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A not so natural birth
Member Name: ruthosborne1
Advantages: Medical help immediately if needed
Disadvantages: Lack of staff, rude staff, lack of communication
Giving birth is possibly one of the most natural but frightening experiences a woman can go through and having only had once child, I dont have the experience of multiple births to compare however my one and only experience so far did take place within the hospital and possibly was the worst experience of my life.
Before you read my experience I would like to state that this happens to a percentage of women and certainly not all women, this is my experience only and albeit it was a bad one does not mean that yours would be or will be.
My pregnancy with my daughter was a mess from the start to the end as from the beginning I was told that I would not be able to have one midwife but whoever was on at the time and it would be different from week to week. This was immediately disconcerting as of course I wanted one midwife to bond with but this was not possible.
From many mishaps and lack of listening from my midwives through to the end of my pregnancy I fell into trouble as I kept stating to them which position my baby was in and they refused to listen and instead state otherwise. I of course was right and when it came to the labour my baby was lying spine to spine with me and therefore even the first contraction was excrutiatingly painful.
I wanted to stay at home for as long as possible but unfortunately this couldnt be the case as the pain was just to much to bare. I was admitted to hospital where upon arrival I was already being told that they had not received instruction for the immediate pain releif and therefore I had to wait for authority. I waited in a room for an hour with my husband whilst they organised pethadine and in the meantime I was given gas and air. The midwife I had was incredibly rude, old school and treated me like school girl who had almost been naughty and to pull myself together, not the welcoming you want when youre in excrutiating pain.
Time went by and by the time I had had the pethadine, I was in and out of consciouness and still having terrible pain. I was given false information by a young student midwife regarding my 'show' (cervical plug), and the rate at which my labour was progressing. It was only afterwards when I read through my notes that in fact from the beginning my baby was showing signs of distress with meconium present but this was not dealt with at the time.
I begged for more pain releif as I just was not coping and was given a second shot of pethdaine, what they dont tell you however that although this is an excellent pain releif it slows down the labour considerably.
My labour went on for hours until later on in the evening I was taken to the delivery room, where they found I had an infection therefore I had to be given a drip of anitbitotics and fluids. My labour went into difficulty as my baby was in the wrong position and the pain was to much so I was eventually allowed, although I had been told earlier there would be no chance of having an epidural due to lack of staff, given and epidural and the first attempt went wrong. I had to have it redone and then 2 other top ups afterwards. This then caused me to have another drip in my arm and I then had to have my legs in stirrups as my baby had to be turned internally by hand by the midwife, which was awful.
I was told I would need to have a catheter a mobile one and I freaked out and upon this the midwife laughed at me and had no sensitivity to my fear whatsoever.
After a long while and having midwives laugh and joke about my labour and thinking I was making the pain I had up, I was told that I ws ready to push and hence did. When it came to an hour and nothing had happened and my baby was stuck the midwife called the peadiatrician who informed us that actually I had not been ready to push and the midwife had made a mistake. I had to wait for an hour and then try again!
Eventually I had to have an episiotomy and forceps and all this being strapped down on the bed. I was in awful pain and the pressure was immense.
My aftercare I would say was my real downfall with the hospital. The staff had forgotton to give me pain releif after an episiotomy and therefore my pain was excruitiating and continuing and I was eventually given paracetamol which didnt help. It had also been forgotton to catherterise me and therefore I had to suffer and lost much dignity as I was unable to move my legs through the epidural and hence had lost the control of my bladder which upon led me to have an accident in my bed. I was left to lay in this for a long time before a physiotherapist who was in the ward came to help me.
All in all my labour was 24 hours and was a horrendous experience. I would not have a hospital birth within the nhs again however I would definately opt for a elected cesarean privately. I would also be very inclined to look into home births, as I think the main reason why so many hospital births go wrong is simply due to the incredible amount of intervention which is used and which is not always necessary when the female body is indeed structured to give birth.
Its a difficult situation to be in but please may I reiterate again that although a hospital birth will certainly not be my route again, this was a one off and many women have completly different experiences within hospitals.
Summary: An experience you might want to re think before giving birth
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