I hate being a working mummy!!! (Working Mothers in General)

Member Name: KELLY170980

Product:	Working Mothers in General
Date:	19/10/08 (61 review reads)
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Advantages: If you can do then its brilliant as your children will see a happy confiedent mummy!

Disadvantages: If you hate it then every day is a struggle with your heart strings!!!

I am a working mum, and i hate it !!!!! I had to carry on with my job as i was the higher wage earner and we just could not afford for me to give up work, so we decided that i would carry on and my husband would give up his job and he would stay at home and become a house husband.

To start with it all seemed fine, and i thought i was getting off easily having eight hours out a day, still interacting with adults etc etc....BUT I was so wrong, firstly i should explain i have been diagnosed with post natal/anxiety depression, so that is mainly probally the main reason why I hate being away from the kids so much, but its mainly I miss them terribly and I just wish I could be with them all the time, like my mum was when we were little.
But its not that easy.

Since suffering from depression myself and my husband have been talking about long term and what i should do next whether that be part time work or if i can be a stay at home mum and he goes back to work (which i think he would probally jump at the chance now he has had two years off!!!)

I think that being a working mummy is fine as long as you can manage with that and do not beat yourself up too much about the guilt, but unfortunatly i can't and its a constant struggle everyday to leave my kids and go to work, its not that i do not love my job and collegues as i do.... its just i love my family sooooo much more.

I wish it was easier to juggle the needs of your family with also the wants!!! ..... do i want extra time with my children or do they want a holiday every year...... do i want extra time with them or do they want to carry on with there extra school activities..... do mummy and daddy both work day shifts and they go to childcare??? Whats best??????

If anyone out there, knows how i feel and has any magic answer on how to cope with the guilt and be happy, then please let me know...cos like i said every day is a battle with my heart!!!

I keep trying to be positive and like i said me and my husband really are looking at altertatives so that i do not have to be a working mummy anymore...... but it will take time unfortunatly espeacially in the current finacial climate.

I think there is nothing wrong with being a working mum as long as all parties are happy..... more importantly it does not mean you are a bad mum for working as i try to be the best mummy i can possibly be and try and spend as much quality time with them as possible....just not as much as i would like.

Summary: Being a working mummy is not always done out of choice, and does not mean your not a good mummy!!