Sex is even better now!! (Sex After Giving Birth)

Member Name: Belladonna

Product:	Sex After Giving Birth
Date:	05/02/01 (251 review reads)
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Advantages: It's better than before!!

Disadvantages: It's probably the last thing you feel like doing

Unfortunately I was not one of those women who felt incredibly horny all through pregnancy. In fact, feeling so much heavier and feeling something moving inside me put me off sex more than ever before. I was determined to get back to regular sex after my baby was born. However, after an episotomy and several stitches, the prospect of having to move house when my baby was 7 weeks old, and not losing the excess weight within a couple of weeks as I had naively expected I would (still trying to lose it 6 months on but that's another story), not to mention the fact we were both physically and emotionally exhausted meant that proper sex was not even attempted for about 3 months!

My episiotomy took a while to heal and still felt quite tender. In fact the first time we tried sex it was absolute agony and brought tears to my eyes. This was enough to put me off for a few more weeks. I was starting to worry. My episiotomy was not checked at my 6 week check, apparently it's now routine not to unless you ask but I had other things on my mind at that point, like moving house. After our first disastrous attempt at sex I was convinced I had been stitched up wrongly (too tightly) and would have to go to my new GP (who I hadn't exactly hit it off with) and explain all this and possibly end up needing to be re-stitched. I decided to try one more time and if it still hurt I would go to the GP.

The next time I tried I enlisted the help of 2 glasses of wine and some lubricating jelly. Although still tense this time couldn't have been more different. I have since heard that the 1st time can be painful but can only assume that you must stretch again. I would now go as far to say that sex is much better than it was before childbirth, I'm wondering if all that stretching of the birth canal must have woken up nerve endings etc that I never knew I had!

My husband & I have always been physically close and this didn't stop with the l
ack of sex, a cuddle and a kiss is always good. But if I'm honest the lack of proper sex was beginning to put a strain on us.

My reason for writing this is to reassure people who are nervous about recommencing a sexual relationship. I never imagined that sex could be better after having a baby than it was before, and I thought it was pretty good before. I guess I'm lucky that my hubby is pretty understanding, although given that he watched me give birth I would expect nothing less! But to everyone who has had problems down below after childbirth, and I'm still convinced the dr who stitched me thoughtfully put in an extra stitch, don't worry, be patient, take your time and don't be pushed into having it before you feel ready. Finally remember that alcohol and lubrication can really help with that initial first time.

Here's to sex, isn't it just brilliant!!

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