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Finally I have found the answer to men! This book is superb! From the relationship consultants of Sex in the City comes the book that every girl has been waiting for, the book that aims to explain why men act the way they do! The first in a series of three books aimed at women and relationships this book was fantastic. I perhaps read the book out of order, starting with the second in the series 'It's called a breakup because it's broken' which was given to me by a friend. After thinking this was possibly one of the best reads ever, I simply had to get the other books in the series.
He's Just Not That Into You (2005) offers realistic, practical advice on issues faced by many women (and not just teenagers) such as why he hasn't called, the pros and cons of distance dating, what he's really thinking and much more. I wish I had this book growing up, I really feel my questions have been answered!
Presented in a comical, light hearted way, authors Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo get to the real truth of the matter, both offering practical advice on how to deal with dating and relationships. Not only do they speak from experience but they give examples, useful activities you can do yourself and also include ideas and scenarios from other people. It is an excellent, useful and wise book, which not only looks at a woman's point of view on the situations which arise but also the man's. Written in short, sharp chapters, punctuated with problem page style letters and real-life scenarios this book is easy to read. I couldn't put it down.
A must read for anyone who is waiting for him to call!
I was given this book as a present recently, and although I was not overjoyed I felt I simply had to give it a chance. I was not disappointed!
Although I'm still a teenager, I have spent years chasing the wrong guys and my only regret is not reading this sooner! My earlier years would have been much more hassle free if I'd known what to look out for when he's just not that into you. This book reinforces a woman's self worth, as it's nothing we as women do; it's just the morons for guys we know!
The book is set out in concise chapters that are short enough for you to pick up and read whenever. The author includes a wide range of letters from women just like us (there is one 'non-believer' that keeps writing back and it's just too funny!), writing to him for his tough love, no nonsense advice. The book also includes a women's perspective at the end of each chapter, which reinforces the advice given.
Now that I've read this book, I feel I have a whole new understanding on men, and I'm positive that this will definitely save me heart break in the future - as I'll have the warning signs and know just how to act!
I've loaned this book to a few other friends, and like me, they can't believe they didn't read this sooner. So if you're sitting at home ripping yourself to pieces over if he is into you or not and want to know and NOW - what are you waiting for?
In my opinion this book does what you expect it to, it tells you what you've probably always known deep down, but haven't wanted to admit to yourself - sometimes that guy that treats you badly / acts strangely is " just not that into you." The book also shows you that although women do occasionally tell themselves that "this man is different" / "I am the one that can change him" / "he is the exception to the rule" then they are probably wrong...
The book is set out as a series of agony aunt style letters from desperate women who are based in the USA. A male writer (who works as a writer for 'Sex and the City') then responds to these women in a humorous way. A female writer / consultant from Sex and the City then giver her response - she occasionally sides with the male writer, but she often relates to the woman's relationship issue with empathy.
At the end of each chapter, which deals with specific relationship issues (e.g - "He seems to have disappeared of the face of the earth but we were getting on so well"; and "we have been together for ages, but all he wants to do is cuddle") the reader will do a 'task' which is a set of questions to ask themselves about their own relationship.
When I realised that this book was written by a writer and consultant for Sex and the City I had high hopes, but I didn't find it particularly insightful, it was very American and it wasn't as witty as I'd expected. Having said that, for some reason I couldn't put this book down, I felt somewhat inclined to read on (so it can't be that bad!). I'd recommend this book if you have just broken up with somebody, or as a gift for a friend that loves chick lit and a giggle at the stupidity of women... we've all been there!
I received a copy of this book free with a recent copy of Glamour magazine. I was interested to read it, having been a big fan of Sex and the City (the authors were both script writers on the series) and being a single gal in her 30's.
I wasn't sure I would be able to learn anything from the book and also thought it was a bit of a 'one message' book and wouldn't be able to sustain a whole book.
However it is written in a very lively and witty style. It is also very honest.
It is divided up into sections eg. 'He's not that into you if he's not dating you' and then goes through various scenarios and then Greg Behrendt whill explain why this guy is clearly 'not that into you'. Then at the end Liz Tuccillo will discuss why the advice is hard to put into action and how she and her friends have done so.
The book is different from other self-help books in that it doesn't take itself too seriously and doesn't require a complete change of perspective or change of lifestyle that some self-help books require.
In some ways it was a bit depressing, recognising things that ex boyfriends have done and the excuses I made on their behalf and it is quite frustrating to think of all the time I've wasted!!!!
You may think that this is quite a downbeat book but actually it is very positive and it has a lot of hope in there.
I heartily recommend this book to anyone out there who is still dating and is fed up with wasting their time on guys that just aren't into them!
At some point in our lives, most women had probably experienced one of these situations: We meet a guy and and flirt and we're sure he really likes us. Trouble is that he doesn't call or either asks you out to a date. So, we began making excuses - perhaps his pet died. Perhaps he's busy and so on ad nauseum.
Wait a minute here ladies. Before we all turn into a nervous wreck, obsessing over some guy the authors Greg Behrendth and Liz Tuccillo has got an answer for us:
He's not just that into you.
It's so amazingly simple. The book comes up with lots of dating situations but the answer is all the same. If a guy he's really into you he'll call. He'll do what he's supposed to do. We shouldn't need to make any excuses for guy's behaviours.
Be warned though. This will make a tough reading at first, flicking pages after pages recalling how you've been in some of the situations and thinking "what on earth was I thinking?"
However, the book is worth it. It should be in every woman's bag. After reading this book, I finally "got it". Finding love should be simple.
So now, no more excuses for guy's behaviour's. He's either into you or not. Thanks to Greg Behrendth and Liz Tuccillo.