teenage pregnancy (Teenage Pregancy)

Member Name: sataninheels

Product:	Teenage Pregancy
Date:	18/10/05 (234 review reads)
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Advantages: body recovers quicker apparently. able to wait the recommended 5 years before having another.

Disadvantages: no social life, hard to finish education, relationship strains, etc. etc.

When I became pregnant at 16 I thought my life was over. I thought I knew that i wouldnt be able to look after a baby as I could hardly look after myself and thought that the only option for me was to go and have an abortion. The earliest that this could be done was a little after 12 weeks into the pregnancy which i wasnt happy with as by then the baby is fully developed etc. and that to me means it is too late.

so, I faced up to the fact that at 17 years old, i was going to be a mum. As you can imagine my family were very dissapointed and upset, but at the same time, were very supportive and caring.

I was determined to make a go of it properly, so I got a house with my boyfriend and we spent hours preparing for the new arrival.

When my beautiful daughter, Jayden Emma was born on the 14th April, weighing 9lb 8oz! everyone was delighted. however I was still very convinced that this wasnt the right thing for me and that my life was now over. During the last few weeks of pregnancy i had also become depressed, which i was convinced would go away when the baby arrived.

Being a mum has proved the most difficult thing i have ever done as 6 months on i am still struggling everyday with serious post natal depression, and am too young according to the gp to take anti-depressnats.

coming up to my 18th birthday i am now back full time at college doing my a levels, applying for universities, working weekends and at the same time being a mum. really starting to feel the consequences of my actions.

I wouldnt recommend having a baby young to anyone! (which is what i tell my friends when they say they want one etc..) it is incredibly hard and people tend to look down on you and stereotype you as someone who does nothing, lives off benefits and all the rest. apart from being physically more able to recover, i cant really see any advantage to having a baby as a teenager, i would always tell people that if it is at all possible that they should enjoy their youth first, there is always time for babies and families later!

but as these things do happen from time to time.. i would also like to let people know that it is not all bad and that it is entirely possible to become a family and make it work, even if you are seen as 'too young' X

Summary: would never reccomend anyone having a baby young, however does happen, and isnt the end of the world