Im a stay at home mum and proud (Working Mums vs. Stay at Home Mums)

Member Name: mummy2twogirls

Product:	Working Mums vs. Stay at Home Mums
Date:	01/11/08 (131 review reads)
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Advantages: watching my children grow each day

Disadvantages: money can be tight at times

When i was pregnant with my first child i continued to work right up until i was 34 weeks, the day i finished my boss called me into his office and asked me weather i was planning on returning to work! Before that point it simply hadn't occurred to me,weather i would or not and i told my boss i didn't know, but i was hoping too.
Walking away my mind was bombarded with many of questions as to which i didn't have the answer's for, 'was i going to go back to work?' ' would i be a stay at home mum?' ' would i be able to afford to not work' 'what is best for me and my child' ' could my partner support us both?'.
I decided to wait and see how things turned out after all focusing on my baby was the most important thing right now.

When my daughter was 4 months old, i fell pregnant again, it wasn't planned, but we thought long and hard and decided that it would be nice having two children quite close to each other, another 2 months past and my maternity pay came to end, i wrote to my boss and told him i wouldn't be returning.
and it dawned on me that i would become a full time stay at home mum, at present i was loving being a parent and adored my daughter, each day she would learn something new and i was there to witness it.
Me and my partner sat down one day and worked out our finances, what we where spending, what was our income and yes if we cut back on some luxury we would manage, my partner did extra shifts and things never seemed a problem.
We found out we where having another girl, we meant i already had clothing, moses basket, and a stack of things we didn't need to buy, our main item would be a double pushchair which we picked up next to nothing.
Being at home all day, sometimes i did feel bored, so i thought i would try selling some unwanted bit's on ebay, to try and make some extra income and give me something to do, i even started making handmade card and selling them, which was a success.
When my second daughter arrived i settled into things quite quickly, and loved every minute of it, being at home seemed the only logic thing, to be there for my daughter, we did something different everyday and life was never dull, watching them cut there first tooth, or make their first steps into the big wide world was priceless. We never have plenty of money but enough to get by, i have even looked into going back to work, but the price of childcare is shocking, and i don't like the idea of my children being with people they don't know.
They go to nursery, swimming, and mum and baby groups once a week so they are connecting with other children, and my mum has them once a week to give me and my partner 'me' time.
Lifes great at the moment and will i ever go back to work?? yes but at the moment im enjoying my children as much as i can

Summary: everyones different, and some people have no choices