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      17.08.2005 23:28
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      Only do this if you really don't want anymore children.

      I underwent a vasectomy operation in March 2005. I will talk about the experience in 3 seperate categories (pre-op, operation, and post-op) and try to advise the reader who may be considering this course of action.

      Pre-Op

      Myself and my wife have 4 children ranging in age from twin girls aged 3 yrs, to 2 older girls (age - 10 & 11 yrs old). We have recently moved to a 3 bedroom house and finances are tight to say the least. I decided to have a vasectomy for 2 reasons - simply, after long discussions, myself and the 'better' half have decided we do not want any more children, (we also have a high chance of having twins again), and we cannot financially provide for any more children. Our children are our world and we love them very much, but when deciding on a vasectomy, you must think practically and seek advice and support and consider every eventuality from all angles; be totally honest with yourself and your partner. We knew something had to be done to ensure no 'mistakes' happened. My wife had to undergo a ceasarian section when our twin girls were born, and we learned that her sterilisation is a major operation; a vasectomy for me is a simple procedure. After a lot of discussion, I, with my wife's support, arranged to see the Doc.

      I was very apprehensive/embarrassed when I walked into the room, and managed after a bit of coaxing to utter the 'V' word. Doc smiled in an understanding way and talked me through the procedure. Doc made sure I understood that this involved a minor operation, that the operation was a simple procedure and would involve local anaesthetic, there is a small chance of failure, and I would face some discomfort and swelling afterwards. A letter arrived thru the post a few weeks afterwards confirming that I had been referred for my vascetomy and also contained an advice leaflet which I found really helpful. In this area we are lucky as there doesn't seem to be a waiting list for vasectomies, I made a phone call to the hospital as soon as I recieved the letter & was offered a choice of 3 appointments, 1 the next week , 1 a month later & 1 the month after.

      Operation

      Arriving at the hospital, (arrange a lift/taxi/take the bus if you can - after the op you may feel a bit shaky from the anaesthetic, I wouldn't recommend driving), I was met by a nurse, and I changed into a hospital gown. A few questions were asked and then I went into the waiting room (ignoring the twit in the corner making signals pretending to bash two bricks together!) and within minutes the Doctor called my name and took me through to the operating theatre. The Doc confirmed I understood the procedure and asked if I had any questions ("yep, where's the door?!").Then it was time for a lie down. Doc explained the procedure as it was happening and the nurses chatted away. It was a calm, controlled environment - firstly injections to numb the area (just below the ball-sac), and then small incisions are made on both sides of the sac, my internal tubes were cut ("Would you like to see the tubes? Er-NO!), and within no time at all - it was over. No stitching! My first question was "is that it?". Apparently so.

      On leaving the hospital you are given 2 little pots. After 4 months you are asked to return to the hospital to leave a sample. Hopefully after this test you will be given the all clear. I have yet to do this procedure(!)

      Post-op

      The only way I can describe the feeling afterwards is weird and uncomfortable (the discomfort varies from person to person). The car journey home was fun - my father, trying to be funny, decided at one point to find the biggest pot hole to bump over (I won't repeat what I said to him, but it was understandably colourful!).

      It is very important after having this operation that you rest for 2 days. The reason for this is by resting you will aid recovery quicker, and the swelling/bruising will heal more easily. Don't be a hero and mow the lawn etc; there is a high chance you will pay dearly for this and recovery will be slower. Use the time for R&R.


      In summary I would recommend this to anyone who is seriously considering this course of action who has contemplated every possible scenarios. You MUST be 100% sure - yes, you can have a reversal op in the future, but you can never be sure this will work. Don't be embarrased approaching your Doctor/seeking advice, this op is performed routinely many times a day, and believe me, the doctors and nurses have seen it all before! If you are considering having a vasectomy, I hope this has helped, you have a big decision to make. Thanks for reading this, feedback would be greatly appreciated.

      P.S This is a fact - after the op, you do need to empty your tubes frequently,of all remaining live sperm - I will leave it to your imagination how to accomplish this. Have fun!


      N.B In case you hadn't realised this review was written by James my husband.

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        02.12.2003 21:08
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        I was joking honest! So uncross your legs boys and stop wincing now!! Girls stop grinning that smile too it makes the boys worried! Those scissor movements with your fingers appears to be worrying them as well.... Many of you will know I'm an eye nurse and will wonder why I seem to know rather alot about the snip, the final cut or to give it it's proper name a vasectomy. A few years ago I worked in a day surgery unit which did many different types of procedures and operations. My boss realized that the eye nurses didn't actually do very much on a wednesday afternoon and decided that we could become Vassy Nurse every Wednesday not something we looked on with great joy . Given that the majority of people in their late 30's and 40's have completed their families, it's no wonder that a permanent reliable contraceptive measure is needed. For total reliability and permanence without having to remember to take things on a regular basis, then sterilisation could well be the answer. Female sterilisation is an operation that necessitates a general anesthetic and runs the risk that any abdominal surgery has. A Vasectomy can be done with out a general anesthetic - yes you do get an anesthetic so stop panicking now! It is a far easier procedure to do and without too many risks. So you've decided that you want to have the snip then? Or has your beloved along with her Mum and her mates decided that YES you are going to go have. So that fated morning comes as you munch on your cornflakes and your better half informs you that you're having the snip no questions asked, stop choking on your corn flakes and be brave! ~History~ Vasectomies have been documented in medical case notes since 1830. No the Victorians weren't the fore runners in family planning the first vasectomies were done on "Delinquents, degenerates, drug habitues and idiots" I suppose it's a bit like getting your antisoci
        al tom cat done.... In 1918 it was known as "Steinarching". It was thought that by doing this it would heighten a man's intellect and his sexual performance. It was also thought to control excessive masturbation.Notables that had been "Steinarched" at this time included Sigmund Freud and William Yates. This obviously proves the old myth that your not a real man if you've had the snip completely wrong... It wasn't until the 1940's in the USA that Vasectomies were actually done for contraceptive purposes, the rest of the West was to follow suit by the 1960's. In India a scandal in the 1970's erupted when a whole scale mass vasectomy programme was launched bribing any man -married or unmarried to have a vasectomy done with the gift of a radio. Unfortunately alot of the men who accepted the gift didn't realise that they would be unable to father children! ~What is a Vasectomy~ Basically a vasectomy is where the Vas Deferens tubes are cut, then either clipped or tied with suture material. It does not effect your hormonal levels nor the production of sperm. Basically it prevents the little swimmers from escaping! ~What to expect~ The vast majority of vasectomies are done under a local anesethic on a day case basis. Different hospitals have different procedures so I'm going to give you a whistle stop tour of what happened in the hospital I worked in. On arrival all patients were admitted to the unit, a brief health questionnaire was filled in with the patients and baseline observations of Blood Pressure and Pulse were done. A brief explanation of the procedure was done and the patients were given their "goodie bag" at this point - more about the goodie bag later. Some hospitals take patients into the operating theatres we actually used treatment room so that patients didn't have to get completely undressed and wear those awful unflatteri
        ng theatre gowns. When we took patients into the treatment room we made sure the screens were outside the doors, modesty covers were available and the patient was left to undress their bottom half by themselves. We used to have the radio playing to relax patients it wasn't my fault honest that time it blared out: " the first cut is always the deepst...." Once the patient was ready, the Consultant ( yes it was always a Consultant so don't panic boys your wedding tackle is in safe hands...) would explain again the procedure, the risks involved and would also explain it was a permanent procedure and if they wanted it reversed that this operation was not largely successful and was not available on the NHS. The patient then signed the consent form or ran out of the room screaming at this point.... The Consultant would then examine the patient to locate the Vas, grumble about bad shaving and decide to carry on at this point. Sometimes if a patient had previous surgery down there or other conditions it would be cancelled and the patient would be brought back for a general anesthetic. At this point it became a bit like lights, camera, action as you see in the movies. The modesty blanket was removed, I aimed the operating lights at the star attraction and the Consultant then throw over the green operating towels complete with a little window. A vasectomy normally takes on average 10 minutes per side. The Consultants I worked with were pretty fast.The scrutum is then cleaned with a warm cleaning agent ( warm for two reasons to stop the patient jumping and to stop certain bits erm shriveling) The local aneasthetic is injected with a small needle ( yes it is a small needle honest!!). Once things were totally numb and the patient had stopped crushing my hand the consultant would then proceed to make a small incision in the scrutum, then locate the Vas (- which really does look like chicken ligaments you get in chicken legs) then gentle tug at
        it to get a small amount visible. Some patients at this point felt a slight tugging or queasy sensation in their stomach. the Vas would then be clamped off at two points. The gap in the middle is then snipped away. The two ends are then either clipped with surgical staples or tied with suture material. The outer wound was then sutured with dissolvable suture. The procedure was then repeated for the other side. After it was all finished the patient was allowed to get dressed and taken to the discharge lounge where if we remembered we made them a cuppa! ~Aftercare~ It is recommended that following a vasectomy that tight briefs are worn to help with support. For the first week it is recommended that you refrain from any physical activity ( no not that kind of physical activity)such as heavy lifting, team sports such as rugby etc. You might well want to take some kind of pain killers prior ot the local wearing off. The wounds need to be kept clean and dry so showers are advisable instead of a bath ~The Goodie bag~ Following a vasectomy it is important to remember that you are not completely safe for a number of months. A male produces sperm in the testicles this then travels via the vas to the epididmyus where it is stored till it matures then it "escapes". Therefore any sperm that is being stored is still capable of shall we say escaping. Alternative contraceptive methods need to be used until you are given the all clear. This is where your goodie bag comes in. the hospital I worked at needed samples at 4 weeks, 8 weeks and 12 weeks after the vasectomy. The NHS doesn't provide a service to give you a helping had either- yes I have been asked that question! ~FAQ's~ Can it join up again? - this is a slight urban myth but there is a possibility it can some papers suggest about a 0.03% chance Will I still be a real man? - Yes! Hormonal production is no
        t affective and the swimmers only make up 3-5% of seminal fluid so yes there will still be a blinking wet patch!!! Will a vasectomy protect me against STD's and HIV? - No So if the swimmers can't get out surely I'll be effected by this?- nope! All men produce millions of sperm and the body naturally reabsorbs them should they not find an escape route Now if you'll excuse me I'm off to warm some bricks....

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          14.10.2003 22:46
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          My recollection of the Big Cut......( was it really eight years ago ? ) Ten years ago , with three kids to care for , one being disabled ( I hate the word handicapped ) , my wife and I thought enough was enough and it was time to control our urges . However our disabled daughter was severely behind in all aspects and just turned two years old . We approached our doctor , but unusually he recommended another child , in the belief that it would help bring on our daughter ( now that makes a change eh , a doctor recommending a birth ! ) , just the opposite of what we intended . Anyway to cut a long story short , we did as he suggested ( oh what great fun !!! :-) ) , and has it has happened he was correct in his assumptions . Okay , so our baby was born , and at this time it was decided , that breeding had to stop . My wife?s last birth was breech with complications , the one previous was our disabled daughter ( ten + doctors rushing into a delivery room when an alarm goes off ain?t no fun I can tell you , let alone a child in ICU for five weeks and a heart op to contend with ) , so we sat down and looked at the possibilities . Basically , to be foolproof , the woman can have a sterilisation or the bloke a vasectomy . Now considering what my wife has been put through ( labour is enough ) , I thought it only right for me to undergo the snip . Off to the doctors , who then referred us to the local hospital . Three months later and an appointment came through , which we duly attended . This time a doctor unknown to us , described to us what happens , and put pressure on us with things such as ? Now ,if you divorced Mr.Kidd , and you?ve has the vasectomy , and then you remarry , what happens if you want to start another family ? ? , and ? Okay then , suppose an accident occurred and one or more of your children were killed , would you want more ? ? . Not very nice questions you say , but I suppose he was putting the wors
          t seniors to us , just to make certain. That over with , both our signatures were required to consent for such an operation to take place - yes the boss has to give her consent as well . Incidentally , why are such meetings and subsequent operations done in the anti-natal clinic ward of the hospital ? Forms signed , off we went home to await an operation date , which for me came a few days later for the following week ( were they trying to tell me something ? ) , along with some basic do?s and don?ts - the most notable do , being shave yer bollocks the night before ( Now that was weird , standard shaving is a norm , but shaving there - just be careful ) . On the day of the op , babysitter secured off we went to the clinic . A few others were there , and the looks on our faces told it all , PANIC , and we?re all here for the same thing !! One by one off they go , then it?s my turn . Into a room , drop your trousers etc. and lie on the bed - no hospital gown needed here . A nurse covered up my modesty and I awaited the surgeon . Once there , he explained the op , reconfirmed my wish for it to commence , and got a further signature from me . Then came the local anesthetic into me ball bag ( that bloody hurt initially I can tell you ) , followed by the access incision , and then to the op itself. I can honestly say it did not hurt , but the sensation you feel can never be repeated , nor accurately described . The vas is located and pulled out , simply cut and tied at both ends to halt the transporting of your sperm ) , all this is felt from your stomach downwards . This done and a simple stitch up follows , wait ten minutes and off you are sent home , along with you two obligatory sample bottles . At this time you are advised to take it easy for a day or so . It can be quite painful apparently , I myself didn?t find it too uncomfortable , the worst being that hair growing back - itchy or what ( you women have all th
          e fun.....! ) . Avoid sex until you feel well enough , but don?t forget you still need to use alternative contraception , as those baby makers still roam within. Seven days later the op you are supposed to visit your doctor to have the stitches removed . I just removed them myself ( oh how macho ) . Six weeks later , and a sample has to be given to the hospital for checking ( now boys , milk it for all its worth - no , on second thoughts get your other half to milk it !!! ). Additionally , tell her the more more sex , and the quicker those little buggers go ( well it?s worth a go , and you may as well make the most of it ! ) . Another six weeks later , and the second sample has to be provided for testing . If all goes well you are notified that you are now impotent , if not , well I suppose you start the procedure again ? So what of those old wives tales , you know , no more erections , no further orgasms etc . NO FEARS , all works as normal , you won?t even notice it . As for sex ,it gets better , not having to worry about little ?uns on the way . You can also forget the rubbers , and make a mess while your enjoying yourself ( after all you ain?t gotta clean up afterwards ! ) , so go on what are you waiting for

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            16.01.2002 23:20
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            The First Cut Is The Deepest………. It all happened in 1985 when my wife told me she was pregnant with our fourth child, I nearly passed out. It was totally out of the blue and I was in shock. I normally laugh when people say that they are pregnant and it was an accident but in this case that’s exactly what it was. We had three kids and didn’t want four but my daughter is 16 today and I wouldn’t be without her now……. After we found out my wife was pregnant I decided I would get a Vasectomy so I made an appointment with my Doctor. I arrived at the surgery and we had a long chat as to whether I was sure that this is what I wanted to do. He asked me to think about years to come and if I ever decided I wanted more kids, or even get remarried. He did tell me though that it can be reversed and I have known of people that had it done having children at a future date so I said to go ahead and make me an appointment for the operation…… The first step was an interview at the Hospital for my wife and myself. It was the same conversation I had with my own Doctor but we were both agreed that we didn’t want anymore kids…. I then had to leave a sample with them and then await a date for the operation. Unfortunately that lovely little nurse doesn’t help you with the sample, you do that in the comfort of your own home, just make sure you pull the curtains. I am not a coward but no way was I going to be awake while someone was cutting away at my private parts. I arranged to be knocked out for the operation as I had a few workmates that had bad experiences with the local anesthetic…….. I got the date for my operation and arranged for a friend to drive me there and collect me afterwards. I arrived at the hospital and felt really nervous, I was after all not just getting an operation I was also losing a bit of my life. I would from that day on be
            unable to have children and the thought dwelled at the back of my mind….. I got undressed and then had the relevant bits shaved and put on the operating trolley. Into the theatre, given the injection to knock me out, count backwards. 10, 9, 8, 7 …zzzzzzzzzz. I remember very clearly even today waking up in that hospital bed. My very first action was to lift the blanket just to see that it was still there, it was!. I felt no pain at all, I had the operation at 10am and was awake in the bed before 11am. At 12am they brought me a light lunch and by 3pm my friend had arrived to pick me up. It was slightly painful getting dressed but they gave me dressings and explained the after care to me. The actual operation of course consisted of them cutting the tube that the sperm travels up and tying it . You can actual feel the join of the tubes even to this day but there is no scar left at all……. The real pain of the operation kicks in the next day. I remember getting undressed to get into the bath and looking down at it. The whole area was just totally black with the sort of severe bruising you get from a nasty kick, and over the coming days it would turn from black to yellow. It was very difficult to actually move about and very uncomfortable. The pain wasn’t that bad but just looking at the bruising that first week was an eye opener, the worst I have ever seen. Be very sure in the bath to clean it well as I have known of a few people that have picked up infections afterwards. It may be tender to wash but do take that extra time to clean it well….. The first day I went out I walked a bit like Charlie Chaplin or a penguin for the benefit of our younger readers. I had to cross a main road and halfway across a car came speeding towards me, the sight of me speeding up must have really looked funny…… I think its 3 months later that you go back to the Hospital to get your sperm co
            unt tested. It comes back negative and you receive a letter in the post from them telling you that you have been tested negative in your sperm count. That actually hurt me a bit mentally, it is a big thing for a man to give up his ability to get a woman pregnant, call it a male thing!.. Does it lower your sex drive, well anyone that reads my stuff on a regular basis will be thinking he connected the sperm tube to my brain. All I can say is no it doesn’t , but over many years of marriage you perhaps wonder what is the point in having it done. You can return to a normal sex life after about 4 weeks and the feeling of sex is absolutely no different than before you had the snip…… So to end would I advise anybody to get a Vasectomy. Well I suppose I would as it’s easier for the man to get it done and it is only a small amount of temporary discomfort that you have to put up with. Years later if you meet someone else there is always the fact you can get it reversed. That’s if you fancy a surgeon attacking your private parts for a second time. Myself, I am very fussy who I let near my dearest bits but if a special person arrived on the scene I wouldn’t think twice of returning to get it reversed…….. Anyway I hope that was of some help to you, thank you yet again for your read, as ever your Jaffa friend online………. Art…………16th January 2002……………

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              Sometimes, you do things that have such a significant bearing on your life, that the hatred you have for the people who helped you make a so-called “RIGHT” decision cannot be explained in words. Let me tell you the tale of woe that befitted myself some 12 years ago. I was 25 years old, and had been married just over a year, when my wife at the time decided she wanted a hysterectomy. Now Jonathan, my son and her third child, was a wanted child, so don’t think otherwise. However he was my second, and as I mentioned above, her third child. When we went to see the specialist, he decided that it would be so much easier for me to have a vasectomy, as it was cheaper for the NHS! I went along with this, as at 25, with two lovely children, I was happy and though naïve, thought my relationship was fine. Basically. I knew no different, and I was happy at the time. It is a simple procedure, you turn up at the hospital as a day patient, and are given a bed for a short period of time. The nurse then comes in and asks if you wish to shave you dangly bits yourself or if you would like her to do it for you! I had done it myself the night before as I was tipped off about this bit, and politely rebuffed her psychotic wish. They took me to the operating theatre and an anaesthetist did the necessary mixing and off to sleep I went. A few hours later, I woke up sperm less! The whole operation is painless and other than a slight discomfort for a few days, none life threatening. If anyone were considering this as an end to child baring fish seeds, then I would say it is worth doing, however reversal is a totally different story. Then, as fate would have it, darkened clouds loomed over our once was happy relationship. 2 years later, a single man, and 27 years old! We split basically because my then wife decided that she didn’t want to 
              220;belong” to one man and wanted to “enjoy” life! That made me feel boring, inadequate and somewhat inferior. However, being a typical male, I bounced back in style and some two weeks later ended up with a friend of hers after one drunken night of pleasure. This “fiend” sorry “friend” told her that we had slept together and she went ballistic! Turned out she thought that after a few months of her playing the field and having some fun, we could have got back together again! Really, that is what she said. I said that there would never be any chance of reconciliation, as I don’t like people playing with my emotions. That is where it turned bitter. So for 5 years, I never got to see my kids. I met Sherry, my wife (second for those counting) 2 years later, and we have now been together 7 years. Sherry is the most understanding and affectionate woman I have ever met in my life, and was fully aware of the situation about what was held, or rather not held, in my scrotum. Granted, I never used this as a chat up line in the pub, although something along the lines of “how do you like your eggs, fertilised or attacked by my unfertile fish?” may have got a giggle, who knows? As time went on, we fell in love, got married etc, etc. 4 years ago we decided that we would like to have a child together. I made enquiries, but the NHS did not want to know. “We do not do reversals on the National health sir!” Private it had to be. I sold as many cars as I could for a few months and made the money I needed to get to good old BUPA and have the reversal (not called the pins, although that is snip reversed!) So in a nut shell (pardon the pun) £2000, and 3 weeks off work, and it was done! 4 years later, no children. It didn’t work, and there were compli
              cations so no point in trying again :o( Unlike the snip, the reversal is a torturous and painful experience, and it was a good four or five days before I could walk down stairs without taking half an hour. It was three weeks before I could work again. We are thinking of adopting, but every time I see Sherry look at children, I feel a hatred for the advice I was given so young. Not just the advice, but also the whole situation. Who in their right mind would tell someone at the age of 25 to get a snip? Who in their right mind would tell anyone who had only been married a year to get the snip? That day I escorted her to the doctors will live with me forever, but hey, I am so glad it saved the NH some few hundred quid, it makes all the difference. To know that Sherry can never have children with me is so wrong. As one person said to me once, “but she knew the score when she met you!” stop and think about it for a minute. How many times do you get into a relationship that is 100% right at the time and not think about years ahead, children, house and garden, etc? Sherry accepted the position I was in then, and accepts it now, but it still doesn’t stop that tear building up in the corner of her eye whenever her friends tell her they are pregnant. It doesn’t stop that feeling of emptiness she has whenever she holds someone’s baby. It doesn’t help the hurt inside, knowing that she can’t bare our child. We will have a child through other means soon, be it adoption, or by other medical means, and I know that when it happens, Sherry will feel whole and she will be the best mother ever, and she deserves that right. Why do I write this? So that anyone who is thinking about having a vasectomy as some sort of contraception, think twice. There are many ways and methods of contraception that I recommend you
              try before going down the road of no, or little, return. Don’t think that it means you can forget your responsibilities, or that you will save a couple of quid every time you sleep with someone, as it is not about that. A vasectomy is about changing the course of you whole life, whether it be a mutual agreement or seen as a means to an end of your brood. Stop and ask yourself this. If your partner were to leave you the day after it happened, are you still young enough to start a family with someone else, and would you want to. If you answer to any of those questions is yes, then maybe a snip is not the best advice for you. Go out and buy a large pack of condoms, and wait a while longer. I hope that this story helps at least one person think hard about a serious, life changing decision. Good Luck Angus

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                Having a child each from previous relationships, more children have never been on the agenda for myself and hubby. I couldn't think of anything worse than going back to night time feeds, and nappy changing. I did offer to chop hubby's bits off with a knife... strangely he declined, so we opted for a vasectomy instead! It may, to some of you, seem a little odd that I have chosen this topic. I mean, it wasn't my tubes being tortured was it? Nope! But for those of you in a relationship where a permanent method of birth control is being considered (and you must think of this as permanent), both partners are equally involved despite only one party going under the knife. As I said at the beginning, children have never been a consideration in our relationship. I was on the pill until December of 2000 when I decided it was doing me no good, and so stopped taking it. I didn't want to jump to another hormone based method of birth control, nor did the thought of the coil do anything for me. The other option for me was sterilization, but it's a longer and more complicated procedure - and not the preferred option of the medical profession. So, we settled on condoms for a while, but reliable as they are, you kind of always have that nagging worry in the back of your mind what if?... What if it splits, what if it comes off, what if an anti birth control nutter has been rampaging in the condom factory and has made pin prick holes in my pack of 3? (Okay, so the latter is a little far fetched, but you get the picture). After some serious discussions between myself and hubby, we decided the best option for us would be a vasectomy. Hubby approached our doctor in June 2001. He was subjected to a good 30 minutes of interrogation. Not interrogation of a bad kind, but to ensure he fully understood the implications of the procedure. The doctor then requested that we both saw him. That's not to say he wouldn't have
                okayed the procedure without my consent, nor is it to say all health authorities work in the same manner, but certainly in our case, my willingness for the op to go ahead meant the doctor, having spoken to us both, was quite happy to refer us straightaway. We heard confirmation from the hospital within a couple of weeks, and had to sign a form of our intention to proceed. That we did, and at the end of July received an appointment for the 31st August 2001. Along with the appointment date, was a consent form, and a leaflet about the vasectomy itself. So, fast forward to D-day or should that be V-day? Our appointment was at 2pm, and having ensured hubby met the requirements of pre op state which were 2 baths, a new hair do (sorry, a shave down below), tight pants, and a light lunch, we arrived (for a change) with a few minutes to spare. We were greeted by a male nurse and taken into a consultation room where he explained the procedure briefly to us and ensured we had read the leaflet. He also presented us with a sterile pad, sample jars, and lab forms (more about those later). We were then left with a tape to listen too, made by the doctor who was to perform the op. The tape explained the procedure, aftercare, national statistics for success (99%) and his own personal statistics (just 5 failures in over 2000 ops performed, so more successful than the national average) The doctor then came in, and asked one simple question "Why do you want a vasectomy?", the answer "Because we don't want any more children!". That was all he wanted to hear, a definite declaration. He briefly re-capped over the tape, gave us the chance to ask questions, and then left us to wait for the nurse, having requested that hubby strip down to his shirt and pants. A couple of minutes later, the nurse (a female one this time), came into the consultation room and took us through to the operating room. (I say operating room, be
                cause to say theatre would strike images of major surgery which it really isn't.) Anyway, hubby had to get up on the table, lie down on his back (surprise surprise) and lower his pants to his knees. The nurse chatted away to us both, whilst the doc swabbed hubby's pubic area and prepared him for the op, laying a large piece of green paper over the area, leaving just the scrotum exposed. Next step, injections into the skin of the scrotum to numb the area. Hubby isn't good with needles, so my hand got crushed, but hey, far less painful than childbirth I can assure you, so I smiled sweetly (and mentally plotted revenge). The doc then proceeded to feel the scrotum in order to locate the sperm tubes (vas deferens) and made a small incision to access them. The doc gripped a section of the vas with forceps, pulled it out through the incision and held it up in a loop. He then took an instrument that bared resemblance to a soldering iron (excuse my lack of technical terms) and actually burnt through the looped tube, removing a section about an inch in size, with the tube ends then slipping back inside the scrotum. The same procedure was done with the other tube and that was it. Amazing!! It really was. So quick, and with the heat being the seal for the ends of the tube there was no need for anything else to be done. I then had to leave the room, whilst the doc cleaned hubby up. No stitches were required, just a thick sterile pad placed over the scrotal area, and the tight pants back on to support the area. Hubby had to apply pressure to the op site (which was still numb so not at all painful) and the doc helped him up and brought him to me in the recovery room. He had to lay there for 10 minutes, continuing to apply pressure to the op area. The nurse came in to check on him, and gave him a letter for our GP. After those 10 minutes were up hubby was allowed to get dressed and we were off home. The whole thing from
                arriving at the hospital to leaving, having taken just one hour. Hubby was not allowed to drive after having his vasectomy (standard practice), so as he wasn't prepared to let me drive the car, we got a cab home. So, post op care. Hubby was instructed to take it easy after the op... keep the op site dry (and the dressing on for 2 full days), put his feet up and generally relax for a while. So that's what he did. I sprung to action as nurse wigggly supplying pain killers, hot drinks, icepacks, and some TLC (only a bit mind, it was a minor op, not life threatening surgery). Hubby was in a bit of pain, but he described it more as a discomfort - tightness and tugging in his abdominal area. Apart from that, (oh, and passing out twice which we put down to taking Ibuprofen) the evening passed uneventfully. He stayed in bed, and slept from 9pm round 'til Saturday morning. Saturday brought the swelling, and new meaning to the term big boy! Okay, I shouldn't laugh, but Linford Christie's lunch box didn't have a patch on hubby's that day. The pain, again, was more of an abdominal discomfort, and an obvious slight tenderness at the op site itself. Hubby found paracetamol to give the best relief for that, and the application of icepacks helped too. It's recommended that you get up and about the day after the op and back to normal as much as is possible, excluding work, and strenuous activity though for 48 hours. Hubby was quite able to make trips back and forth to the kitchen although he was walking rather oddly. Sunday and things were still progressing well. It's recommended that driving isn't resumed after a vasectomy until you are comfortable enough to perform an emergency stop if required, so it's really up to the individual to assess the right time. Hubby felt comfortable enough to drive on Sunday afternoon, so we went shopping. I can assure you his wallet was in far more
                pain than his balls!!!!!! Monday morning, hubby went back to work! Light duties only though (as pre-arranged with his boss). He came home a bit achy, but no more so than usual. Monday night and he was able to remove the padding and have a soak in the bath. Being a typical guy, he sulked when I suggested that a handful of salt would be far more beneficial to his op area than his usual bubble bath, but he did agree. After his bath, he had to apply the sterile pad (received on op day) to the healing wound, and keep it there until it came off of it's own accord, which happened to be during the course of the next day. As for sex (has to get a mention somewhere), again it's down to the individual to resume when comfortable enough to do so. Once this becomes the case, plenty of it is advised to clear out the store of sperms left in the tubes. Remember to use some form of contraception though, as at this stage those little spermy buggars are still live. Hubby felt up to it (no pun intended) on the following Wednesday night, so not even a week from having the op. Around 2 weeks on, and you'd not really know he'd had anything done. The incision had healed and the scar was not even an inch long. Hardy noticeable even on close inspection! Now, it's a case of waiting for the all clear. As hubby is under 35 (just) he has to give samples at 14 and 16 weeks post op. (Men aged 35+ are required to give samples later - 18 and 20 weeks post op). The procedure is to produce a specimen in the jar provided by means of masturbation. (Affectionately termed by hubby as 'janking in a jar'). The sample is then taken to the doctors or direct to the hospital (you will be advised of this) with a completed lab form, and of course details filled in on the jar. If both tests prove clear (ie no live sperm) then hubby is officially sterile, and there is no need for any contraception to be used as his baby making d
                ays are well and truly over. Roll on the end of this month when we'll get the results of the 2nd test!! For us, hubby having a vasectomy was certainly the right choice to make. We knew from the start of our relationship that we didn't want anymore children, so it was the best thing to do. Even with that in mind, we left making the final decision about the op for several years... nothing changed in that time so we went ahead with it. I would urge you to think very carefully about it though. You must consider this a totally permanent measure. Although reversal operations can be performed the chance of actually having a child is so very very slim. This really is a life changing decision - make sure it is the right one for you!

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                  My wife and I decided from the start that we wanted 3 children, no more and no less. Of course we count ourselves lucky we have the 3 children we planned for especially when we know so many people who find it hard just to conceive 1 child. What we didn't really count on was how quickly our 3 children came, all within 4 years, between 1985 and 1989. Even though my wife was on the pill there were stages where obviously things happened and nature did the rest. Now we realised that the pill wasn't 100% effective but this was a little ridiculous. Although in fairness my wife did miss the odd day here and there and how many of you women out there have done the same? Those gaps can be significant as we found out! Anyway, both of us aged 26 and parents to 3 children we decided enough was enough. We were now at a stage in our marriage where we had to make just as important decisions about not having any more children as when we discussed having children in the first place. ~~~ The Pill ~~~ My wife had been taking the pill since she was 16 and wanted to stop completely. I don't know how many of you remember but in the mid-80's there were a lot more facts learnt about the pill and the effects of it's continued use. There were also a lot of horror stories and scaremongering, but overall it was quite plain that in the long term the continued use of the pill could prove fatal for some women and dangerous for many others. This was about the start of the era of research and production of less dangerous pills but with decreased effectiveness. ~~~ Condoms ~~~ We had discussed and I used condoms but they didn't really work for us. We knew they were pretty safe but it didn't really enhance our love life. I don't know if any of you will agree but we found that the layer of rubber (although an obvious safety measure) didn't feel as good or as comfortable as the 'real' thing, if
                  you know what I mean. For my wife and I it hindered us and took some of the enjoyment away. ~~~ Sterilisation ~~~ We sort of discussed my wife being sterilised but we both knew it wasn't really an option, well not one we wanted anyway. Now you may think this sad or funny but at the time this was important to us. We had discussed the awful possibility of either one of us dying or even worse losing one or more of our children. Our reality was that if either one of us died then the other in time might re-marry and want more children or in the awful event of losing one of our children then we would try for another. So sterilisation was out which left one other option for us and that was for me to be sterilised, to have a vasectomy. This seemed the best option because we had heard that if necessary the procedure could be reversed, it would be extremely difficult especially then, but it could be done. Decision made. Now we had both decided and were happy with our decision we went to my Doctor and told him what we required. We were interviewed/counselled together and separately to make sure this was absolutely what we wanted. Once the Doctor was satisfied with our responses and reasons he recommended that I have the vasectomy. ~~~ The Vasectomy ~~~ It was early 1990, and I seem to recall it was sometime in February. At the time we were living abroad and flew back to the UK for the vasectomy and a cheeky little shopping holiday! I was booked into a private clinic in Swindon and it was going to cost me GBP50.00 to have the vasectomy. I can't really remember the name of the clinic but it was one of those trust clinics that were set up for family planning etc. Half knowing what the procedure entailed I knew I wouldn't be fit to or even allowed to drive after my 'operation' so my father-in-law came with me primarily to drive me home afterwards but also as moral suppor
                  t. Yeah right. He has had a vasectomy and spent most of the journey to the clinic telling me a lot of horror stories about gone-wrong vasectomies. That really didn't help my nerves! We finally got to the clinic with me still in one piece. I don't know what I expected at this clinic but the main area was just like a hospital/surgery reception room. I was informed to sit in the waiting area and wait for my name to be called. Then the time came and a voice over the PA system announced my name and where I had to go. Time froze. The waiting room was quite full and as soon as my name was called and I stood up to go as directed I became acutely aware of everyone staring at me with a knowing look of what was about to happen to me. I went to a room as directed and was met by an elderly gentleman who announced he was going to carry out the procedure on me. I have to say he was very friendly and put me at ease then in walked a female nurse. Gulp. I hope you know what I mean you blokes out there when I say I feared the worst. I was hoping that things wouldn't happen beyond my control, especially when she 'handled' me whilst placing a green sheet over my midriff with a strategically placed hole to solely expose my 'tackle' for the procedure. Thankfully I kept my composure throughout. Now here is a little bit of jargon about the procedure - A vasectomy is male sterilisation by means of surgical interruption of the vas deferens (the two sperm-transporting tubes that lead from the male testes to the ejaculatory duct). The procedure prevents sperm cells from reaching the semen storage structures, called seminal vesicles, where glandular secretions form semen. As a result, the semen becomes sterile and is unable to cause pregnancy. The procedure was performed under local anesthesia and I didn't feel a thing, well not much. In the past, a small incision req
                  uiring stitches was necessary, but now a 'no-scalpel' vasectomy seems to be the standard procedure, and is the one I went through. In this technique each tube is secured just beneath the skin. A sharp-tipped instrument pierces the skin near the top of the scrotum and stretches it to a small opening from which the tubes are then lifted out and cut. This is the bit I felt because when my tubes were lifted out they were lifted to quite a height and from my lying position I could see them and then saw them being cut! I never realised the tubes were so long. During this part of the process I could feel a pulling sensation in the bottom of my stomach, quite weird indeed. Then, the ends of the tubes were tied and blocked. The tiny skin opening in my scrotum only required a dissolvable stitch. The whole procedure took 10 minutes! Initially I felt great, I got dressed walked out to the reception area, met my father-in-law and away we went. Then the pain started, and it was my father-in-law's fault. On the hour-long journey back to his house, where we were staying, he thought it very amusing to now and again drive over every pothole in the road, causing a jolting sensation and mild pain in my groin. Bump, ouch (grrrr), bump, ouch (expletive). I got my revenge. 3 days stretched out on the sofa with everyone fetching and carrying for me, it was the life of a King! In the meantime my genitals increased ten times in mass and size. They also changed to some very interesting shades of black and purple. I also had to wear at least 2 pairs of briefs. They had to be briefs and they had to be tight, very tight, to keep everything in and as a precaution against further bruising (really?) and swelling (yeah, sure!). After 3 days I was allowed to get up and walk about a bit more but I wasn't allowed to lift anything remotely heavy for obvious reasons. Then after 10 days I was pr
                  etty much back to normal with just a little bit of bruising left. However the process isn't over yet, this is just the start because after a vasectomy the male is not sterile until sperm that has already been stored in the seminal vesicles is flushed from the system. This usually takes about 15 ejaculations and that can be achieved in a variety of interesting ways! Back then I had to give a semen sample 1 month after the vasectomy and then again after 6 months. The final sample shows if the procedure was a success and in my case it was. Oh and yes you can still ejaculate after a vasectomy despite some stories to the contrary, all you do now is fire blanks as the saying goes, or you carry low-fat sperm, or have unleaded fuel and the oldest one is that you have no lead in your pencil. I am extremely glad I had my vasectomy because once I got the all clear the stress of whether my wife was going to 'accidentally' fall pregnant again just seemed to vanish from both of us. And, to be perfectly honest from that day our sex life has just got better and better. There are a couple of negative points to note though. Not every vasectomy works, there have been cases where the tubes have grown back together and whilst a reversal of a vasectomy may be possible by microsurgery, not all men regain fertility. Changes in the vas deferens system, the length of the tubes removed, and the time since vasectomy influence success. I strongly recommend this procedure to any couple out there who don't want any more children and want an effective form of birth control/contraception. This is IMHO by far the safest and best procedure possible and can save a lot of health problems for your wife/partner in later years that are associated with taking the pill or sterilisation. Finally, I think a vasectomy is a small price for us men to pay compared to the pain our wives/partners go through during pregnancy, don&
                  #39;t you?

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                    04.09.2001 20:26
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                    I have very recently undergone a vasectomy and thought it would be a good idea to share my experiences. Firstly let me explain why I had a vasectomy. I am happilly married with three great kids. My wife and I are happy with our bunch and dont really want a bigger tribe. Also my wife has been on the pill for 20 years and we are concerned about any health issues associated with extended use of these chemicals in her body. She has also recently returned to work so having weighed up all the alternatives this seemed to be the most effective and least risky to our long term health. A vasectomy is called this basically beceause part of the 'vas' is removed. The vas allows sperm to pass from the testes to the penis. The operation involves cutting the vas and basically blocking off both ends of the tube to prevent sperm reaching the penis. You contact your doctor to make an appointment to discuss having a vasectomy, and assuming there are no issues he will put you on the waiting list. The wait was around 7 months in my case. You then get an appointment at the hospital with a doctor, who has a grope about to make sure everything is ok and then discuss's the long term implications. As this operation is not intended to be reversible they want to be sure that you really are committed to the idea. It does also carry the same risks as most minor operations. Once they are satisfied they make an appointment for you to have the op. On the day of the op the only preparation neccessary is a shave, no not so you look smart, a scrotum shave. This is really easy, but beware, after the operation when the hair starts to grow back it is really itchy ( apparently the same for women when they shave their pubic hair so don't complain!!!,) When you get to the hospital they ask you to change into a hospital gown and then wait until you are called. You walk through to the operating table, climb up and ie back. In my case there were two female
                    nurses and a male doctor. One of the nurses covers you with the green papery covers they use, leaving your pubic area open to the air. She then swabbed it with disinfectant. Now this is really weird. It is hard to know what to say or do while this is going on. They are very proffesional about it all, but obviously us patients are still very unprofessional and feel very awkward about it all. The operation is carried out under local aneasthetic, which involves injections directly into the scrotum, which are similar in terms of pain to injections from the dentist. Then after a couple of minutes the operation commences. The nurses talked to me the whole time which really helped a lot. There is some pain and discomfort as the incisions are made and the ends are tied off and then they stitch you up again. However the pain really is not that bad. You may also experience strange sensations ( no not an erection) in your stomach as it feels like all your organs are moving around. Once they have finished you climb down and return to the waiting are. The doctor inspects you after 30 minutes or so and you can get dressed to go home. They advise you to rest for a couple of days and refrain from driving, just to avoid any damage to the scars. Before you leave they give you two sample bottles, which you have to return (full) of course. The first one is after 3 weeks the second after six, and then you will be given the all clear if everything is ok. The two jars come with a form which has to be completed and rturned with them. At this point I must stress this is true. On the form it asks if the sample was taken by hand or by withdrawal!!! Why they need to know is beyond me, but they also stress it must be very fresh!!! Sex is just the same as before, except your sperm is now the low calorie version.

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                      26.08.2001 04:41
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                      Now I just know that if you’re male you will have clicked on this opinion in total outrage thinking how dare I mock such a painful operation and if you are female you will have come along nodding your head!! No really this is what I said to Mr F from conception (pardon the pun) to the actual operation he endured to become sterile (poor love) When Ciaran came along and decided to carry on the Flynn children’s tradition of screaming with colic for long periods Mr F decided enough was enough – something had to be done!! Since Ciaran was the product of relying on condoms (or not – should have taken leahslad’s advice!!) something drastic had to be done. After a month of Mr F trying to persuade me to be ‘done’ with me replying ‘ I’ve been through the pain of childbirth – your turn now honey’, he finally relented and decided to have a vasectomy. The visit to the doctors came swiftly because we wrongly believed there was a four-month waiting list. The doctor phoned the clinic and they said Mr F could be seen in two weeks. He had to visit the clinic for a consultation beforehand to go through the procedure. The consultation went quite smoothly considering; the councillor was a nice lady who explained to us that the operation was permanent and that the success rate for reversing a vasectomy was quite low. Mr F wasn’t really interested in that he just wanted to know if was going to hurt!!! So an appointment was made for a fortnight. The procedure it self is quite straightforward. The testicle sac is numbed by an anaesthetic injection. Two cuts are made one on each side and the vas deferens tubes (which supply the sperm) are cut and tied. The cuts are then stitched and away you go. There is no dressing applied to the stitches but supportive pants must be worn (yes I know that conjures up delightful pictures!!) The big day arrived and Mr F was on
                      tenterhooks all day but as I say its not like childbirth is it??? When we arrived at the clinic there was another couple there and the wife looked at me and we both burst out laughing! It was funny seeing these big strong men reduced to quivering wrecks! (No not very sympathetic I know) The operation took about 10 minutes and before I could read a chapter of my book Mr F was back. He hobbled out of the surgery moaning loudly – my god I thought what have they done? When he realised the other chap had already gone in he stopped the playacting and said ‘Oh he’s gone – come on then’ (what is he like??) It was a different story though once the anaesthetic had worn off Mr F was is quite a lot of pain for about 18 hours (like being kicked in the nether regions) although paracetamol helped. He couldn’t have a bath for two days and had to be careful about infection that is quite common. Now once the operation has been performed that is not the end of the story you have to wait 16 weeks and then a sample has to be sent to see if there are any sperm left. Another sample is then sent 4 weeks after if they are both clear then bob’s your uncle!! But, quite often sperm is still present so samples have to be provided every four weeks until they are clear. Samples are sent through the post (wonder is they accept them with saliva in commented Mr F – Well Really!!) and are packaged in a brown envelope – with a big vasectomy sign (a round red circle with a line through it showing sperm behind!) on the front very embarrassing when it wont fit in the post box!! Anyway Mr F is finally clear so Leahlads famous opinions are no longer required!! And Mr F’s comments on vasectomy – he would recommend it every time!!

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                        25.08.2001 23:14
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                        Pardon the title but I had to have one and I am not trying to make light of the subject. There are reasons to have this procedure done and it is a personal choice. A man for example may have great health problems or things that run in the family that he might not want to produce children and subject them to. A couple perhaps may have as many children as they want and this a remedy to prevent more. If you are a man and are married or have a significant other the decision should be made by both parties involved. The procedure for a man is much simpler than for a woman. When I was married and we decided we did not want any more children we opted for this method of birth control. My husband went to the hospital early in the morning and the procedure was done and he came home after a few hours. The only problem he had was a bit of soreness for a couple of days which was releived by packing with ice. Other than that no changes took place. He did have to go back for a sperm count a few times before attempting intercourse again but after that it was a breeze. It caused no changes in sexual performance. If anything it was better as the fear of unwanted pregnancy was gone. If you opt for this procedure think it through carefully. In some cases it can be reversed but in most it can not so know that you are making a life time decision.

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                          08.08.2001 06:50
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                          I thought that I would check, before settling down to write this most delicate of opinions, that it wasn't one of those categories where one needed to have had a direct experience. Phew! Well, now that I know that I don't have to resort to desperate measures to make my contribution to this topic I can begin, providing you are all sitting comfortably. You are all sitting comfortably aren't you? (except that is for anyone that has recently undergone this operation.) Perhaps this would be the best time to warn anyone of a squeamish nature that this opinion contains some passages that may require you to cross your legs or look away, but if you've clicked this far you probably suspected that anyway - so please read on. Vasectomy is the more severe form of male contraception, with condoms being the only realistic alternative. Although versions of the male pill are being tested, such an alternative is not likely to be available for several years. Although it is possible to have a reversal of a vasectomy, this is not always possible and involves risks. Therefore, it is probably best to consider a vasectomy as a permanent form of contraception. It is believed by many people that a vasectomy is a complicated procedure. In fact, this couldn't be further from the truth. It usually takes just five minutes to seal the tubes that carry sperm from the testicles to the penis (technical term = vas deferens), and this can usually be done with just a local anaesthetic. I am aware of the precise nature of this operation, which either involves the use of a scalpel or can now involve specific implements (a clamp and a haemostat) that make small holes, thus negating the requirement for stitches afterwards. However, I think it may be best to leave the precise details out, although a detailed description (with diagrams) may be found at: http://vasectomy-clinic.co.uk/ Other common misconceptions (oops! apologie
                          s for that particular pun) about vasectomy is that it has a detrimental effect on one's future sex life. Although this may well be true in the immediate short term, there are no longer term effects in the vast majority of cases. The body continues to produce testosterone, and it will still be possible to have an erection and ejaculate in much the same way as prior to the operation. Obviously the main difference is that sperm is prevented for reaching the ejaculate, provided the operation is successful, and is absorbed into the body instead. The procedure is over 99% effective, but in some cases it is possible that the seal itself was unsuccessful, or that the vas deferens rejoin again at a later date. Thankfully, this is very uncommon, although it is recommended that testing takes place after the operation for a couple of months to ensure that the procedure was successful. Once it has been verified that the operation was a success, through a negative result from a sperm test, there should be no further problems. It is possible, although by no means certain, that swelling, bruising, inflammation or infection of the genital area can result from a vasectomy operation. However, in the vast majority of cases the victim, sorry - subject, can continue with their normal life within a very short period of time. It is recommended, however, that the subject takes a period of rest of at least 48 hours after the operation, remaining off their feet during this time. There are a number of reasons to choose a vasectomy over other methods of contraception. Common reasons for a vasectomy are when a couple has no desire to have more children, or even if other methods of contraception have been unreliable or resulted in complications. It is not recommended that very young men opt to have a vasectomy. However, a friend of a friend (with three children) decided that a vasectomy was the best course of action at the tender age of 23. Another friend
                          is extremely proud of his membership of the vasectomy 'club', and even has a tie with the acronym 'I.O.F.B.' (= I Only Fire Blanks) to mark the feat! In short, vasectomy is an extremely reliable but an effectively permanent method of contraception, and one that is becoming increasingly popular, especially when the barriers and misconceptions can be overcome. {An original Dooyoo opinion © Blackjane 2001} [Anagram: Save Havoc Matey = Have A Vasectomy]

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                            Right, another sensible op from me! At this rate I shall have to change my name to Sensibleredhead!! Nah I think not! I have to start by saying that I was amazed that there wasn't a category for this. Lots of ops on other birth control methods but none on the big 'chop' I would also like to explain that this isn't an op about the actual procedure itself, more like the run up to it. So feel free to stop reading here if you only want to know what is done. Right, cut to the op in question..I am sorry I just could not resist that!! My partner and I got together late 1987. He came into the relationship with a 4 yr old son of whom he had full custody, and I had a 6 yr old son and a 6-month-old baby boy. Destined to spend the rest of my life surrounded by men! Whilst in the throes of the first flush of passion we thought how nice it would be to add to our new little family unit and thus we got down the business of trying for a baby. Alas this was not to be and as the years went on we resigned ourselves to the fact that we were going to stay ‘just us 5’ and we accepted this. It wasn’t always so easy I hasten to add, I would have loved to have had another baby and was distraught at times that it transpired that this was not going to be the case. Hubby was more accepting of the fact and as the years rolled on I came to this way of thinking too. After all we did have 3 happy, healthy sons and we learned to count our blessings, after all not everyone is so lucky…… Around about 1994 we began to get a bit more comfortable with our life, after all the youngest one was now 7 and we decided that we really did not want to have any more children now. We had stopped actively trying quite some time ago and hubby suggested that maybe it was time we started to think about a more permanent method of birth control? After quite a lot o
                            f discussions between just the pair of us we agreed that it would be more appropriate for him to have a vasectomy rather than for me to be sterilised. Asides from the quicker recovery rate for him, we took into consideration that should anything ever happen to him I couldn’t say that I would never want to have another child with another man. He was adamant that he would never want another child. It wasn’t a decision either of us took at all lightly, and it was painful at times. I mean no one really wants to broach the subject of death, and the possibility of a new partner in the future, but it really is something that must be seriously considered. So with the decision reached off he went to our GP to ask for a referral to the local day hospital to have the deed done, that is when the whole roundabout of counselling etc started. I couldn’t believe it! First off we both had to go to our GP and state that we were both in agreement with the decision and then we referred to the relevant surgeon. We were told that we both had to attend this appointment as the consultant surgeon wished it. I truly thought that he would just ‘give the nod’ at this appointment and that hubby would be sent a date? No way! At this appointment we were reminded more than once that it had to be considered as a permanent method of birth control. Yes we knew that, that was why we were there? I am still left wondering what would happen if hubby were without a partner but had made a decision on his own that he didn’t want any more children? I mean would he have been given so much ‘grilling’ then? I would like to think so, reiterating here the vital importance of what a mammoth decision it is. We both attended the aforementioned appointment and were treated to the presence of the consultant surgeon, his house-officer and a couple of medical students! We didn’t mind ever
                            yone has to learn. But what surprised us both was the length of time it took to talk to us about a decision that we had already definitely made our minds up about. They really did take the time to discuss the ‘fors’ and ‘against’ about this method. Stating more than once that it had to be considered as an irreversible method of birth control. We knew that and accepted that fully. We had ourselves discussed in considerable depth on more than one occasion so we felt certain that we knew what we were doing. To cut (groan!!) a long story short the deed was done 18 months later and we have had no problems, asides from busting a gut trying to prevent smallest son from hurling himself onto Daddies lap when we got home from the day hospital!! We have no regrets about our decision, although to be fair that is not entirely true. When I dropped him off at the hospital I went around to a close friends and howled my eyes out at the thought that I wasn’t going to ever be having his baby. It was a very emotional time and although I knew in my heart that we were doing the right thing, it still hurt. But that is me, I am a soppy sod and can cry at the drop of a hat! I soon got over that feeling when I went to collect him a few hours later as he hobbled out to the car. Suffice to say he got plenty of tea and sympathy from me for the rest of that day! What I am trying to say is that Vasectomy really should be considered as irreversible, but then you all knew that didn’t you, and I don’t want to be seen to be preaching to you. It’s just that I want to emphasise that fact. We were very fortunate in that we were given an awful lot of support along the way, in the form of at least 2 visits to our GP as well as the consultation with the surgeon. Which on the day I considered a waste of time as we had both already made our minds up that this was the route
                            we wanted to take. That is the end of this op. I hope I have put over what I set out to do in an informative manner? I would really appreciate any comments you may wish to leave; as this is a departure from my usual style I appreciate any feedback. And a HUGE thank you for bearing with me and reading this op. Rest assured this is only a temporary foray into territories unfamiliar, I can already feel a wackier op coming on! Watch this space, Scatty will be back!! Kazzie.

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                            Vasectomy is permanent birth control for men. It is a surgical operation that causes sterility.