Sex got me into this mess! (Sex After Giving Birth)

Member Name: Vicki H

Product:	Sex After Giving Birth
Date:	23/11/01 (258 review reads)
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Why are people so obsessed with sex? After having a baby it really is the last thing on your mind - if only other people would let it be!

When I had Joe I had God knows how many stitches and hideous piles. The midwife came each day and it was bums up on the settee for an examination of my nether regions. My tummy was like a mass of porridge and hung pitifully around my knees (OK so not quite round my knees but it felt like that to me). My stretch marks were more like tyre marks and the most lovely shade of purple. My knickers were stuffed with maternity pads and my bra with breast pads. My boobs were enormous, painful and squirting milk everywhere. As for me I was shattered. Sex - huh, that's what got me into this fine mess!

My stitches failed to drop out like I had been promised. I had to go for an examination 10 days after the birth and I was still very sore and bleeding. The midwife had a look at the stitches which apparently the skin was growing over. "Leave them another week, if they aren't out we will pull them out" - GREAT!
They were pulling tighter and tighter so all the discomfort I had first felt was coming back. Then she asked had we had sex yet? My reaction was "have we hell as like" but instead of muttered "no" feeling quite ashamed of myself. She suggested that we ought to try it.

Now I think that she was totally wrong. I felt very unattractive and physically did not feel up to anything much at all. My husband had just gone back to work, leaving me alone all day looking after a newborn baby when I myself needed some care. Thank God I ignored her but other women may feel pressurised by such comments.

I did have to have the stitches pulled out and although it was agonising the relief was instant. I felt much better afterwards and just 3 weeks after the birth our sex life resumed. My husband did not pressurise me at all and was worried that it may hurt. It di
dn't at all and with plenty of pelvic floor exercises, I am pleased to say that physically it is as good as ever. Emotionally it is far better as our son has taken our relationship to another level.

I heard women say that your husband could never see you in a sexual light again after seeing you give birth and I would just like to say what rubbish that is. My husband's love and respect for me has only been deepened by what he witnessed in the delivery room.

Going back to being a physical wreck - it does get better! I now weigh less than I did before I was pregnant and have my figure back. Yes my stomach is not as toned and I do have silvery stretch marks on my hips but there are a simple reminder of my pregnant days. Once again I feel and look sexy and all within 12 months!

I hope this helps someone out there. The key is in communication, tell your partner how you feel and don't do anything that you don't feel physically confident about.

Thanks for reading!

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