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Man and Wife - Tony Parsons
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Man and Wife - Tony Parsons
Advantages: Nice to read a man's perspective
Disadvantages: Not altogether realistic
This is a review of the 2003 book "Man and wife" by Tony Parsons. I had read "My Favourite Wife" and "The Family Way" a few years ago and had enjoyed reading them but had had this book on the shelf a while. I've done my usual trick of reading book two without reading the first in the series (Man and Boy) but you can pick up what happened in the first few chapters without missing out too much.
In Man and Wife, the front cover is quite eye catching with Darth Vader and a doll in a white dress (a wedding picture?) which makes sense when you read the book. The main characters are twice married Harry Silver, his son Pat and Ex wife Gina, new wife Cyd and her daughter Peggy.
A bit about ...
The book explores the complicated relationship Harry has with his ex, the new wife is very patient with him but he can't help feeling that something is missing. He thinks this may be a baby in their new relationship but his wife isn't so sure with a new start up business that is going well, she has other priorities than making babies.
Harry constantly worries about his relationship with Pat (his seven year old son) and whether he is being a good father to him. He can't seem to bond with his step daughter Peggy and dislikes her loyalty to her no good father. He is jealous of Gina's new husband Richard and their relationship and doesn't want ichard to become Pat's new dad. Harry's love for Pat is infinite, as it should be between father and child.
Grass is greener syndrome
It just seems that Harry is chasing the dream of true love that he can never achieve. He can't accept that what he has with Cyd is a good thing and is easily swayed to thinking about what it would be like with other women.
Harry's job is in a real rut at the moment and he has all his eggs in one basket. At the back of his mind he worries about not being able to provide for his family and for Pat. There is a lot of freedom around his job yet he still manages to be late for important family events.
Whilst I read the book fairly quickly I can't honestly say I enjoyed reading it. I felt that Harry was really selfish in most aspects apart from how caring he was towards his mother. He did seem to not want anyone else to be happy in their relationships though.
Pat and Peggy are both really sweet children and they seem to be a joy to parent. Pat copes with diversity and his own situation very well and never holds a grudge against his father.
I don't think I'd particularly recommend anyone to rush out and buy this book but if you enjoyed Man and Boy you'd probably like to read Man and Wife at some point. I have noticed this book many times in a lot of charity shops and there are currently 205 copies (including mine) available for swapping on readitswapit website.
Summary: A fairly enjoyable read