first night at home (2 days old) she was screaming and we didn't know why.
By the end of her first week she was so unsetteled and so began Colic. We had nights of no sleep, I would be on the phone to my mum at 6.30 in the morning whilst hubby was driving her down the motorway and I was asking my mum if she will watch her so I can get some sleep. My mum was a godsend from this time.
She would cry from 4pm until 11.30pm nearly everynight, on the other nights it would go on all night. She would just cry and cry and at the beginning there was nothing we could do to help her. I didn't know it was colic until I started reading up on it. She would just be kicking her legs upto her tummy and back out again, arching her back. I can honestly say it was the hardest time of my life, seeing your baby so upset and you don't know what to do to help her.
When I eventually figured out it was colic I called my aunty who's little boy had also really suffered. She brought me her Baby Bjorn carrier as Alice just wanted to be upright on my chest all the time. This way she could be like that and i could get stuff done. She also reccomended Colief drops for her bottle. The next day we went out to buy them, £10 for a teeny tiny bottle but we were prepared to pay anything if it made her better and we all got some sleep. Straight away they worked! I was so relieved, then 4 days later they just stopped! This was the night of no sleep and sending her off to her grandparents at 6.30 in the morning. Nothing worked, infacol, colief and I couldnt get gripe water down her. I took her to the Dr and he thought the colic had brought on reflux which was why she was so bad.
Eventually we worked out a routine with her colic, we would bath her, give her a massage rub her tummy and cycle her legs, I put some gripe water in some cooled boiled water in a bottle and we would rock her "upside down" in our arms - her head facing down in the crook of our elbows. We also used a vibrating bouncer, a swing, the pram and when it got too much we took her for a drive in the car. All this worked but it was hard work. In the end i got to my wits end and took her to a cranial osteopath. The first session was very interesting, Alice got stuck in labour and her head was very bruised afterwards. The osteopath told me her skull was still a bit out on the left handside (which it is I can feel it, its not noticeable but it is to me) and babies like to suck to remould their skulls after their birth. She reccomended I use a cherry soother (one of the big round ones) for her as they are better. She cried all the way through the first session but when we got home she slept for hours. The next few days I could see a slight improvement. She had her second appointment the week after, she was very calm and afterwards again slept for a while. She improved so much, I never took her to another appointment. She was 6 weeks old when we started it, by 9 weeks she was loads better and was sleeping through the night (she had slept through the night before this but only from 11pm) by 12 weeks she was in her own room sleeping 7-7.
I will be more prepared with my next baby and I know what to expect. But figuring out what was wrong really ruined my first few weeks with my new baby.
My top tips for dealing with it are:
Try infacol first, this just made my baby constipated but I know it works for a lot of them.
I changed my daughters milk to Cow and Gate comfort, to help with the reflux as she was very sickly but as it is easy digest it shouldn't give them bad wind.
A dummy really helps a colicky baby.
Colief does help some people, but it is expensive.
Try different bottles, we started off with Avent bottles, these were no good so I tried Dr Browns which were specifically made for colic. These were my biggest waste of money. In the end I tried a Tommee Tippee Closer to nature bottle that I had in my cupboard all along and this worked.
Gripe water is amazing stuff when you can get it down them. Putting it in some water in a bottle is a good solution.
Baths and baby massage. I couldn't get on my baby massage course but when my Health Visitor came round and I told her how bad it was she asked her colleague to come to my house to show me the technique. It helped Alice's colic and it was a lovely bonding time for us both. A bath warmer than it should be (obviously not TOO hot you dont want to scald your baby) was good for Alice she loved it and I guess it helped her tummy.
If it gets too much, speak to people. If you are ever loosing your temper, put your baby down in their cot - it wont do them any harm. And go and spend 5 minutes in another room have a cry if it helps. If you need to speak to someone try Cry-sis http://www.cry-sis.org.uk/ Or if you are lucky enough (like I was) to have a mum who is very understanding phone them. Mine had lots of 1am phonecalls of me crying.
And the biggest thing to remember - It does end! It might not be that magical 3 month mark but eventually it will go and when it does you feel proud of yourself for getting through it.
Firstly I will explain what colic is: it is when a baby cries uncontrollably for a long time and for no apparent reason. No matter how hard you try to comfort them they carry on crying. Experts think that one of the main factors that could cause colic is trapped wind but this hasn't been proven. Most babies grow out of colic after a few months.
When my girls were a few months old they suffered from colic, it was only for 10 days, but it was horrible. For some reason they would suffer from it at the same time every night it used to be from 9pm to 12pm. It was horrible as they would scream like they were in so much pain. There face would go red and they would lift there legs up and there hands would clench up and there stomach would tense. I hated every minute of it. We were staying at my mum and dads at the time and they helped loads all we could really do was cuddle them and try to reassure them they were alright. One thing we found that did slightly help them was Infacol and grip water. Which helps bring up trapped wind, they seemed to calm down slightly but still didn't stop crying completely. To our relief after 10 days they stopped having colic it just passed over and they stopped screaming.
It makes yourself feel so horrible when they have colic, as you can see there in so much pain and you can't help them. I've only got a couple tips when you give them there bottles make sure there well winded. If they do start to suffer from colic just be there for them don't ignore there crying hold them and talk to them. If they are suffering really bad from it then take them to the doctors, and they will be able to give you some advice or medicine for your child. I just hope your baby doesn't have it for long and remember it's not your fault
Colic, the word alone is enough to send shivers down my spine and I am sure that any parents out there that have had to deal with a colicky baby will be well aware of what I am talking about! My five month old son, Rhys suffered with colic from the age of 3 weeks up until he was 12 weeks old and I have to say that those 9 weeks were the longest 9 weeks of my life!
Nobody really knows what causes colic; this is why there is no cure to treat it, although there are some treatments on the market that can help to ease the symptoms for some babies. Colic is described as uncontrollable crying in a baby when there is no known cause for it, it can start from when a baby is a few weeks old and usually goes on for about 3 or 4 months. Health professionals think that colic is due to the digestive system not being fully mature and think that trapped gas or wind causes discomfort in the baby which in turn causes the colic and the crying, but there is no evidence to prove this theory. It is also thought that colic may be due to lactose intolerance, or that your baby is highly sensitive to its surroundings but again, there is no evidence to prove these theories. The long and short of it is that nobody knows what causes colic, it is just one of those awful things that as parent, some of us have to live with until it has worked its way out of your baby's system.
Colic is said to be worse in late evenings where your baby could scream for 2 or 3 hours non stop, I have to say that Rhys suffered with it all throughout the day up until bed time, not just at night so every baby suffers differently with it. I wished that Rhys would have just cried on an evening but we were one of the unlucky one's!
Although colic isnt thought to be due to pain, when your baby is crying they may seem uncomfortable or look as if they are in pain. When Rhys used to cry, his little face used to screw up and go bright red and he would draw his legs right up, as if he had trapped wind.
As previously mentioned, there are is no cure or treatment for colic but there are medicines available that may help your baby. Unfortunately nothing helped Rhys but we tried everything that was available!!
There is Infacol and gripe water, these are medicines you give your child before each feed and they are meant to help to break down the trapped wind and help the baby to release it easier. Neither of these helped Rhys at all so we then tried a medicine called Colief, this works by breaking down the lactose in your baby's formula in case your baby is lactose intolerant, again this didn't work either and for a tiny bottle of Colief, it cost £10, so I am glad we didn't have to buy anymore!! I even tried changing his formula in case he was reacting badly to the formula he was on, but nothing helped to ease the crying.
The final thing i tried was cranial osteopathy; this is an alternative treatment that is believed to help. Osteopaths believe that when a baby is born, the labour is so traumatic to the baby that it disrupts the flow of cranial fluid up and down the spinal cord; they believe that this is what causes the colic. By administering cranial osteopathy this is believed to balance out the cranial fluid, therefore cure your baby. I must add that each half hour treatment cost £30, so this isnt a cheap solution. Rhys had four treatments and I have to say that he did seem to improve slightly each week, but then I had the doubts in my head wondering whether it was the osteopathy that was helping him, or was it just a case of him getting older and healing himself? I therefore deiced to stop the treatment as by this point Rhys was 10 weeks old and I simply could not justify paying out any more money for it.
The only things that helped to calm Rhys down when he was crying was his vibrating bouncing chair, I think the vibrations soothed him enough to get him to sleep. We also used to take him out for walks in his pushchair as the motion would again send him to sleep, plus lots of cuddles helped sometimes. No matter how bad our day was though, the crying would stop as soon as Rhys had his bath at 7pm, I think the water used to also soothe him. He would then have his feed and go straight to sleep and not wake up again until his next feed was due!
Rhys reached 12 weeks old and as if by magic the crying suddenly stopped! It was as if someone had pressed the off button and the colic instantly disappeared! He was still quite temperamental but this was nothing compared to the constant crying we had endured since he was three weeks old.
Whilst pregnant, I had visions of what having a baby would be like, this gorgeous little baby that only cried when he was hungry or tired and would be good as gold for me, what I actually got was quite the opposite. I cannot put into words how stressful and terrible the period of time was that we lived with colic; I wouldn't wish colic upon my worst enemy. No first time parent expects to have a baby with colic and when it suddenly happened to us I found myself wondering what we had done to deserve it. I felt alone, lost, desperate and most of all felt like a useless mother and felt like I was letting my son down as I couldn't stop him crying, a new Mother shouldn't feel like this, they should be elated and over joyed at having a new baby in their lives, but this wasn't the case for me. Don't get me wrong the colic never stopped me loving Rhys; in fact I probably loved him more as all I wanted to do was cuddle him to take away his pain.
Rhys is now almost 5 months old and I am pleased to say that the pain of living with colic is a fading memory, just like childbirth and having a tattoo; you always forget about the pain and end up doing it again!! Rhys is a gorgeous, smiley little boy who seems to be growing so quickly and surprises me with a new trick every day, I am very pleased that the colic didn't affect him in any way. Only now do I even consider maybe having another baby in the future, if you would have asked me if I would have another baby when Rhys was 7 weeks old and the colic was at its worst, my answer would have been 'NO WAY'!!!
To anyone out there with a child suffering with colic, I completely sympathise with you and believe me you are not alone, no matter how bad it feels at the moment. I know that none of the treatments worked for me, but give them a go as they may work for your little one. Another point I will make is don't be afraid or too proud to ask people for help, you will definitely need it with a baby that cries all time. My saving grace was the support I had from my husband, family and friends, they all rallied round to help as much as they could and often took Rhys off my hands for an hour or so just to let me keep my sanity!! My final point is to say that it doesn't last forever, I know this is a cliché and when your baby is only 6 weeks old, to think that you have to wait another 6 weeks for them to get to 12 weeks seems like a lifetime away. Honestly, the time will come when your baby will be full of smiles for you, without a tear in sight!!