The best job in the world (Single Parent Families)

Member Name: wisemind

Product:	Single Parent Families
Date:	20/01/09 (84 review reads)
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Advantages: Seeing your child grow up to be confident and happy

Disadvantages: lonley and exhauting

I spent four years trying to conceive my son with my husband but the sadly my became very jealous of the attention I received when I was pregnant and once my son was born he couldn't cope with his needs not been number one and became abusive.

It was not a choice for me whether I wanted to be a single parent. I had to take my son to a refuge for both our safety.

I have been a single parent for about a year now and it is the best thing I ever did.

I love been a mommy and having my son has fulfilled a void in my life. I enjoy just about every moment and even when he is poorly, while exhausting I love been able to care for him.

We moved into our own home in July and since then I have been able to build a new life for us.

One of the biggest difficulties my son has faced is separation anxiety. Due to the way my husband was with my son and then been is a refuge my son never got to learn even separation from been in a different room.

We have had the support from a sure start worker who has helped by supporting him, playing to distract him while I have been upstairs. This has helped me get on with cleaning and tidying upstairs while not having to worry about waking him.

We joined a couple of parent and toddler groups in the new area. When we first started my son wouldn't leave my Side but now his confidence has grown and he now happily goes off and plays on his own although he does enjoy one to one play with me. This gives me a chance to talk to other parents and gain support for myself.

My son got progressed so well in December I managed to get some funding through my health visitor for him to go to nursery twice a week in the morning. This helps him learn to be alone and gives me time to get jobs and appointments without dragging my son around.

I do not have any family contact and for our own safety we moved to a completely new area where we didn't know anyone so getting basic things done like getting my haircut have been impossible until he started nursery.

The hardest times have been when I am ill and my lively toddler still wants to play but I just have to drop down to doing the minimum and catch up when I am better.

I do love the time we spend together and some of the happiest times we have are just playing at home, not necessarily doing anything amazing just getting down on the floor and laughing. These times I think about my husband and what he is missing out on.

My son is the most amazing little boy he is happy, playful, hysterical at times and while some of this is in his personality I can also take credit for helping him feel this way. What could possibly be a more rewarding job?

Summary: not a great choice but if you find yourself in this positon make the most of it