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me and my little fighter
Member Name: MRSxSMILER
Advantages: a beatiful baby girl
Disadvantages: people stereostyping
Im a teenage mum (18) have a 5month old daughter. Becoming pregnant was a shock for me and my partner. Telling our parents were hard but they were and still are very supportive. I was (and still are) working as a waitress and my partner was on job seekers allowance. This was the time of the recession and my partner was frantically looking for work.
Around 6months into my pregnancy i was suffering fainting in and out of work and as im an agency worker and do various shifts i have to put my health first and drop to a 4hour shift a week. This cut my pay quite drastically buy my boyfriend managed to get a full time job which enabled me to start my maternity leave. I went on maternity leave October the 18th 2009. My daughter wasn't due til January the 9th but came six weeks early and made her appearance 27th November (day after my partners birthday)
As she came so early my birthing plan went out the window and i had to do it how the doctors said. I was giving some kind of orange tablet to try and stop my labour. I had to have this every hour, it tasted like mouthwash and dyed my mouth orange. I had a monitor strapped on my stomach to monitor my daughters heart beat. This was very stressful as i wanted to walk around, i had to ask when i was the toilet and had to lye on my back for the whole thing. I also had to have an injection in my bum to help mature my daughters lungs. The doctor turned round to me and said "will give you 4 injections, 10 hours apart" I was horrified to think they would leave me lying on the bed, not able to eat drink or move for 40 hours.
When she was born she was put on my stomach for 30 seconds then taken to get her breathing started. After this they took her out the room down to the premature baby unit. I was left lying on the bed barely remembering what she looked like. I went back to a room where i could sleep, but it was about 10 minutes from my daughter. My partner wanted to stay with me but wosnt aloud so i was left in a room full of other women and there babies all by myself. The next morning i woke up and desperately wanted to see my daughter. A nurse took me down to see her. It was very strict and i had to wash my hands VERY WELL and every time i wanted to see her. My family and friends also had to wash their hands. The nurse looking after kaitlyn told me about how she'd been and when her needs feed was, she also told me i couldnt hold her. There were tiny little door around her incubator which you were aloud to put your hands into stroke her. I sat staring at her for ages, i didnt feel like a monther and felt like i coudlnt bond with her. When it came to food time i was aloud her out to feed her and had to put her straight back in, she had to have her nappy changed inside the incubator which was very hard as there was little space and she had alot of wires on. The next day she was moved into a different nursery (moved here once they are progressing) but still wasnt near me but i was now aloud a 5 minute cuddle. The day after that they decided she was well enough to come out of the incubator and we were both moved to a mother and baby room. There was me thinking i would be able to hold her, but i was very wrong. You wernt aloud to walk around with your baby and as my daughter had problems controlling her temperature she was on a special heated bed. She also had a high level of jawndess and had to go into a special incubator but was aloud to stay with me. She was in there for 24 hours. Me and my daughter were in hospital for 8 days when i finally got the all clear. I called my partner and he got us after work. We both took it in turns of holding her as much as possible for the first few days after she came home. I finally felt like a mother.
Through the whole of my pregnancy i had to see a specialist simple because i was a young mum and (apparently) many young mums have small unhealthy babies. The specialist was very horrible to me and made me out to be anorexic but ive always been slim. All of my blood tests came back perfect, i never smoked, drank or ate anything i was ment to during my pregnancy and Kaitlyn grew fine and had no problems what so ever. Even though her growth was fine i still had to be monitored closely incase she suddenly dipped in weight. Now 5months on i have a very smiley, very chunky little baby girl. When on her stomach she lifts her head very well and is always laughing. The health visitors are amazed at how well she is doing and call her "the little fighter".
Im looking to go back to work when in august as thats when my maternity allowance stops. We receive child and working tax credits becaue we are entitled to. I receive maternity allowance because i worked before my pregnancy. These are the only benefits we receive and have just got a flat. Not all young parents live of benefits and i think that stereotype needs to be wipe out. I hate the look i get when i walk down the streets, very similar to the look i got when i was pregnant. But i just ignore them but im the same as a middle aged mum, only younger.
Summary: dont stereotype teen parents