Staying at home has given my son and i a close bond (Working Mums vs. Stay at Home Mums)

Member Name: wisemind

Product:	Working Mums vs. Stay at Home Mums
Date:	11/01/09 (109 review reads)
Rating:

Advantages: i get to see him grow day by day

Disadvantages: Not finacially great, can miss adult conversation

One of the first things I learnt as a parent is that there is not one right way of doing something there are many and it depends on what works for you are a family.

I am a single parent of a lively twenty month old toddler and had to leave my husband when he was young. His Dad changed the minute I got pregnant and it meant that I was unable to leave my son with him and therefore he has not spent time away from me.
My son as a result has been extremely clingy and I had a sure start worker come in and help him leant that initially that I could leave the room and then come back. This has been a slow process that now means he has been able to go to nursery for two mornings a week. He has only been going for five weeks and is still settling in.
I see definite advantages to having been at home with him. I have been able to take him to parent and toddler groups that has encouraged him to socialise with other children whilst not having to contend with where mommy has gone. My philosophy for brining him up is that I want him to grow independent through security. I have learnt at times he has to be pushed to move on to the next stage of progress but he is moving in the right direction.
I do have an extremely strong bond with my son and that isn't to say working parents don't but we have spent so much time together I do feel that has helped.
I have been able to breast feed my son as long as has suited us as I haven't got to worry about expressing milk for him if I am away from home.
I do think certainly now my son is at an age where he benefits from some time away from me but I don't think he is ready for me to be away from him anymore than a few hours twice a week.
I do plan at some point in my son's life to work as I don't want him to think it is ok to grow up living on benefits but for the time been he needs my time and attention.

I do know people who don't work yet there children don't socialise with other children and I think those children as actually disadvantaged in social development.

Ultimately what works for everyone as a family is what is best. I do think the importance is parenting a child when you are there more than how long you are together.

Summary: I am glad \i have spent time at home with my son ,a opportunity i will not get change to repeat