Back at work and Weaned (Working Mothers in General)

Member Name: LayneStaley1

Product:	Working Mothers in General
Date:	10/02/09 (58 review reads)
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Advantages: Making ends meet.

Disadvantages: Missing out on precious growing up time

Choosing to return to work and leave your child with completed strangers is the hardest decision in the world.

I agonized for weeks about it, looking into all the possibilities of how we could manage without me working full time.
The bottom line for me was we couldn't manage and I had to return to work.

My mother didn't help me much as she thought I should be at home with my child whatever the cost, but things were different for her when I was small, my father was able to work all sorts of hours to cover our costs and keep her in the life style she became accustom too.

I didn't want my partner doing that, how would our child ever see its father they are important too.

The face of working parents has changed so much, wages are lower, there are more of us in this country, jobs are few and far between, women also want a career and the government dont help that much with child care costs.

Leaving your child and returning to work full time, will and does weigh heavily on any parents mind, it is almost like a weaning process where by both of you will miss each other intensely in the first few weeks but in time the pain will fade.
Invest your time into researching your carer wether it is a nursery or a child minder, you need to have peace of mind in their character, the sort of activities your child will be doing, who is likely to be coming and going and are they experienced, reassurance in all these things will aid a smoother transition back to work.

I find the only way I survive is to have a structured routine where by there is time for your child to eat it's breakfast, get dressed, or even have a hug before being whizzed out the door and dropped off.

My child is only 20 months old I do try and explain to her where I am going and why mummy is leaving, I think she understands a little bit now.

I would say go with all the emotions you feel, for any parent it is a roller coaster ride, but you are doing an admiral thing by providing for your family and ensuring a happy stable future.

Summary: You got to do what you have to do.