I'm 22 yrs old and have two children aged 2 and 3, meaning i was 19 when i had my first. I had been in a steady relationship for 3 and a half years, had done well at school and had a good job. As soon as i fell pregnant, and this was my choice, not an accident, i stopped going out clubbing and i dont smoke anyway so that wasn't an issue. I knew straight away i would give up work to be a mum so i saved every penny for my sons clothes, buggy and everything else i knew he would need. I also, through the council, found a flat and moved in with my partner. He continued to work and although it was long hours, we made ends meet. I found life easy with a baby and fell pregnant straight away after having connor, this time an accident, but i dealt with it. We moved again, into a bigger house and by the time kayley was born in jan 07 we were settled. Boy, did i underestimate how much life changes with two children, but i plodded along, blissfully unaware that i was to end up a single mum. My partner left as he found it too hard to cope with, as i speak i am still a single parent because my life is so completely filled by my children that i have no time, or desire to find a new partner. They are my life. Everyday is a struggle as they are both getting more independant and less cooperative but it was my choice to have them and i am the one who looks after them. I very rarely let my parents babysit for the night because i feel thnat i am still young enough to have my fun when they reach their teens and have their own lives.