Eventually.......... (Sex After Giving Birth)

Member Name: kes33

Product:	Sex After Giving Birth
Date:	10/12/01 (407 review reads)
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Advantages: Return to normality

Disadvantages: pain!

Having had two experiences of this and reading some of the present reviews, I have been inspired to write my own. Childbirth is a wonderful/trying/awesome/difficult time for all those involved, including the baby and it can do serious damage to your relationship in the months that follow. I hope my tale will help anyone wondering what the aftermath will entail.

Whilst I was pregnant, my hubby wasn't particularly keen to 'get it on' as it were; he was totally honest with me and told me that he couldn't stand my figure as it was. Hurtful, perhaps, but at least I knew where I was. After I had my first baby, my figure quickly returned to it's usual proportions and of course, he could hardly restrain himself.

Problem. During the birth, I had insisted I didn't want them to cut me in any way, consequently, I tore in places that could've been avoided and was very sore. I only had two stitches, not many, but where they were made things more painfully. At first, it was just, yeah, let's get on with it; I expected to be a bit sore but it soon came to light that it was going to be a problem.

The problem lasted two years and in that time. hubby became so fed up he threatened to 'find it elsewhere'. I know it sounds awful but I understood his frustration, just couldn't do anything about it. I knew how he felt but I knew it also hurt his feelings by telling him that every time he tried, he hurt me.

We got through it without any major bust-us for one reason only: we talked, a lot. The most important thing to do when you have any breakdown in intimacy is to talk, talk, talk. So long as you can both communicate and explain how you feel, mostly, it will be ok. My hubby hurt my feelings by telling me how he felt about my body whilst I was pregnant. Ok, I dealt with it, honesty really is the best policy.

With our second child, we had no problems at all; except she slept in our room for six months. I
don't go in for having the baby in bed; sometimes it's inevitable ut generally....no. Even so, having a baby in the same room as you is bound to affect your sex life and if you have to cope with a baby all day, you're tired.

What I'm trying to say is, communication at all times is very important. If you feel like you can't talk to the 'other half', man or woman, then try, because it's the only thing that'll save you.

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