Its hard but wonderful! (Parental Support in general)

Member Name: tas1

Product:	Parental Support in general
Date:	11/05/01 (13 review reads)
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Advantages: Lots

Disadvantages: There are some but nothing you can't overcome

For me becoming a parent has been an experiance. It has changed my life in many ways and will continue to do so as my child grows.

I got married at 21 and had my daughter at 23. A cousin of mine had had her first child at 17 and her second at 19. She is 2 years younger than me. When she had her kids I used to worry about how she'd cope, and I thought that because of her age she would find it hard. However, after having my daughter I have found that age doesn't matter. At whatever age you become a mother or father, your live does change, and I have found that it changes for the better. You change as a person and you learn and grow. There is so much a child can teach you. Firstly s/he teaches you to love unconditionaly. Secondly you appreciate your own parents and discover what they went through.

I spent a month at my mums after having my baby, because it was my first child and I din't know what to expect. Also I was so tired. I had never so tired before. When I came home, I tried to set routines and do all the housework, keep the house clean, keep the baby clean and also feel good. However, this didn't work. My daughter is about 6 months and It still hasn't worked. However hard I try, I don't manage to keep the house, the kitchen clean. I used to be a person who would constently try to keep the house clean but that has now changed because I really feel too tired to do all the housework. The laudry tends to pile up. And I have found that as she is growing, my daughter is becoming more demanding of me. She wants to spend more time playing with me or her daddy rather than playing by herself. This means that the only time I get to do housework is when she is asleep, so that means catching up on sleep in the daytime doesn't happen. Also, things change financially after having a child, but I believe that every child comes with his/her own destiny. Their finances come with them and so if you are having financial difficulty, thin
k of it this way and this will help to ease the tension.

The thing is, I'm not complaining. I love being a mum and can't imagine life any different. I love having my family. I'd just like to say that any mothers out there who feel that it is hard to cope and find that their partners don't understand that it is a full time job being a mother, it will get better. Don't feel deppressed, do what you can and enjoy being a mum. Enjoy every second with your child because this time won't come back. And do things for yourself. Spend time on youurself, as they say if you look good, you feel good. If you feel like a break, go for a walk or chat to a friend, leave the dishes till later. Most importanly, love your child and spend time with them because that tiny smile is worth a million.

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