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Having children at a young age doesn't make you incapable of putting your priorities in order!
Member Name: emmacuf
Date: 19/03/12, updated on 19/03/12 (137 review reads)
Advantages: Young to play and bring up your kids and see them grow.
Disadvantages: Money is tight and somthimes you need help from familys.
Teenage pregnancy, there are many different views on this topic. I would like to share my opinion and story on this with you.
In the January of 2005 I met this lovely lad called Darrel, within a month we were an item. I couldn't off asked for a nicer guy, I had seen a few guys before but this was nothing really when I think about how me and Darrel were with each other. As time went on we went to festivals together and went on trips to London to seen bands. We couldn't off asked for a better relationship, not only was he my boyfriend, he became my best friend.
You know when the beginning of a relationship it really good, and then all of a sudden it starts to die down. Well within a year later this started to happen, we would argue more than anything. It got thought, but with no responsibility's this just became really silly so we treated ourselves to a holiday together away. May 2007 we took a trip to centre parks. And this made us realise that we had such a good relationship and that it is worth saving. Things were good for a couple of months after we went away and I told him we needed to talk. So there was him thinking I was going to split up with him. I broke down and told him I was pregnant. I then told him I had already gone to a doctor who worked out I was around 12 weeks pregnant. And I was keeping the baby. He was fine with this but was more in shock!
AT this time we didn't live together and couldn't afford to put down a deposit on a property. And they council houses were not an option in my opinion; round our area they aren't too nice and very rough. Not somewhere I would want to bring up a child.
So after telling family the same day no one was talking to me, 17 and pregnant! Well obviously this is the worst thing that could happen according to them. But I was in my own bubble, about to become a mummy, how amazing.
My father soon came round to the idea and asked if Darrel would like to move into our home so he can be a proper father to the baby. I thought this was a great idea but only on the condition it would be until we have saved up a deposit for a flat.
Feb 2008 my beautiful baby girl was born into the world at 2.31 in the afternoon. It was the most amazing experience in the world and Darrel was there for me thought the labour and birth! Amazing, daddy gave her first bottle to her. He even cried as he was so happy and proud of her. Isobel is now 4 years old.
8 months later we finally had saved enough to purchase a property of our own and we moved into a two bed flat.
I was so happy with my little family I wouldn't of had it any other way.
Then our relationship got rough again and we were ready to split up, but keep it friendly for Isobel's sake. We thought a family holiday would make take the stress of things, both working and barely getting any time together we thought it would do us some good.
Yeah as you guess a few weeks later I needed to talk to him again, our second baby was coming into the world, and on 5th march 2010, Freddie Jax was born at 10.52pm.
So at the age of 20 I had 2 children, slightly over being a teenage mum.
Then a surprise of Lillie rose came on the 7th September 2011 via C-section.
So I started at the age of 18, classed as a teenage mum. Obviously a bad mum due to my age!
But I have proved so many people wrong, yes I have had my kids young but I wouldn't have it any other way. And no they weren't planned, but it has brought everyone closer together.
My children are growing up fast and healthy! Isobel now attends playgroup and love it! Every night they have story's and get cuddles before bed.
Just because I'm a young mum doesn't mean I'm a bad mum!
I have the same facilities and work to earn money just like the older mums, it doesn't mean I'm less capable of looking after them.
I find this quite a touchy subject due to people who I went to school with really kicked up a stink. Saying I was wasting my life, well no not really, I enjoyed my free time before and no I don't go out drinking and wasting my money like a lot of 22 year olds do, but I have something so much more, a loving family who appreciate me, a beautiful home and a job that pays the bills.
I suppose I do miss little things like going out to see friends and being able to buy myself new clothes. But that's the things you need to push to one side once your babies are in the world, they are the most important thing.
And I must say my kids dress better than me! And they are happy and a lot more polite and well behaved than some of the other mums kids are the playgroup. So being a young mum doesn't really mean anything, as long as you've got your priorities in the right place.
Summary: I wouldnt have it any other way.