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Member Name: finnsmummy
Date: 03/11/09, updated on 03/11/09 (337 review reads)
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My hospital birth
I am writing this review as honest as I can be, im not wishing to scare anyone or slate any of the hospital staff but on my opinion my son's birth was a sham.
This review is open in my view of events and rather long! (sorry if you do read all this you need a medal)
I was induced at Frimley hospital on the 30th December 2007, because I had gestational diabetes he had to be born on or very close to his due date.
I had, had a previous 'run in' with the hospital after I had a 24 week scan , I was told that my son had situs inversus , a congenital condition in which the major visceral organs are reversed or mirrored from their normal positions. It was all a wirl wind they took me to a room offered me tea and my mother in law who was with me (my husband was currently serving in Iraq at the time) I was crying the m.i.l was crying they told me they could not facilitate the birth at the hospital and I would have to go to st Thomas and guys in London. The nurse was quite nice but I was very upset and I rember just screaming '' IS MY BABY BOY GOING TO DIE!!!!'' to which she replied I cant answer that I don't know all the facts.
They told me to go for a ''walk'' (Yeh cus I really need a trip to the park in this state'' and come back in an hour when the main consultant could rescan me and tell me more.
That hour was a life time I phoned my mum and cried and cried ,I could not even contact my husband at this point so he was unaware of the drama unfolding. ( just to say now im sorry to any one that saw me that day out side the hospital I must have looked a state)
So after an hour I went back had to wait a further 30 mins in the waiting room in front of all the women coming for scans ,my heart was breaking the little boy inside me gave me a nudge to remind me all was not lost he was still there and I loved him more then ever.
We were finally taken back to the scan room the consultant greeted us and told me to lay down and do the usual (show off ur flattering and rather sexy stretch marks NICE) he asked if it was ok for the women who had done my scan that morning to be in the room as well (why not hay invite the whole bloody world in for all I cared at this point)
After scanning me for about 5 mins looking dead at the screen said ' all ok''
Just like that and laugh. My baby was absolutely healthy!!! I was so relived so happy ,then the anger set in. The women who had done my previous scan left the room quick hast at this stage.
I was still in a state of shock , I rember muttering under my breath something along the lines of incompetent idiots.
About a week later I received a letter from the head of the department apologizing for the ''event' and that was about it really In a way im sort of glad my husband was away because he would have gone mad.
So after this I was sure (as it was on my records) that they might just treat me a little bit better when it came to the birth how wrong could I have been.........
I was induced at 9 o'clock in the evening on a ward with 5 other women at various stages of pregnancy. My husband was told to leave about 20 mins later leaving me very upset I understood he couldn't stay but I was just a little shaken an induction isn't the most pleasant things to have done.
After that I was left and about 10 o'clock I was starting to feel reallllllllly bad I crawled out of bed (literally) and about 10 meters down was the nurses station , I said to them I really felt bad and midwife/nurse said ''oh your fine its just the induction making u feel bad go take a bath it wont have started yet my dear''
So of I trot more like stagger to the ''bathroom'' ,bath room my ass it was disgusting ,dirty towels of the drying kind and the lady kind!!! on the floor I ran a bath and managed to get in ,to be honest it dint settle me it made me more upset by this stage I was getting worked up on my first attempted to get out of the stained and dirty hair filled bath I slipped winding myself. I rember one thought 'Jesus help me'
I got dressed (just) and walked back to bed I think it must have been another hour go by and I was in agony ,I pressed the buzzer and when the nurse finally showed up let say she wasn't to happy with me , I rember she huffed and puffed as I told her I really really AM in a lot of pain and could she please call my husband I begged and pleaded with my eyes closed it hurt so bad.
She told me to 'hush' and said she would give me some gas and air for the pain and an injection (pethadin) ok so this took the edge off it really did but again I was left on my own for hours ,the gas in air was in a bottle on a stand after a while it ran out I was just using the sucker bit to bite on ever contraction.
At around half 3 I managed to crawl up the bed and reach my mobile I phoned my mum and my husband. they reassured me it was ok and they will come. With that in mind I was a little relived that I was no longer going to be left.
What the nurse then dint tell me was they both called the hospital asking after me and that they was worried and they was both told I was ok and they dint need to come in and I was being 'looked after''
Of course they listened to the women and did as she said stayed at home.
Later on it was about 5 in the morning the nurse finally came back I managed to say I had no gas left and she said they has no others up on the wards and I would have to wait for them to bring up another but how long that would be no one knew.
Finally at 8 o'clock my husband was allowed in , I have never felt so relived in my life ,then my mum and auntie turned up they made me go for a walk with them up and down the corridor ''this will help you'' my mum kept saying ''speed it along a bit''.she could see I could hardly stand and I couldn't open my eyes at all
The shift changed and I was met at my bed by a new nurse/midwife she was really nice I explained that I had the induction at 9 and the contraction would peak as another had begun and they never eased she could see I was in agony.
At about 1olock that afternoon I was taken (well made to walk bugger mums haha) to the delivery ward which was down the hall.
I was met by a nice young girl who was my midwife she was kind and gentle and suggested I take another bath (before witch she broke my waters )she gave me gas and air and stayed with me my husband mum and auntie (yep they all saw me naked NICE poor souls) that is until her shift changed and another women came and took over ,this new women dint seem to even want to give me the time of day in the space of two hours I saw her once.
Soooooo on and on it went and then the birth....
I was given another two shots of petadin whist in the delivery suite at what time I have no idea and I was regularly told to have an epidural by the midwife which I refused , I wasn't making any fuss the contractions wouldn't even let me speak!!!
When I finally got to the pushing stage the midwife said to me 'is this your second dear''
I rember thinking no its bloody not what must I look like down there for her to think that''
I gave birth after 2 hours of pushing and im being blunt tore internally, I was stitched up with what I believe but was never really told 15 stitches.
I rember the midwife saying to another midwife who was supervising the stitching ''gota get these done pronto then im out on the drink tonight''
During the stiching at first she did not give me anoth anasetic which ment for the first few stiches i felt ever one going in ,i told her as i was crying my eyes out and using the gas and sir again , she seemed rather annoyed at this and gave me a few more injection which really hurt but stoped the pian.
So after all that my beautiful boy was in my arms I rember to this day the first words I said to him ' why hello little person welcome to our world'' random as ever.
The rest is all a bit mundane I saw my midwife the next day on the ward working a shift she said 'hay paula you know what im hanging ,I was out drinking all night and then in here at 6 and im beat ' I rember it like it was yesterday strange what you rember , I also rember thinking you stay the hell away from my baby.
So I went home after 2 days my son had a tongue tie so I had to express to feed him and I had to wait till my milk kicked in. Also they never told me what 3 petadin injections can do to the baby ( make them sleepy and not want to eat) so I had to wait for this to wear off)
Just to add the ward I was on I was treated like I was invisible and the young girl opposite (cant have been more then 16) was reduced to tears after a nurse had scorned her for not knowing how to change a nappy probley.
And the toilet just off the ward was absolutely horrendous dirty ,blood on the floor and used sanitize wear left around absolutely disgusting.
I should have complained then and there but to be honest I wanted to get out that place to a safe clean home with my angel.
The stitches were agony for 4 weeks I went to see my doctor who said they were ''pinching' but healing so to wait for them to dissolve naturally, needless to say after that I have had a few problems that may lead to having to be re cut and stitched back ( after 22 months!!!!!)
This is most of what acutely happened there are parts I have left out.
So my birth story what a joy to read hahahaha I just think my only advice would be if u don't think you are getting the right care you have a right to say!!! Don't think just because they are doctors or midwifes you should just shut up and deal with what ever if happening ,speak up I wish I had a bit more.
Summary: worth it in the end :)