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NSPCC: National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children |
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06/01/08 (67 review reads) |
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Advantages: The help they give to families
Disadvantages: none in my opinion
The National Society for the prevention of Cruelty to children (N.S.P.C.C). help ouit families for lots of reasons, the obvious one is to prevent cruelty to children, but they helped me in a different way on two occassions.
I do Apologise if this is in the wrong category
The reason I needed help
As a lot of you will know I have three children, my eldest son is 9 years, my daughter is 7 years and my youngest son is six years old. I had my eldest son when I was 19 years old, being so young myself, I really did`nt know anything about bringing up kids at that stage.
At first every thing was fine, but when my eldest son hit the age of 2 all my problems started, his behaviour was hectic, but it was`nt for attention as he got loads of attention from both myself and his father.
The behaviour continued from the age of 2 years until he was about 6 or 7 years.
Some of the things he did
Climbed on bedroom window sills
Wracked his cot
Pushed my youngest son down the stairs
Set fire to my kitchen in the early hours
Can be very destructful
banged his head of the walls
This is just some of the things he has done, if I went on I would be here all night.
Effects on family life
We had tried everything, shouting, a tap on the hand and as he got older we started to ground him, but nothing seemed to work, my husband and I were constantly arguing and things were not much better with my son, at this stage I did`nt feel as if we had a close relationship, obviously I love him with all my heart, but with the constant arguing our family seemed to be falling apart and as a result my other two children suffered as well.
Medical professionals
We went to the doctor- he replied this is all normal, but did`nt give us any other advice, the same with the health visitor, she was even less helpful.
First referral to the N.S.P.C.C
With no where else to turn I went to The Parent Support Officer in the school, which my kids attend, I told her about my sons behaviour, She told me I could make a self referral to the N.S.P.C.C, I said yes and she filled in the paperwork witch only took a few seconds.
I waited approximately 10 days and was contacted by the N.S.P.C.C, they made arrangements for me to meet with a member of their staff on a weekly basis at the school, I done a parenting course and it lasted 11 weeks.
We would disscuss the behaviours of my son and she would advise me on ways to deal with it.
Methods to deal with naughty behaviour
Star Chart - For each part of the day, if my son was good he would recieve a star on his chart, but if he was bad he did`nt get one, if he got all three stars he would be rewarded a small treat
Time Out - If he misbehaved he had to stand in a naughty spot for every year of his life.
Withdrawal of toys - If he was bad I withdrew a toy which he liked.
I tried all of these methods and found that the time out worked for us.
The second referral
Again it was for Behaviour, but this time it was my youngest son who was causing the problem, I was refered in the same way as before but this time they made home visits.
She give pretty much the same advice as before, but I think this time I just needed a kick up the backside for leting things slip.
A big thank you
We really appreciate the help which we recieved from the N.S.P.C.C, They helped us get our family back on track and my relationship with my son has greatly improved, we are closer than ever all thanks to the N.S.P.C.C.
Thanks for reading
Summary: I dont know what I would have done without the help off the N.S.P.C.C
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