mummyee (Parenting in general)

Member Name: katyc

Product:	Parenting in general
Date:	12/03/09 (57 review reads)
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Disadvantages: 1am 2am 3am

I am a parent and I am so proud I want to shout out about my childrens achievments tell everyone about their little sayings and little ways.

Yes it is wonderfull I hear you agree well a lot of the time but then there are the times when resentment of Daddy becomes uncontrolable!
As I recentally advised my Husband after another 3am start to the day, that he did whatever he wanted whenever he wants without a care in the world at the time he was leaving to go to his second job!

Looking after children is an emotional rollercoaster the highs are faboulous but the lows are very tough recentally our youngest daughter got a sickness and tummy bug a month later she had been in hospitial visited the Gp 7 times and was still no better, the bug had killed her stomach lining and much to her disgust had to go right back to weaning stage!

Thankfully we are all on the mend but how do you cope? Well my top tips are here they are not gospel just what helped me.
1) Trust your instincts
keep badgering your Doctor you know how your child normally is.
2) Take a break
Easier than it sounds however my Mother-in-law babysat so I could go into work which gave me a rest and enabled me to cope better
3) Get Help
whether it is proffesional or help from friends and family my friends took my eldest daughter to toddlers giving her respite and allowing me to concentrate on one child
4) Keep Calm
It is very hard not to panic or gget upset however children pick up on this and get upset themselves
5) Everything can wait
I seem to get an increased sense of guilt if the children are ill and I havent done the ironing, washing, hoovering, made tasty meals so what it will not be forever and it really isnt important
6) share
Share your concerns I am always convinced that my emotionally retarded Husband will laugh however 9 times out of 10 he has the same concerns and we then talk about them and it helps . Also share the workload he is far better tempered at 1 am tham me and I am better than him at 3am!

For me I am very lucky I have a good family network there is always someone I can call on for advice and I have a brilliant support network with my peers this is very important and once you get to share it enables you to get a differant take on a matter which can be very important for example when my youngest was born my eldest got very jealous and woudnt share her toys or even want her friends to come in her house and if anyone went near her sister well she was a candidate for a asbo!

As you can imagine I was mortified and there were no more coffee morning in fact we went into house arrest until another friend said look at it from her point of view her whole life has changed and all she wants to do is have some control looking back pretty obvious a new baby then her parents disapearing as baby became ill and went abck to hospitial a big change.

Today my eldest is 3 and a bit and is at playgroup making a picture for her horse yes not me or her daddy but her auntie's horse, she woke me up with her special logic of it must be morning the sun is on blackout blinds for our bedroom top of DIY list!

I could go on with parenting and spend hours listing all the funny little things that happen, the things that make you laugh and those that make you die of shame!! The absolute best thing is mummy I love you you are my best friend even better than millie!!

My top advice is do not take yourself seriousally, Laugh at yourself always keep a bottle of wine in the fridge! go with the flow and have good friends to scream at and laugh with.

Summary: parenting