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Smacking right and wrong
Parental Support in general
Member Name: singlefather
Parental Support in general
Date: 25/07/02, updated on 25/07/02 (933 review reads)
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I was caned and leathered growing up.Most of it was negative.However I consider smacking should be used as a last resort.
Some children will definitely benefit from corporal punishment if administered correctly and fairly.It should never be used in anger.
If children are treated fairly, listened to and have things fully explained to them then the need for smacking will be rare.
There are of course exceptions. Some children go through stages when their behaviour is seriously out of line.Smacking may be the only method to control them.If however their behaviour does not improve in the short term counselling rather than continued smacking may be needed.
Indeed at any stage if smacking is being administered regularly it is almost certain to be counterproductive.
Some children can be very seriously damaged by being smacked by parents.Other children prefer smacking to grounding etc and in many cases prefer smacking to any form of ridicule and/or lasting punishment and negative athmosphere accompanying such punishment.
Parents are human and can only do what they think is best for their child.I believe the most common error made by parents is to lack openmindedness.They are either totally for or against smacking.Like most things in life this matter is not black and white.The problem is to find the correct grey area most suited to your childs needs not your needs.
I have two grown up daughters. I never smacked them.My eldest has just completed a first class honours degree and my second has completed 1st year at university.Not smacking was not a concious decision.My eldest nearly died aged 2 and this probably influenced my method of rearing.My ex wife and I perhaps deserve some credit but I believe if our circumstances were different and perhaps if we had boys smacking may well have been a part of their rearing.My daughters success does not prove that smacking is wrong or unecessary in all cases.It may prove that we were lucky or perhaps even corre
ct in not smacking our children.
The caning Michael Fay received in Singapore will most likely ensure he does not spray cars again with paint - this certainly does not prove that the caning was correct.In my opinion it was way too severe and totally incorrect.Apparently the majority of Americans agreed eventually with it - of course it was not their son.
I do not think anyone can say definitively that smacking is totally right or totally wrong.