Working mothers vs stay at home mums (Working Mums vs. Stay at Home Mums)

Member Name: lindseyphilpot

Product:	Working Mums vs. Stay at Home Mums
Date:	17/05/09 (146 review reads)
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Advantages: Depends on your situation

Disadvantages: Nobody should judge

I saw this topic in speakers corner and I just had to add my opinion. I know this is a very controversial subject and everyone is entitled to their opinion but I do think that everyones situation is different and so nobody need judge anyone.

I persoanlly am a stay at home mum but I am lucky enough to have a family and a husband that supports me and my decision to look after my daughter full time. I have a few friends that have recently had to return to work because their maternity leave is over and whether it is what they have chosen to do or what they feel they have to do I do think it is still hard to leave your child with someone else however much you like your work and I have the greatest respect for these mothers.

I have recently witnessed a mother's torture at having to leaver her 9 month old son with the new nanny because she has no choice other than to return to work. While I watched the transition between mother and nanny, the two week period in which the nanny was getting used to the child while mummy was still there I could see the pain in the mothers eyes watching her son learning new things with a new person and she knew only too well that soon it would not be her that would be there when he said his first word or first started walking or crawling but it would more than likely be someone else and it is these mothers that I feel sorry for.

Some people simply have to go back to work, situations and financial situations differ between people and it doesn't make you a better mother just because you stay at home with your child. As long as your child is being looked after and is happy then that is the main thing.

having said that I do not agree with mothers that go back to work too soon and whilst it is hard finacially I do think your bonding time with your child is important and you should always do your best to be with your child for as long as you can.

I suppose it depends on the person and the situation though and either way any mother wants the best and will do their best for their child. If working means putting a roof over the childs head and putting food on the table then surely this mother is doing as much for her child as the mother that stays at home and sticks stickle bricks together all day?

Summary: what do you think?