I wasn't infertile, but now I am! (Infertility)

Member Name: hotcritic

Product:	Infertility
Date:	24/07/04 (300 review reads)
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I know for most women, this is a taboo subject. Alot of women feel they have failed as a woman if they can't produce children!
What a load of phooey, is what I say. Womans only job is to make children? ok, then what? what are we supposed to do when we have birthed our kids? Let them bring themselves up?
Now I think you are getting my point. Many women cannot have children, and so adopt, foster ect,. You are doing the upbringing over the next eighteen years.That makes you as much a woman as having them yourselves!

So why did I choose to adopt this attitude? Because I have both, given birth to my own children, and brought up somebody else's.

I had three children of my own. All very healthy pregnancy's. And sailed through. I was planning my fourth and last child, and couldn't understand why I had not got pregnant. My Husband had fired on three cylinders, so why had we not succeded this time?
We gave it another year of trying. I was concerned as I had just looked at my husband for the first three. But we still was not successful. So I decided to go to the doctor.

Most women who have been in this situation know what the doctor had to do first. See my husband. He did a very healthy sperm count. I returned to the doctor for a blood test.
From there I was sent to our local gynocology unit at the hospital, where the blood test was repeated.

About three weeks past, when I was called into my g.p's surgery. There I was told I had been suffering menopausal symptoms. I corrected her saying I had suffered none of the sort. She explained that alot of women, who are going through the menopause, will not have physical symptoms, but will show the signs in the blood.
Apparently, my body had chosen to stop producing, eastrogen, and norgestral.
I was placed on prempac 'c', and told that I was now 'infertile'.

My mind was in a whirl. No more children? but then I sat and thought how l

ucky I had been to have had three of my own. I felt ashamed for myself that women out ther had not experienced childbirth.
I began to think myself very lucky, although I was menopausal at the grand old age of 23!
I have been on my low dose hrt for about 17 years. I know the risks, but as I started my menopause at an early age, the risks of not taking it way outdo the risks for taking it.
I have a brilliant gp who explained to me that my overys have packed up working, but as I am still considered to be young, I need to take hrt, to produce my periods, but that as eggs are never released, children will never come again.
She went on to explain that risks of hrt only concern older women, who do not have periods. I am taking the same amount that I would be producing naturally at my age. so with her keeping a good eye on me, I know that I can safly take my hrt until I am 60+

I have accepted my menopause, and my infertility. I have another son now, but he is from my now, partners marriage.

I know alot of you will say this should go in the ' menopause' section, but please consider the fact that the infertility bothers me more than the menopause.

I hope this is ok for your reading,

Dee.

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