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The best decision i have ever made
Member Name: kylise1
Advantages: Unconditional love
I fully understand why people have a stereotypical image of teenage mums. The ones who look no older than 15 pushing their prams with filthy children inside. Clearly these mothers and probably their babies have no hope of ever becoming productive members of society. If im honest they disgust me the way they talk to their children, how many of them openly smoke while pregnant and infront of newborns (this is one of my biggest bugbears) and just the way you can tell they have no intention of ever bettering themselves. I feel sorry for the babies because most of them in 15 years time will be in the same position because this is what they have been taught is acceptable. You see them with two or 3 children who are clearly not looked after properly ie clean! I often think to myself if you had one child who you struggled with why the hell would you go on to have another and another. I think we all know the answer, it makes good financial sense to have 2 or 3 children and sit at home for 18 years collecting the benefit money. I have 2 children and would probably be better of financially if i didn't work. I am often ashamed to say i was a teenage mum myself but thats where the comparison ends. I had my first little girl at the grand old age of 17. The pregnancy was completly unplanned i was using contraception and had no intentions of ever becoming a mum so young. The relationship i was in was my first and we had only been together about 7 months when i found out i was pregnant. Anyway i was devestated i enjoyed my freedom and loved going out with my friends and just being a carefree teenager. I was at 6th form at the time studying 4 Alevels and had every intention to continue on to university. Well after much soulsearching we decided to keep the baby which in itself was the hardest decision i have ever had to make. The pregnancy went perfectly despite the dissaproving looks i received from strangers. These are looks i completly understand now. I went into labour one day overdue and had a completly uncomplicated 9 hour labour. Then i was handed my little girl and have never felt anything like the overwhelming rush of emotion. I fell madly and deeply in love with this little screwed up bundle of joy in my arms. Its indescribable how you feel when your handed your baby for the first time and it was no different for me because i was young. I found my soul mate that day and no one else could ever come close to stealing my heart like my little girl did. She was the most perfect baby i could have wished for, undeniably gorgeous looking and an absolute dream at night. I never had any fears that i couldnt look after her because of my age i took to motherhood like a duck to water and she honestly made it easy for me. She is now a very articulate and intelligant 4 year old who works hard at school and never forgets her manners. I continued my Alevels after she was born and passed them all. I have put off university for the time being but will definatly be persuing it some time in the future. I now work part time, mainly from home, so i am able to spend as much time with my children as possible. I also have a 1 year old. Thankfully i am still in a relationship with their dad and we have now been together for 6 years. He also works ridiculously hard for all the hours God sends to enable our children to have everything they need. We aren't your typical benefit scrounging family and i have always tried to teach my children the value of hard work. I would be absolutly devestated if either of my children got pregnant at a young age but i know it isn't the end of the world or your life. My children have taught me alot about life and myself as a person and im so glad i was a teenage mum. Im not nieve enough to say i havent missed out on anything because i know i have. I can't do alot of things other young people do like go out every weekend and alot of my closest friends have drifted away over the past four years but ive gained the two best friends anyone could ever wish for. My girls are my life and becoming a mum at 17 was the best decision i have ever made.
Summary: Despite my age i know im a good mother