A teenage point of view! (Teenage Pregancy)

Member Name: Roxie_228

Product:	Teenage Pregancy
Date:	24/12/02 (169 review reads)
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Advantages: A child is born

Disadvantages: A slow start to life, Too much responsibility, Not fair on the child born

Being a teenager in some ways i have more and in some ways i have less to contribute here. I am hoping that my own attitude towards teenage pregnancy is the right attitude...

For a start parents can never be to blamed for the pregnancy, perhaps for a few of the events leading up to it, or maybe not caring for and educating their daughters in the way that they should do but to blame themselves is ridiculous, after all were they the persuasive voice in the back of their childs mind? Maybe in rare cases but the majority are discouraging it, yet their children go ahead anyway. Perhaps as a part of rebellion, perhaps they'd like the thought of a child and do not realise the consequences, or perhaps it was just an accident.

My sister got pregnant when she was 18, she did it to keep a relationship with her boyfriend from splitting up, this is never a good idea and the break up was only delayed for a year. She lives up the road from me and now she is 22, i am thrilled to have a niece and so is my younger brother, however this did not blind us from what has now become of my sister. Her dreams where shattered, she no longer has the life she once had because of the heavy responsibility of young Chloe on her shoulders. She finds relationships more difficult and often drifts into depression, and this is of a 22 year old, so a girl of any younger age will find things even mroe difficult to cope with.

Because of this i now know that i will do everything in my power to stop myself from getting pregnant until i have finished the course that i hope i will be taking in university, although its early days to be able to tell that yet. I do not want to end my life before it has begun. Perhaps that is a little to melodramatic but it is the better idea to have a stable life before you bring someone else into it.

A few of my friends are no longer virgins, 2 years underage, one was pressurised by her boyfriend, this is always a tricky subject as we all
know that any boy who will not wait is not worth it, however it is not always easy enough to get that through to his girlfriend. In my case none of us managed it, it has been 10 months now and my friend is now like a dog to her master and never leaves her boyfriends side, we cannot blame ourselves because we did everything to help. My mothers prediction of this friends future is the same as my sisters, although i sincerely hope this does not happen.
The other of my friends did it purely for the gossip, too many youngsters lose their virginity underage, and THEY are the ones that portray it to be a wonderful and worth while act. However much parents educate their kids you always know that they will be listening to other friends of their age and gossip.

So as a conclusion i think that the teens only have themselves to blame, no matter what the excuse they did not put up all the barriers needed to prevent pregnancy, and if the matter is as with one of my friends i described then they still have themselves to blame, whatever the situation be. But do not hold this against them just be there to help.

If either of my friends fall into this trap i won't be deserting them as surely their boyfriends will be. I can also say with all honesty i wont be sucked into theri way of thinking, no matter what every one else does did or has been doing i am my own person just as everyone else should be.

The main fact to accept is whats done is done, and if it is to far gone for a termination/abortion then the only thing a parent or friend can do is their best to help. The meaning of family and friends is to be there when they are needed, so if you are quick to lecture then maybe rightly so, but it is probably the case that the teen has already realised what they have done and to carry on punishing them is just going to make things worse.

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