Brothers Who needs them;- I DO (Sibling Rivalry!)

Member Name: fidgetbrain

Product:	Sibling Rivalry!
Date:	10/11/01 (45 review reads)
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Advantages: Everybody should have someone

Disadvantages: it's lonely without them

I am the youngest brother of 4,and two younger sisters. My eldest brother died two years ago, my father died two years before that and my mother three years previously. My youngest sister died when she was 20. So out of a close knit family of 8 there are officially only 4 left.

As children we too fought like cats and dogs, I being the youngest often got the rough end of the stick, but deep down I always still loved my brothers.

During the times when we lost the members of our family the brothers swore they would keep in touch and be there for each other; as most families would;- not ! Over the years I have strived to keep the chains of communication open between the family. My middle brother has not been seen or heard from since the day of my mothers funeral, he boldly informed all of us at the cemetary that we no longer existed and would not be seen again; true to his word he has been.

My other elder brother is alive and well, and when I last saw him he flung his arms around me promising to be in touch. I later phoned him at home and his wife put the phone down, again he has not been in touch since my other brothers funeral.

That leaves my sister and I, we do share each others lives and try to keep the family values carried on. Our children miss their uncles and aunts and cousins. A whole generation are missing what we had as children but why can it not carry on in adult hood. Its difficult when you lose you parents and I have come to think that this is the part of life they dont tell you about.

It is vital for the continuation of family units that we as adults teach our siblings to love each other and to be there for each other and hopefully they will instill this into thier children. Although I still have two brothers I miss not having brothers if you know what I mean.

The lesson I have learned from the sibling rivalry I experienced from what is now a parents aspect, is that any serious fall outs have to
be sorted out long before they fester and the fall out turns out to a life long cold shoulder.

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