I am the primary carer of MY child (Working Mums vs. Stay at Home Mums)

Member Name: finnsmummy

Product:	Working Mums vs. Stay at Home Mums
Date:	04/11/09 (58 review reads)
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Advantages: you can watch your child grow and learn

Disadvantages: it can be a bit tireing but dam well worth it

When I fell pregnant with my son (unplanned but a happy thing) I was working full time in a childcare centre that took children from 12 weeks old to 4 years.
We opened form 7 in the morning till half 5 ,5 days a week and was open all year around.
This was a great place to work I had so much fun with ''my'' children spending more time with them then my own husband really!
The one thing I did not like was the fact that most of the children were with us 7-5:30 Monday to Friday , from 12 weeks old I understood their parents had to work to bring in the money but this just seemed a little to much for my likening. (in my opinion).
I think what did it for me was one of the children who was always in ,started to call me 'mummy' I explained over and over ''no sweetey my names paula'' one day when mum came in to pick her up she screamed and screamed over and over crying out and holding her hands out to me saying ''mummy mummy'' over and over ,I could see this broke her mums heart.
I had a chat with her and we worked together in making sure she knew who mummy was (flash cards ect) and to be fair tho I saw this child more then her own parents . : (
I also on the other hand saw most of the children thrive in the environment but I promised to myself when I have my baby I am going to look after him, no one else is going to ''bring up my child''.

So im a stay at home mum , I do work a Thursday from 9-3 and my Nan comes over and has finn for the day , this gives him the chance to spend some time with her (which she loves and so does he) she gives him a different prospective on her expectations of him.
I work this day to gain a higher qualification at my family's preschool.

So to the old cookie that staying at home means no extra money ,at the end of the day my husband is the bread winner he works long days and often gets home only an hour before finn hit the hay for the night at 7.
We are pretty much broke all the time , we make sure any spare cash we have gets spent on thing like all going swimming together and picnics or saving for Christmas.

At the end of the day is it worth the money to have your child in care all day? In my case no! Finn thrives at home we go walking toddler clubs, painting we visit friends of his age , we fill our days with fun activities and this is worth more to me then the money.

My mum stayed at home with me and my brother and sister till we all hit school then went out and worked but only till we finished school meaning I had a fantastic childhood (thanks mum I can never thank you anoth )

To me I don't see the point of having kids if you aren't going to be with them most of the time while they are young.

Summary: im a stay at home mummy and proud of it