I joined ATR in July this year and was full of such enthusiasm and excitement. I have a career that takes me abroad a lot, so this offered me such a lovely way to meet a really lovely man. Although I do not live in the catchment area, I was prepared to travel and stay over - after all, a girl is entitled to spoil herself :-).
I elected and paid for the highest service of £400 which would give me access to the social events, a photo shoot, hand picked introductions of suitable men after I had been interviewed by 2 of their team. This sounded brilliant so I travelled down to their office to start the ball rolling in July.
Right from that first interview, I began to think that maybe this was too good to be true but I had already paid the money so thought I would give it a chance.
I was interviewed by one of the team, who was lovely, but had obviously not read any of my details before I had entered the room so that was a disappointment. The photo shoot in reality was she took my photo, which was not good, so I ended up supplying my own anyway but I waited to see what the introductions would be like as I had given a clear and reasoned idea of who I felt would be suitable for me.
I also took out time from my diary to go to the social events.....so I chased the online members number one needs to book the events. Without the number, you cannot book except by phone, but if you cannot get to them in office hours, the only route is online. After 4 written requests for the log in details, I still do not have the log in number so cannot book events!
So the first introductions came in and there were 3. 2 of them seemed promising, the third was definitely not my sort of guy. I contact 2 of them - the first I had a conversation with (he kept calling me by another name and had obviously confused me with another lady ..which was funny really) and the other never returned my call or text. So I waited for the next introductions - they were slow in coming so I asked for my money back, but this was refused!
3 months in and they have sent me 3 lots of introductions - a total of 6 men in all. Interestingly I no longer contact them as they are way above the age group I had indicated and they have not contacted me. It feels as though somewhere the idea is failing.
Maybe if you are in the younger age group, live in the area and can book onto events, then it may be worth it, but I personally would not recommend them to anyone in the over 40's age bracket.
I joined this year and went to my first disco at furze hill which was fun I then went on a couple of dinner dances as well.Where I met a couple of frogs but have met my prince at the summer ball.It is a good place to go for a laugh a night out and a meal should you want to really meet people and that it what I recommend it also gets you out of the house.Well I got lucky and now I'm happy that I have my prince, well I did meet him at a ball .
I got divorced at 45.....Where do you go to meet "Nice" women at the age. SO, taking the plunge I joined. I can honestly say, I had a BALL. I met some strange women, some takers, some sad women, BUT I also me some really nice ones as well. This club is a collection of everything.
I once ended up in a ladies hotel room for the night. Waking up at 08.00 and can't remembering her name. I ones decorated the "Love of my Life" house. Then she dumped me when I finished. I even ended up one evening snogging in a ladies Aston Martin. Then she told me about her husband. She used the club as a social night out.
All in all, it's a great club where you find all sorts. The best advice I can give is to go and enjoy the nights out. But don't take it to serious.
I have been a member of Across the Room for fifteen years. I stopped attending when I got married and as I am now divorced, I have returned. Across the Room is by far the best place I have been to for meeting single professional friendly people. It caters for all age groups. All the venues they use for their balls, dinner dances and party nights are 4 and 5 star hotels and beautiful manor houses. They also do smaller gatherings midweek at classy restaurants for people who prefer a more intimate evening as well as activity days out and weekend breaks. There's something to suit everyone. The prices are reasonable and if the there is something on the menu at the venue you choose that does not suit you, just give them a call, with a bit of notice, and they will arrange something else for you. I have just recently attended The Marks Tey Hotel in Colchester and it was a lovely evening, nice people, good food and music. Everyone I spoke to enjoyed it. Eleanor and her hostesses are always there to greet you and introduce new members and they make them feel comfortable, so if you want to meet new people, make friendships with a view to possible romance give them a call and find out more! You only have one life to live, so live it. Give it a go, what have you got to lose?
New Member: Name Ant, Age: 48. This is my first review Ever! It's going to be fun to air my view online ( hope someone reads them) I live in Herts and have attended events in my area, but I also go to the Suffolk and Norfolk events as I have a holiday home nearby. I decided to join the Goldstar Plus which is Dating and Events.
I have read some reviews and people seem to be concerned mainly about age groups, prof/non prof, equal numbers and discounts. The events i have attended so far have been 3 black ties and 2 dinner dances. The age group starts from about 35 and goes up to late 50's or early 60s. There are mainly the same numbers of ladies to gents more or less anyway. As far as discounts are concerned I introduced a friend and my reward was a half price discount to the next event, this I have found out works for everyone, if you encourage someone to join, you will recieve a free event - not bad!
Are all the members professional, well no, as I sat next to a lady who flew Jumbos and a Journalist and then when I switched tables I sat next to a hairdresser and a lady who worked in Boots (she was nice).
This club is not a fortune to join and it has really given my life a big boost. It's nice just to meet diferent people, I do agree with a review whereby a lady referred to the standard of food. It's so true that some people think that you are going to have restaurant food at the events, but this is banquetting on a large scale it is not really fancy food but it is enjoyable and there is wine included too. So for £45.00 pounds you get a good night out with food, wine and entertainment with freindly people.
I find some members far more appealing than others, but then I am sure that I am not everyones cup of tea. Some ladies interogate me on which car I drive what I do for a living etc, it must be really hard to manage peoples expectations.
It's great to make new friends and just start again really. The dinner and dance I went to last week was fun and a lady then invited me to her house warming party so a lot of networking goes on too.
My advice is to give it a go - be positive and do not expect perfection - not unless you are perfect yourself!
I joined Across the Room Gold Star which is in two parts, dating and social events. There was an offer on at the time and I paid £425.00 which included both services. The dating got off to a slow start as the first two ladies did not really meet my criteria. However the third lady I met was very nice indeed and we both decided to attend one of the social events together. When couples get along well and are in the first stages of a relationship they can sit on what is called a couples table. The gentlemen move tables between courses but we remained seated together which gave us time to chat and find out more about each other.
The event was held in a beautiful Hotel and was very well organised. It was a very pleasant surprise as I did not really know what to expect. The food was plentiful and well prepared and the wine was good quality, I can always tell by the way I feel the next day!
I had taken time to read mixed reviews, I have decided that this company really does go the extra mile to offer its members a really great night out. The venues are lovely, good food and wine and a mixture of freindly single ladies and gentlemen. Maybe some people think that they are 21 again and expect everyone to fall at their feet! I had chatted to some members at the bar and found that there were people from different backgrounds some professionals and others seemed the self made types, but most were interesting and easy to get along with and ready to make new friends which is what I liked the most. The age group I would say was 35 plus, a lot of early to mid forties fifties and some early sixties. Tina, who I booked with on my second event asked me which age group did I want to sit with, I said that if I come on my own that I did'nt mind, but I was sticking to the couples table for the time being. From what I heard around the table was that everyone wanted to sit with someone younger than themselves! Crazy I thought I am far more interested in a ladies personality, of course I am a red blooded male but looks fade...Anyway sorry to ramble on I would just like to say the event was Terrific! A live singer too!
It definately Exceeded my Expectations! and a message to the moaners - Get Real: where else can you go and enjoy such fabulous surroundings with food, wine entertainment and likeminded singles for around £45.00!
Being over 35 and suddenly finding yourself single again when most of your friends are in relationships can be quite a lonely experience. I was until I joined Across the Room nearly three years ago. Since then I haven't looked back. Across the Room has given me the opportunity to meet lots of different people and I have been very fortunate to have made good friends with some of them. Eleanor and her team do a fantastic job organising these events and I for one have a great time as do many others that attend. I sometimes wonder what, those that write bad reviews on here, expect. I have tried another well known singles event company in London and in my opinion found it very tacky and not in the same league as Across the Room. Well done Across the room, and for those cynics out there this article has not been written by Eleanor herself as some might suggest, but by a genuine member who is always made to feel welcome and has a fantastic time. So if you are single and in the 35 - 60 year age group and need to enhance your social life Across the room comes highly recommended.
I have been a member of Across the Room for about a year and attended a number of different venues. The people from across the room are always friendly and helpful and I have met some very lovely people. The latest venue was at Stock Brook Manor on the 25/02/2011, it was well attended, the room was beautifully decorated and very inviting, the meal was very nice and the people I sat with during the evening made it a pleasurable experience. With like so many other things in life you get out what you put in, I went to have a good time and I certainly did! I would recommend Across the Room.
I took the courage to make the inicial call to the office and I spoke to a freindly girl who explained the set up. I went for my interview which lasted about 1 hour, I recieved a warm welcome and introduced to all of the team. It was a thorough interview and I came out feeling on top of the world! Fiona took some photos of me and I recieved my profile within 7 days. The dating agency is not internet based so I was pleased about this as I am quite well know in my industry and I do not want to have my picture in cyber space. Quite a few gentlemen contacted me and I went on about eight dates. Some more successful than others, my favorite was Mark who is in IT we hit it off almost imediately and we have been seeing each other since. I do not want to say too much as i don't want to tempt fate, but right now I am on cloud nine! Regarding the social events they are very good, but I am a very fussy eater and some Hotel do not cater very well for vegans. But I loved the atmosphere and the Tribute bands. All in all best money spent in a long while.
I really enjoy going to Across the Room events, I meet some interesting people in my age group, I like getting dressed up and going to beautiful venues. I find everybody so friendly and I feel quite happy going there on my own. My friend and I have met lots of different men, some we like more than others, but it all makes for a good social life!
We have tried other singles clubs but have found that Across the Room is by far more upmarket and a nicer class of people attend. We can't afford to book in every week, but we try to book at least one event a month. That really gives us something to look forward to.
My friend and I are both mid forties and we find that the majority of people we meet are either ten years younger or ten years older. Each event we go to we always seem to meet new people and very often I come home with a phone number and have a date on the weekend - which is nice!
I have attended approx 4 events a year for the last 3 years and enjoy the events.
I have been attending on and off since the split up of my marriage.
I am 56 years of age and i can still go to ATR and feel comfortable something that is not always possible in an older over 30,s nightclub.
This is a great club for the older generation.
I disagree with the negative comments from younger people but in someways can symptise with them if they are expecting to meet people of a similar age.
I am sorry to say that people saying 25% 30's and 25% 40's are simply not telling the truth this has never been the case on any of the events i have attended.
I am afraid to say the reviews saying this are simply marketing by Eleanor and her team and i think that its pointless lying to people because in the end they will just be diasppointed hence the negative reviews.
Age Group: 30 Plus - at a tipical event you will find the age group is 25% 30's, 25% 40's, and the rest a mixture of 50s and early 60s.
Only attend if you are ok mixing with different age groups, if you just want everyone to be YOUR OWN age group Then forget it, as there will almost certainly be a mixed age group.
The Food: Good Quality they are mostly wedding venues so the food is what you would expect to eat at a wedding. All of the menu's are printed in the literature which you can request to be sent to you.
Joining Fees: I joined with a friend and paid £75.00 for a lifetime membership.
Events: Posh hotel (5 Star) with wine, dancing 3 course meal will cost you around £47.50. the prices are all printed in the programme, (so no surprises there)
Dress Code mainly Smart suit and tie or DJ ( borrowed mine from my brother)
About me: I have just gone through a nasty divorce, I miss my kids thats the worst part. I tried online dating but found it time consuming, boring and one lady I did meet up with stalked me for weeks! These events are instant, you meet so many real people instantly ... and they are ALL single! some you will fancy more than others but hey! I think that I look pretty good .... but not everyone fancies me! I am in my early 40s and I did
feel comfortable with the age group.
My advise to you is try it don't sit at home alone come out, if you are in your 30s or 40s you may fancy me! who knows! lol
See you soon
Love John x
I'm a 35 year old single woman (i like to think attractive ;-) ) and i joined Across The Room about 6 months ago. I have attended a handfull of events and not only have i really enjoyed myself but have made lots of new friends and met some lovley gentlemen.
After reading the last report i could not just sit here and not respond. These events are very well organised and a great way of meeting new people. The events aren't priced too high and there are a mixture of ages! The people i sat with were definetly in my age group and it looked like the other tables were banded to suit.
I am thinking about joining the dating too as I have heard good things about it at the functions.
I couldn't disagree more with the below comment. I would highly recommend ATR! Life is what you make it. Looks like someone was having a bad day!!
I went to a dinner dance having been told that there would be plenty of women within my age group. I was the youngest by at least 15 yeast and i'm 35!!! I was very disappointed, if i wanted to socialise with people like my mother and father then i can go home for a sunday lunch!... in short a huge let down!
This club is for the 30 plus age group, not for early or mid twenties. The mix that attends is mainly 30s,40s,50s and some early 60s. The 30s and 40s sit together and the same for the other age groups. The joining fee is £99.00 for the social scene, the events are priced seperately, around £16 for party nights and £45 for Black Tie balls, walks are free of charge.
You should not judge this organisation on your first event as all of the events are totally different. I felt really nervous on my first event and the members were mainly in their late to early 40s.
I am 55 so I was really looking for someone more in my age group, who I found on my second event. If you call the office they will guide you as to the event which will be the best for you. There are disco nights and classical nights, walks, sunday lunches ...lots to choose from. The members are a nice crowd mainly business and professionals. Its well worth joining especially when there is a special offer on. Its great just to meet a new crowd of single people - everyones in the same boat.