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The Welfare State - a safety net or a hammock?
Parental Support in general
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Parental Support in general
Date: 27/02/10, updated on 28/02/10 (82 review reads)
Advantages: Good mums and dads out there
Disadvantages: Bad mums and dads out there
The are John Terrys in life and there are Wayne Bridges in life, women prefferig to have babies with the nice guy Wayne Bridges of the world and sex with the John Terrys of the world, women always drawn to bad boys when they tire of nice guys. The news is that 2009 was the worst year on record for marriages (well, legal ones), yet a record high for divorces (very legal ones), in recession, money not love, the binding factor in relationships it seems.
There was a rather sad (and naughty) yougov survey on those relationships featured in the broadsheets last week where it found that 28% of British women have stopped having sex by their 40th birthday. Those with kids faired little better, just 12% of mums finding time or the energy (or an affair) for a quickie more than once a week. In Scotland it was far worse, 38% of girls snuggling up with a good book not a man by their 35th birthday. So after money its lack of nookie that erodes couples relationships. I think its time I brushed down the old kilt and cleaned my big bagpipe for a trip up north!
The Daily Express hatred of anyone but white middle-class middle aged males, newspaper screamed the headline with the grim fact that one-in-four moms are now in single parent households in the U.K., and an unbelievable 50% of mothers with children under the age of 13 (so born under a Labour government) have never married or lived with a boyfriend, many finding it 'rewarding' to stay at home or be 'supported' by state handouts, niether headline easy or hard to confirm but revealing.
Every week now we have a court case or of a young child murdered by this smallish band of usless parents in our inner cities that we call the underclass, the absecent fathers that could have protected the kids all too quick to blame social services for their own feckless behaviour, the pure volume of cases making it impossible for social workers to save these kids. Husbands have been replaced by the state in the working-classes and single parent families have doubled under New Labour. If young working-class girls are not deliberately getting pregnant to get on the housing list then it sadly puts them more in the ignorant class. I just don't believe that to be the case though and this is more about social conditioning, aping what your parents did and giving up because no one believes in you, than wanting not to succeed in life. In the defence of these baby machines a recent scientific piece of research found that promiscuity in women may be critical for the future of the human race, the more babies they have then the more we illuminate the damaging SR chromosome and so the male and female chromosomes can flourish. A lower birth rate produces more males and so less females to make the babies!
Where as young girls know no better older and affluent ones should, a middle-class Asian mum grabbing the right wing tabloid headlines last week in big style, the tea cups of Surbiton rattling against the saucers in utter rage! Even the most left wing, world music listening, lentil munching feminist would have been fuming over that extraordinary news story in those redtops last week about single mom Essma Marjam, who had managed to get Westminster Council to put her up in a five bedroom house in a very posh area of London, all on the social. Whilst most working Londoners are paying £1600 a year council tax she was getting that amount free a month to pay her rent! A rather nefarious housing association loophole ruling had allowed her to plead poverty because she was pregnant with her SEVENTH child and so entitled to five bedrooms. Due to huge immigration flows and those increased single parent rates in our general society a new law was bought in around 2005 to cover emergency housing issues under those annoying human rights laws, making sure vulnerable women with kids were at least housed. Essma chose her house on the internet, one she felt was deserving of her situation when she had her sixth kid, chancing her luck and low and behold her rent of six grand a month is now being picked up by the benefits office in Westminster. Because there were no council houses she liked in Derby-her home town- she seems to have pulled her 'minority card' and landed on her feet. The £2 million town house is just down the road from Paul McCartney and has raised the hackles once again over women exploiting the benefit system by having child after child to stay on the dole. Once you have had one kid on the state you are legally entitled to housing until that kids 7th birthday, and so you celebrate that 6th birthday by getting pregnant and doing it all over again, and with the obscene cost of childcare, it makes sense not to work if you're a mom under New Labour, Blair's benefit policies to encourage unemployment in single working-class women all rather pathetic, purely done because he thinks they will vote Labour to keep their injection of the heroine of state handouts.
Rather incredibly Essma's second husband is a lawyer from Derby yet she was allowed to claim the house in London's swanky Maida Vale? Why on Earth isn't he paying her maintenance and she told to stay in cheaper Derby? The whole point of the CSA was to increase absent father's contribution to the kids so to be able to reduce benefit payments to the mother. What are the reformed CSA messing about at in Derby? I'm sure there were plenty of mums and dads reading that story that have had very negative dealings when looking for rent and housing help through recession and you are just throwing your hands in the air over this. There will, of course, be a handful of you saying you shouldn't mention this and it it's politically incorrect. Well you are the people making the human rights lawyers so bloody rich! Over 800 families alone in Westminster have benefited from this housing association support system in the last five years alone. The welfare state was meant to be a safety net not a bloody hammock!!
Although immigrant mothers have much lower levels of divorce and far less likely to be single mothers they now give birth to one in every four babies born in the U.K. but, rather paradoxically, more likely to be unemployed. Married women to working men are not classed as unemployed. Of the 791,000 babies born in the UK in 2008, 24 per cent had immigrant mothers. Overwhelmingly, they were from Pakistan, India or Poland, families with high morals over marriage. In the white underclass they have neither, the real fracture in British society. Some migrant groups are highly dependent on social housing because their families have higher numbers of children and are more likely to be without work. They include families from Afghanistan, Somalia and Bangladesh. The Muslim population in Britain has grown by more than 500,000 to 2.4 million in just 5 years - 10 times faster than the rest of society, putting huge strains on maternity and housing services, as was the case with Essma Marjam, Britain in the new millennium.
For me the problem of the family and divorce is that New Labour tell the working-class its ok to fail whereas the Tories says its ok to succeed, 12 years of one government always needing 12 years of the other lot to fix the problems. Blair's biggest crime outside of the Iraq War is he has made us a weak nation, and worse still we sat back and let him do it. Those ober human rights lawyers' power and this health & safety nonsense has come from that apathy. Nobody is responsible for their mistakes any more, including babies, abortions up big too.
I don know how Labour did it but just before the election they announced that teen pregnancies were a small percentage down, the £275 million pounds spent on sex education schemes reducing the number by 456 nationally to mums age 13-17. Although only 5.4% of girls in the U.K have given birth by their 18th birthday and that seems quite low, these girls tend to in the same places and so the problem intensified. You go to any sink estate in Britain and you will find pregnant 15-year-old girls with 32-year-old mums and 55-year-old grans, even in the same postcode. It's the norm guys. They are most likely to produce delinquent children and those children even more likely to be single moms to continue the chain. Now at this point I'm not talking about teenage girls in strong relationships with working partners but the girls on estates just doing it to get out of the family home or situation. I don't believe the majority of these pregnancies are to do with not knowing about the birds and the bees or poor use of contraception. After all, middle-class teenage girls don't get pregnant and nearly all go on to university without nappies and a pacifier in the back of their VW Golf. I think lower class teen moms have babies because they don't think they can go to university.
But it's the older moms that have been having the babies in the last ten years, careers and fertility drugs allowing career moms the chance to delay families. But at least in this demographic the men of the house tend to be working and the birth is based on the ability of the parents and so not the state paying for it.
Some babies come from mistakes, of course, and those girls and women need support. There are still too many feckless men out there not willing to help. But in these younger working-class moms it's often the case that women almost demand mitigation on sexual mistakes, whether it's getting pregnant by a one night stand or through a relationship. The feminist jumped all over this recent survey that claimed that 55% of people asked from a group of 1000 adults found that women were less sympathetic to other women who make rape claims, much higher than the men on the same survey, an honest evaluation as- perhaps-its these the very same women on the survey who get in the same situations with booze and provocative wear and so the right to have an opinion.
Rape accusations aside I think it's far too easy for unplanned pregnancies in young girls and it's not always due to promiscuous males. For me the heart of those relationship breakdowns and divorces is not feckless men - or women- but booze, simple as. Women use booze as an excuse and they use lack of contraception as an excuse for getting pregnant or in a situation with a guy they shouldn't be in through a lack of common sense. If a girl or a guy gets drunk on a night out they strip away their ability to keep control and so anything can happen, maybe why they drink so heavily, and it's no coincidence that the most promiscuous country in Western Europe also has the most pregnancies and rape accusations. Other European women just don't live that way. In Spain if you get pregnant before your 25 there's no council flat escape just parents and 100 Hail Mary's!
A recent survey of 3000 British women between the ages of 18-50 found that women had slept with an average of about 8 men, but were drunk with at least five of them, and on an average two of those encounters they couldn't even remember the guy's names. Astonishingly, 48% said they 'preferred sex' whilst under the influence. 75% say they like a tipple before getting into bed with their partner or husband and some 6% polled had never had sex whilst sober. A worrying 14% said they can't face sleeping with their partner without a drink. Many surveyed said that 'drinking was part of the dating process', so they were bound to be a bit drunk on the meeting. Again, alcohol plays an integral part of relationships in this rather pathetic booze soaked country. British women perhaps suffer from lower self-esteem and less confidence about sex than our more cosmopolitan European friends because sex is so available and so need a drink to deal with this countries bizarre macho need to be so promiscuous. Young British working-class men after a drink are usually out of control and always have been - why it's always been a mystery why the girls don't understand that threat.
So in summary divorce is on the up in recession and its down to money and mistakes, the kids the ones hurting the most. The CSA has been too target obsessed to stem the rise, targeting men that can pay more rather than spending more catching up with men who wont pay any, an absolute disgrace. Women need all the support they can get when their kids are very young and men who don't help them are rats. Where New Labour really went wrong was pushing women into work and so driving up those child care costs, higher than full board public school fees now, meaning it was cheaper to stay at home and draw benefits if you're a low skilled working-class with no hang ups about that or middle-class dads having to do long hours so eroding their relationships with their wife and kids and wrecking the relationship that way. This British obsession with money and social class and not family has weakened the very fabric of this fine country. We know where it went wrong. Please vote these clowns out before its too late!
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