How to achieve the Best of both worlds (Working Mums vs. Stay at Home Mums)

Member Name: Roxie_228

Product:	Working Mums vs. Stay at Home Mums
Date:	24/12/02 (193 review reads)
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Advantages: Working mum , AND, Stay at home mum

Disadvantages: dont know!

Working Mums vs Stay at home mums.

My parents divorced when I was 11, not too young but not old enough to look after myself, but I managed it. My younger brother needed all the help he could get, as he has an extreme condition called sturge weber he has very limited concentration. My mum needed to keep life as it would have been if my father had stayed. Aswell as paying off the debts she manages to maintain a balance, and she worked her butt off when it came to birthdays and christmas. So yes, she was a working mum.

I think that, had she been a stay at home mum we would not have received what we asked for and had the need for, e.g new clothes and shoes, school equipment etc, thus we would have felt different from all other children. At the age I was and in the school I was attending there were not at all many single parents, every child was a member of a happy family, I soon moved on to secondary school and needed even more help. My mum had chosen to be a working mum, she changed her job to part time, giving us the best of both worlds. My brother went to a childminder whilst I was given my own house key.
I have always been told that I had to mature faster than necessary, whether I did it successfully I do not know but I managed my first 2 years at secondary school single handedly.

My mum had working hours at a hospital from 7.30 til 12.30 this meant that I had to get myself ready and off to school at the right time without forgetting anything. This was only a weekday situation and my mother was at the weekends ready to help and be helped. Our family ran better than clockwork, and far better than it had with my father. Although at times my mum became depressed she worked really hard and got tired, at which point me and my brother would pitch in.

If my mum was a stay at home mum, she would be here 24/7 and therefore would not have such a good social life which would run her down, as my mum is an extremely outgoing and chatty pe
rson. I also think that she then would not have enough to keep her occupied, and would have begun to pry into my school work (which aggrovates me excessively).

As a conclusion I personally prefer neither term of a mother. But a mother who only works part-time would complete the balance perfectly, being able to provide for her children at the same time as being there for them and care for them in all the ways necessary. Children should always come first.

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