Baby is here (Parenting in general)

Member Name: mumsymary

Product:	Parenting in general
Date:	16/11/02 (67 review reads)
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Advantages: joy, love

Disadvantages: pain, anguish

Being a parent

One of the most wonderful, difficult, trying, painful, joyous, things in life.

I am in the process of being a grandmother Sleepydormouse is in labour as I speak so I thought this was a topical op for me to write. Ok I am feeling emotional.


Parenting, ensuring the continuation of the human race.
Let me tell you about my feelings and experiences.

M first attempt was upsetting my baby died at 3 days it seems unreal now. I gave birth to Sally almost exactly one year later after a worrying pregnancy would the same thing happen again (it was possible) the relief to have a healthy child. We stopped at one child one of the reasons was because of my first chills dying.

The joy we got when she walked her first steps, said her first words gink (drink) gog (dog)
The feelings of desperation and anger when she had temper tantrums her little feet stamping, sitting down and refusing to do things (fortunately we did not suffer with too many)
The pain and anguish we felt when she was ill the crushing stomach feeling you get when your child is in pain.
The pride I felt for all her achievements. Her first words she read. The first length of the pool she swam. Her first ride on her 2 wheeler without falling off
The sadness I felt when she fell out with her best friend. Or when she cried because her friend has left town
The feelings of happiness when I watched her playing with her friends and her toys

The feelings of love when she gave me birthday cards she had made.
The fun we had splashing in the sea.

As she grew up into a bright intelligent teenager she fell ill with chronic fatigue syndrome my feelings of despair sadness as I watched a shadow of my child having no energy no real joy just struggling to have enough energy to lie on the sofa and watch the television, not enough energy to accompany us on long walks anymore .The sadness as her friends slowly disappeare

d because she did not/could not go out with them her missed early teenage years. To watch her struggle through school, She had a lot of time off. The pride I felt with the way she coped/copes with her illness the pride when she achieved good G C S E and A level results.

The pride and anguish I felt when she left home for university. Trying to make life easier for her by buying and transporting all her food needs for her, she could not walk far and carry bags of shopping easily. Trying to be a good parent helping, but trying not to get in the way.

The happiness when she had her first boyfriend the joy when I saw her married

The sadness I feel that she is unable to work due to her continued ill health she has been to many DRs and there is little they can do for her .The happiness I feel, as she is able to look after herself and her husband without the need for help.
Now she is about to have her first baby I do worry about her and how she will cope.
Iwrote the above last weekend and added the below this morning.

NEWS UPDATE
Thursday 14 November 10. 45pm baby boy born.
Name possibly Adrian maybe Adrian Jack.

Mother and baby both doing well. Sally/sleepydormouse started labour Wednesday morning pains got more on Thursday afternoon went into hospital 6 o clock refused anything but gas and air baby tore his mothers flesh badly 2nd degree tears muscle tears her vagina tore inside and ripped her flesh outside. It was very painful .Out he came weighing 9 LB 9oz lots of dark brown hair. Her husband was present to give her support and he cut the umbilical cord. She had wanted a water birth but in the end didn't have one
Sleepydormouse was stitched up and went home at 4 pm yesterday after only being in hospital 17 hours after delivery.
She says the memories of the pain are already getting hazy.

Well into the next generation now. Baby is beautiful as are all baby's but this one really is do
esn't lo
ok a new born has lots of hair cries well eats ravenously and as often as he can (takes after his father)
Oh well parenting has begun now for my daughter, years of love worry pain anguish joy. Perhaps being a grandparent will be easier, but I still worry about my daughter and how she will manage I am sure she will be fine as a mother but with her ill health will she find the demands too great. Still Nanna is always here to offer advice, interfere (I will try not to) take baby off her hands for a while, and spoil him. Still not sure about the name Adrian it's not bad, but I have worked with Adrian's strange how that influences my feelings about a name.
That just about wraps up my personal feelings and experiences of parent/ motherhood I cant really speak for fathers but I know my husband had a soppy look on his face when he held Adrian and said he wasn't bad as baby's go.
Oh well off to interfere now and spoil my grandson. LOL Mary

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