As a bit of a hopeless romantic, I love the concept of Don't Tell the Bride where the bride and groom are given £12,000 for their wedding on the condition that the groom organises everything on his own.
I find the show extremely entertaining to watch as the grooms often underestimate how much time and effort goes into planning a wedding but there is a bit of me that wonders, maybe the bride and groom just plan what they want beforehand so the groom just has to make out he's making all the decisions for the camera? On the other hand, I think this couldn't possibly be the case after seeing some of the people who feature in the show. Surely, if two people are getting married they must atleast have a basic understanding of their partner's likes and dislikes.
One such episode that comes to mind is when the groom bases his decision of having the wedding in the UK or in Vegas on a spin of roulette. It lands on Vegas and he actually follows it through but then ends up upsetting his bride to the extent where she doesn't even know whether or not there will be a wedding because most of her family can't be there. Surely any man would have the common sense to know having family members at the wedding is a huge thing? Though I suppose this is a criticism of that particular person and not the show as a whole.
It really is lovely when everything works out and the bride and groom are both happy. My favourite bit is when the groom sees the bride for the first time on the day of the wedding, he even cries sometimes!
The show is very light-hearted and easy to watch, perfect for watching after a rough day at work or with a drink.
A BIT ABOUT THE PROGRAMME
Don't Tell The Bride is a show originally shown on BBC3, old episodes can be seen on other channels including Living.
Each episode is around an hour long.
WHAT IS IT ABOUT?
Well the idea of the show is that the bride and groom are seperated for 3 weeks, in this time the groom is given £12000 to arrange everything for their wedding day without the bride knowing anything! The only thing the bride is allowed to do before the wedding day is to try on the dress that the groom has picked out for her.
The bride and groom are to have no contact during the organising of the wedding and you watch the cameras following the grooms as they pick out the venue, the dress, the bridesmaid dresses, the photographer, the hair and make up artists, the shoes, the hen night, the reception and everything else that goes with organising a wedding.
The cameras also follow the bride as she shows the viewers where she would like the wedding and goes in search of a dress that she would pick out for herself.
In most cases the grooms pick the opposite of what the bride would choose, I do think a lot of this seems staged to me.
For example, one thing that often happens in the show is that the couple have been together a few years, engaged for a couple and the bride desperately wants a church wedding, it's very important to her. The groom then doesn't give her a church wedding and opts for a hotel, registry office or some wild and wonderful location. I honestly think that if a couple have been together that long and know each other well enough to be getting married, then the groom would know how important a church would be when arranging the wedding.
Another thing that irritates me a little about the programme is that at the start you often get a sob story about how the couple can't afford a wedding. Often these couples are both working, you see then driving around in flash convertibles and wearing designer clothes. I think there must be more people around who are genuinely struggling to afford a wedding and the majority of entrants on this show seem to be the type who just want to show off and get their mugs on the tv.
There are some really good ideas on this programme, I couldn't believe the first time I saw a groom haggling on prices. He bought a dress, not only did the shop give it to him at a lower price but they also threw in the shoes, veil and tiara in the price.
He then managed to get a lower price on the wedding car, cake, photographer and band.
What a clever man! Most of them just go into a shop or ring a number, get a price and pay for it. It would never have crossed my mind to even ask for a lower price but this thrifty bloke showed us all how it's done.
A lot of the time the bride picks out her perfect dress only to find out that the groom has picked something which couldn't be further away from her dream dress, only to find that when she tries it on it looks amazing.
A lot of the grooms claim to be "useless", can't do anything, the fiances arrange everything for them, control the finances and have no idea. Many of these surprise themselves and get a bit of a boost realising that they have underestimated their abilities and they can make choices without having to rely on their brides to do everything for them.
Some of these grooms are absolutely clueless, one groom spent half of his budget on a house to have the reception in. It was a celebrity kind of house with a pool and he loved it and booked it for 4 days so himself and his mates could relax in it a few days before the wedding. The bride did love it in the end but he had spent £6000 without getting any food - which his mother had to cook, drink - from the supermarket, dresses, rings or anything else!
One groom decided to go on a foreign holiday for his stag night when he should've been arranging the wedding, others spend their first couple of weeks of freedom drinking with their mates and trying to arrange everything in the last few days (bet thy were in trouble when the brides watched the show back).
A lot of the grooms pick out absolutely hideous bridesmaid dresses, one made the bridesmaids pay for their own dresses as he forgot about them and had run out of money.
Some of these brides are HIGH MAINTENANCE, that is putting it mildly. One bride was crying her eyes out because she didn't like her make up. There was nothing wrong with it and to be honest she could've just wiped it off and done it herself, the dramatics were painful to watch.
Another bride recently refused to get out of the car because the groom had arranged the wedding at a festival. She had a huge tantrum, crying and hitting him and screaming. Eventually the groom had to go to the car and talk her round. Not only did this spoil her walking down the "aisle" but the way he had arranged it was really nice and all of the guests were complimenting it, the spoilt brat of a bride ended up loving it when she finally saw it. I really felt sorry for this groom!
Some of the brides are just hysterical. Phrases such as "he's ruined my life" are often heard when talking about a bit of sparkle on a dress when she wanted something plain.
A good show, not one I'd be recording or devastated if I missed, but I'll watch it now and again if it's on. It has had me cringing, laughing and crying.
There are some good wedding ideas and money saving tips to be picked up in some episodes and some really unique and lovely weddings at the end of it.
I wouldn't advise recommending this to a bride to be though - I accidentally mentioned the programme to my sister.... big mistake. "It could be worse, I could be like her off 'Don't Tell The Bride'" is her new favourite excuse for being ridiculously demanding about her upcoming nuptials.
I just had to write a review on this show after having just watched the latest one in the current series. I find myself watching this every week and then having lengthy discussions about it with my friends the next day, it really does get us talking!
The idea of the show is that an engaged couple appear on the show with the understanding that the groom has to oragnise the entire wedding within three week's time with just the help of the best man. The bride moves out for the three weeks and the best man moves in... the crew follow the groom around as he makes the choices for the wedding dress, venue, food and other really important decisions. They also follow the bride too to hear her views on various things. Eventually the wedding day comes around and you get to see whether she loves or hates the choices he has made. You can be sure to have lots of dramas and tension along the way which makes it great viewing!
The grooms often make extremely far-fetched decisions such as getting married on a battle ship or in las Vegas. They sometimes can be very selfish by blowing a good amount of the budget on a huge stag weekend for themselves and then just give the girls a few pounds each for a meal for a hen do.
In some shows the decisions made are completely opposite to what the bride wants, for example the bride doesn't want anything at all tacky and would like a traditional wedding in a big country hotel with a very minimalistic theme and what does the groom choose? A themed wedding from Charlie and the Chocolate Factory with plenty of props and a chocolate themed wedding dress!
Quite often when watching this it's amazing how the groom selects things which the bride says she hates "I don't like the colour red" then he selects a red theme and on the day the bride actually likes it "He knows me better than i know myself!" It does make me think that there is quite a lot of spin put into this show to make it more dramatic and encourages you to keep watching.
The majority of the shows end with the bride being pleased with the end result, along the way there may have been tensions about the shoes he bought for the dress or the places they were sent on a hen do but usually the big day itself turns out okay and it's a happy ending. Very occasionally the big day is pretty much a disaster, the couple still get married but you can tell that some strong words were said behind the cameras!
What i like about this show is seeing other peoples' wedding days, it's nice to have a sneak peak at what are other peoples' ideas of a good wedding day. I also like how you don't reall need to concentrate on this programme, it's just a laidback affair which you can enjoy. I like how there are often some dramas which then lead to me having to discuss it the next day!
I do think that there is a great deal of editing in this show as it seems like every week the groom choses exactly the opposite to what the bride wants but I still give this 5 stars as it certainly entertains me and I do enjoy this show!
It is on bbc3 at 9pm on TUesdays and lasts an hour. If you like fly on the wall type documentaries with particulary stupid couples then this is the show for you!
- review also on ciao under my name on there which i'm sure you all know! :)
I caught this programme accidentally when flicking through the channels. You cant beat a good wedding, so i watched and enjoyed.
The basic concept of this programme is that all wedding responsibility is handed to the groom. The bride gets packed off to their family and friends house, and the groom is handed £12,000 and given three weeks to sort out the wedding of their brides dreams! They have to find and book a venue for the ceremony, reception and evening, hire their suits, buy the brides dress (yikes!) and the bridesmaids dresses, sort the invites, the cake, the flowers and even the hen and stag doos!
Whilst i would NEVER participate in this show, it does make for hilarious viewing - especially when alot of the grooms blow a small fortune on their stag doos and then order their bride a size 14 dress when theyre actually a size 8!!!
Little girls dream of their wedding from being small - so allowing a bloke to take over is a recipe for disaster. But makes good tv.
I watch this with my husband - he loves watching the blokes blow £12k on a vegas theme (that actually happened) and i love watching the blokes try picking a dress!
Its on for 60 minutes and is generally on BBC3, although in my opinion its good enough for BBC1. They are currently advertising on the website for couples to take part in the new series (do you dare?) so watch out for that series - as for the old series, you can occasionally drop on a repeat on TV but unfortunately they arent on BBC i player. Some of the episodes are on you tube though!
Great tv viewing!
Don't Tell the Bride
Ive caught this programme a few times on bbc3, and even though it is good to see something Diffrent produced by the bbc3, I cant help wondering who came up with this idea , just to let you know a little about the format of the show , you have a couple who are so in love that they want to get married
but heres the catch The man organises everything without the bride knowing any details, she is not allowed to even choose her own dress, and in one episode i seen the hubby to be even organised how she would have her hair and they way her make up should be. Sorry but i dont even trust my hubby to go to the shops and get a certian brand of tea bags never mind organising the one big dream day every girl wants, yes there are tears along the way as they follow the couple who have been seperated and not allowed any contact with each other, at the begining of the show the couple are given £12,000 to organise thier dream wedding (nice to know my licence fee helped marry a couple and i did not get an invite) when i say "thier" wedding it is translated as "his" wedding as the man holds the reigns. Its good tv and will make you laugh as you watch a grown man nearly reduced to tears as he has forgotten the little favours or not thought about the wedding shoes hios bride to be will wear, however when it comes to the organising of the stag do , you can gaurentee everything has been thought about , unlike when he has to organise the bide to be's hen party she usually gets the scrappings off the bottom of the barrel. A typical man but when it comes to the bide going to get her dress is usually a awful moment not only for the bride to be but for the viewers too , it has on a few occasions reduced me to tears ( im soft i admit it ) Usually you can see the disappointment in her eyes but she grins and bears it , unlike me id cancel the whole thing if my dress was not perfect. but with still going ahead the wedding the birde to be will adorn it even if she feels uncomfortable and it does not fit perfectly, And await an invitation, ....Yes she has to wait for an invite to her own wedding , but the invite will not tell her where it is, so she is basically left in the dark about the whole thing , personally if it was me i would of had a nervous break down and the only thing white i would be wearing is a stright jacket from the local looney bin!! but as the project of the marriage goes a head it usually turns out to be a sucessfull even for both the bride and groom, and as the "A" team man would say " I love it when a plan comes together"
But then we only see the good bits i would of loved to see some of the out takes to this show , come on men and organising things just aint the done thing , yes they can do some things but a wedding , this is serious stuff , and you cant help wonder if they are serious about thier vows for the whole event to be organised by the man , a marriage is a union , and the lead up to the wedding is something that should be done by both concerned cause if you can get through all the arguments of the seating plans, colours , parents invites etc then you know life together will be a match made in heaven.
I find this programme interesting to watch, but at the same time it saddens me a little. The idea is that the bride and groom are given the money to pay for a wedding, on the condition that the groom does all the organising, and keeps everything secret, and the bride turns up on the day. What saddens me about this is that these couples always say how much they love each other, and how much they want a nice day, and yet the women are willing to give up on their dream weddings just to get on TV. I suppose it is good that they get it paid for though, as weddings cost a fortune these days.
Another thing that I don't really understand is how different the groom usually manages to make the wedding to the idea that the bride has of what she would like. Surely, if you know you're going on this show, you would sit down with your partner, and go through a list of things you definitely want. i.e. 'This is a photo of the style of dress I like, this is the colour I want for the bridesmaids dresses, this is a list of venues that I would be happy to get married at,' etc. But it seems that on the show the grooms have no clue as to what their brides want, and often choose things that the bride has previously told the camera she definitely would not like. Unless this is all an act to make an interesting show?
I began watching this program after I read a dooyoo review about it and now I am totally hooked. I love to watch reality television and this is a show like none I have ever seen before. I love weddings and after getting married myself 4 years ago I know first hand everything that goes into organising a wedding. After reading someone else's review on this show I just had to watch it.
Don't Tell The Bride is a television show that can be found on BBC3 on a Wednesday night at 8pm. It lasts for an hour and is a reality show where a couple are getting married but it is the groom that is planning the wedding with a totally unsuspecting bride. The groom is given £12,000 to organise every last detail of the wedding.
At the beginning of the program the couple say there goodbyes and will not see one another for 3 weeks. They have to be apart for this time because this is how long the groom has to organise the wedding. I think 3 week would be a long time for any couple to be apart never mind the 3 weeks before your wedding. They are allowed no contact with each other and I think this certainly builds the tension and does add to the brides worries about the big day.
In the 3 week the groom must organise everything; the venue, the photographer, the car, the bride's dress, the groom's outfit, the reception, the flowers etc....Basically anything and everything. You would think £12,000 would be enough to do this but it is surprising how often the groom goes over budget and has to add to it himself or borrow money from a family member. The grooms are often not very good at budgeting and organising.
The best part of the show is the wedding itself, once you start watching you have to see it through to the end to see how the bride reacts. After watching the groom struggle to cope it is great when everything comes together in the end. I think often the brides are surprised at what a good job the groom does.
The whole 3 weeks seems lots of stress and worry for the couple, I know they're getting a £12,000 wedding for free but I don't think it is something I could ever do. Surely you'd want to organise your wedding together as a couple but it does make for good television.
As I said I am now hooked on this show and tune in every week to watch it. Another good show from BBC3.
Don't tell the Bride is a programme that I opt in and out of. The format consists of a bride and groom to be who are given £12,000 provided it is agreed that the groom is left to arrange the wedding solo.
The couple are then separated for the duration of the programme up until the day of the wedding, which leaves emotions riding high, particularly on the part of the bride to be. The profile of the couples on the show are the same every week; usually a low income couple with a young family to raise and generally under the age of 30.
For me what I find the most entertaining about the show is watching the men and their closest friends trying to pick venues and wedding dresses! The show plays on this aspect alot and I have noticed recently that the production team appear to edit the programme to make the men appear unprepared for the whole event before miraculously putting on a lavish affair in the end. In this regard I feel that it is considerably staged but entertaining nonetheless.
I love watching the reaction of the women when they see their wedding dresses for the first time and how they react to their big day courtesy of their new husbands in general. However it is clear that the show sticks to a clear and rigid format and the brides are always ectstatic with the end result. Less selective editing would ensure some variety which is the basis of reality TV.
The format of the show is pretty simple. In a nutshell, the bride to be leaves the couples' home (the couple already live together in every show I have seen) leaving the groom to be to organise the whole wedding, and by whole it means everything. From the dress to the shoes to the suits to the cake to the ceremony to the reception to the entertainment to the honeymoon. The groom is responsible for everything and the bride is expected to sit there and wonder what her big day has in store for her.
Being a reality TV program the whole process is filmed throughout, and whilst this is intrusive, the bride and groom get given £12,000 to put towards their big day, which is a considerable sum of cash, especially in these tight times.
****My thoughts and conclusion****
Having recently been through the process I can say that organising a wedding is not an easy task. The modern wedding seems to have lost the focus on the bride and groom and it now seems to be about entertaining guests, keeping them well fed and alcohol fuelled and keeping up with the Jones'. It is all about managing peoples' expectations, most of which were a lot higher than both mine and my other half's. With people trying to rip you off and exploiting you at every opportunity (mention the 'W' word and prices tend to treble), having to deal with time wasters and those that don't really care, having to keep a tight rein on the budget and making compromises, creating family feuds and rifts as certain members are excluded for the whole day, having heated discussions and disagreements with the other half etc., I found the whole process tiring and very stressful. There were many times when I thought "forget it (although not putting it that politely) let's go abroad" and would quite happily have done so if my parents had a passport. Needless to say we battled on for months and everything was fine in the end, although I don't think we will be getting Christmas cards from a few of our family members, but hey ho.
Thinking about it, maybe having such a small time frame to plan a reception isn't such a bad thing since there is little time for the Chinese whispers, back stabbing and bitching to get around family members before the big day. Admittedly you will have to deal with this after the honeymoon, but at the end of the day is this really a big issue? After all, if you are like me then the next time you are in contact with such family members is at events like funerals, so it doesn't really matter. As long as the day goes smoothly what happens afterwards is neither here nor there.
Three weeks to plan a wedding is a tough challenge but this show proves it is do-able providing;
i) You are not overly fussy and are willing to make a compromise or take second best if push comes to shove.
ii) You have the determination, staying power and ability (some of us have to work for a living) to devote 24 hours a day for the whole duration.
iii) You can take a knock and get back up again. Many things are not possible in such a short time frame and there are times when the groom has to take it on the chin and move on.
iv) You have the funds to do it. This should not be a problem with the £12,000 budget given by the television company, unless you want an extremely extravagant affair.
The venues that some of the couples manage to secure in the short time frame are simply amazing. Stately homes, castles, large parks that allow marquees and grand pubs are not un-common. How is it possible to book these venues at such short notice? When we were planning our big day booking a reception venue was a nightmare and they were booked up months in advance.
Some places, such as Dunston Hall, Sprowston Manor and Grange Farm, were booked up years in advance, however these are particularly "fashionable" places to get married in the Norwich area. We held an evening party (for family friends, work colleagues and distant family members who we hadn't seen for over a decade) at a local pub and we even had to book this over 6 months in advance. If it were a grand pub then I would understand and whilst the pub is modern and quite nice, it is not all that so I was amazed at how quickly it gets booked up.
Something I have noticed about this show is that all the people seem to come from the same social backgrounds. I know this is going to be an un-PC comment, and I don't mean to offend anyone, but all the people seem to come from poorer working class backgrounds in poor areas. The grooms are either your typical 'stoners or bums' and the brides are shazzas with big hoopy earrings, and both are always young, i.e. in their mid twenties or younger.
Why is it there are no older couples? Maybe older couples want to get married in private? Maybe older couples don't want "five minutes of fame" or should that be laughed at and made to look a bit stupid or tight or prima donnas? Or is it, that younger couples make for better viewing? Personally, I think it is the latter.
The brides on this show always seem to want to have the fairy tale wedding. The big expensive dress, the horse and carriage, twenty bridesmaids etc. etc. They all seem to want the works. The grooms on the other hand seem to want top stag nights, great entertainment and lots of alcohol. I hate to say it but this conflict makes for great viewing.
In my experience most men haven't dreamt about getting married since they were young, I know I didn't, and when they decide to tie the knot they haven't got everything mapped out, like a lot of women have. The largest area of conflict is always over the dress and most of the time the groom gets it wrong, which is pretty much understandable. When I saw my wife walking down the aisle I was dumbfounded by her choice of dress and if asked to pick one out for her I wouldn't have gone for the particular style or colour in a million years.
I have seen episodes of this show where the brides have broken down in to tears and refused to wear the dress and chosen their own. In my opinion this goes against everything the show stands for since it is the groom that does the planning, and I think the bride should put up and shut up. After all, she is being given £12,000 towards the wedding so she should just get on with it. In those cases where the brides refuses to wear the dress or the shoes then I think the couple should have to repay the money as they haven't stuck to their part of the agreement.
The mannerisms of the grooms, and the best men, also make this show great viewing. Most are very immature and mess around like children. Whilst this is quite amusing I often wonder if these 'boys' are really ready for the life long commitment of marriage. Are they really ready to reduce their time with their friends, doing what they want when they want and have to consider another person with every decision that is made? Looking at many of them I think not, but maybe that is me not being able to read people properly, or maybe it is just me being a bit too much of a traditionalist.
Overall this is great entertainment although it is something that I would never have done, even though £12,000 is a lot of money, more than what we had to spend, and there are some things I would have liked to be a bit more extravagant. I see marriage as a personal thing that is shared with immediate family and close friends only. We didn't even have extended family members at our wedding so there is no way we would have had the ceremony and private reception filmed for all and sundry to see. We would have been a bit more relaxed about the evening party, although I still don't think we would have let it be televised.
It would be interesting if there were some follow up shows, say a year on just to see if those immature grooms have actually changed or whether they are the same and their marriage has lasted. However, I don't think this will ever happen, as I am sure most people will want to be left alone once they have had their big day paid for them.
This is fast becoming one of my favourite programs to watch!
Basically a couple wanting to get married sign up for the show on the conditions that it is the man who will organise everything in 3 weeks, usually with a budget of £12,000. (Sometimes they add in their own savings as well!
The are not allowed to communicate or see their partners throughout the 3 weeks and they cannot share any information about the wedding with them. The bride is completely clueless about everything!
The man has to decide evrything, cake, dresses, venue, guests, invites, cars. What usually makes me laugh everytime I watch the programme is that more often than not, they start in the fridge getting the beer out! I dont think they realise how much they have got to organise! Being unmarried myself I probably wouldnt have a clue where to start and theyve only got 3 weeks to do it!
Another highlight of the show is where they have to choose the brides dress! Usually what happens is that the bride visits a bridal shop and finds her perfect wedding dress, and then when the man goes shopping it is either absolutely nothing like that or they do find a similar one and dont pick it! My favourite show was when the man went into the charity shop for his wifes wedding dress and was seriously considering buying it, and even put it on hold, lets just say she wouldnt have been impressed! Luckily for him he found another dress which he spent a bit more on
I also remember watching one episode where they planned the hen night for the women and for some reason thought they would enjoy the Bingo, the brides face was priceless! Other memorable episodes have been where the bride is picturing a huge mansion/castle for her wedding, and ends up in....a pub!!! Not quite what she was expecting!
Another episode left the man searching for some music/Dj and ended up looking into hiring a busker which he saw on the street!
There have been numerous episodes where the groom runs out of money and sometimes cant even afford to buy the brides 10 year old sister a bridesmaid dress, or another episode was where the best man ended up wearing the same foot shoe because they had got them mixed up. Other memorable highlights come when it is time for the bride to have her hair and makeup done, the man can give instructions to the hairdresser and makeup artist and they have to do as they say. They have been many occasions where the woman does not like it!
Dresses have had to be altered 1hr before the wedding, hair changed, makeup redone, but somehow at the end of all the drama and hard work from the man there have been some spectacular weddings, which you really thought wouldnt have happened. It is a time when the man does deserve some credit for doing a fantastic job! What always becomes apparent at the end, is that the woman is usually always happy, which shows their love for each other, (although I dont know how many of them are still together!).
A great show which I am really enjoying watching! You can watch it on BBC3, it is usually repeated throughout the week so you can always catch it, or if you just cant contain your excitement any more to watch it then you can watch it on BBCi player too! It is a popular show and is on its 3rd series. Although, not to be nasty, I cant wait to see if theres a show that goes completely belly up and seriously ends in disaster! And thats for my pure entertainment only!!
I am absolutely loving the latest BBC3 series 'Dont tell the bride' my boyfriend says that all girls think about is 'fluffy bunnies and weddings' and I guess in a sense he is half right as I think most women do love weddings - especially if you are getting wed or planning one (which im not ...yet lol but I still watch it!) and we all dream about our big day!
Each hour long episode (I think there are 11 in the current series) is about a different couple who are engaged and want to get married and they basically agree to do the programme as they are given £12,000 to spend on their wedding IF .... they agree (in presence on a lawyer) that they are too spend 3 weeks apart and that the groom to be has to arrange absolutely everything in 3 weeks without any help from anyone... of course this is very appealing to everyone especially us women who ummm sorry guys but think that the idea of a bloke organising a wedding ... is well.... crazy!!
So yeah... there always seems to be an emotional bride to be, who knows exactly what she wants and spends most the prgramme crying and worrying about whats in store for her big day and then you have the groom who well, is more intrested in spending time getting wasted having parties and choosing everything that the bride definatly does not want...
The comentating is done especially in contrast to the bride ad groom - showing the groom nearly booking a football stadium to get married whilst the bride is crying that she wants a church and her worst nightmare would be just what hes nearly doing!
Its hilarious!! I find my self shouting 'nooooo you idiot!!!' at the TV and 'oh my god if you ever did that.....' (aimed at my boyfriend lol) whilst he laughs and says the guy is 'a ledgend'
The other day the groom booked and organised his stag party for over £1000 before even looking at venues! (And then gave the girls £300 for a meal out for her hen party.Grrrrr ) And did you watch the one where the invitations went out the day before the wedding!
In the end the dress thats huge and plain is taken in and has beading added and she gets over the fact that the colour scheme is awful... or that there is no colour scheme lol and I think that the fact she has missed him so much in 3 weeks means he is completely forgiven him!?? so far everyone has been happy... I wonder id they will show an episode where the bride goes mental and refuses to get married!!!? lol.
I just caught this on a random digital channel tonight as I was eating dinner. I'm not normally a big fan of such programmes, but I've quite enjoyed Four Weddings recently so thought I'd give this a try because there wasn't much else on.
Basically, the hour-long programme shows a groom planning his wedding for the bride, whilst she remains completely in the dark about the plans and has to go along with whatever the groom chooses.
The particular episode I saw tonight had a supposedly high-maintenance bride-to-be, Vicky, and her fiance Stuart. Vicky was quite bossy and knew exactly what she wanted from every part of her life, from her job to how the washing needed organising. However, despite saying she'd been planning her wedding since she was about 16, she was more than happy to hand over responsibility to Stuart (perhaps it was something to do with the £12,000 the programme stumps up towards the wedding).
Stuart had his best mate and best man helping him make decisions such as the venue, the dress, the cake, entertainment, bridesmaids dresses etc. The most amusing part of the programme was that every time there was a cut scene to show Vicky's ideal dress/venue/etc., the next thing shown would be the best man suggesting the exact opposite of what Vicky just said she wanted...which ended up being the final decision every time. Quite frankly, the best man and the groom acted like they were about twelve the entire time, and I have no idea how she ended up with him because their personalities seemed to clash so badly.
Stuart ended up organising the whole thing in about three weeks, which would have been pretty impressive had it not been for the fact that he made on the spot decisions about everything. Which is probably why he ended up hiring a homeless busker to provide the entertainment less than 24 hours beforehand, and why he nearly ended up getting married in two left shoes (he made the best man wear them in the end). It's actually not as entertaining as it sounds.
The wedding day came around...Vicky liked her dress (which was nice), disliked the colour of the bridesmaid dresses (hot pink; Stu changed his mind a couple of days before but the best man talked him out of it), and hated the venue (a pub instead of a castle). I was expecting her to have massive tantrums throughout, but she only made a fuss about her makeup. Stu had hired someone to do it, and she did look dreadful, with clown-like blusher and rings round her eyes. So she re-did it herself, which made her an hour and half late (but hey, the guests were in a pub so they probably didn't care).
I think it would have been more interesting if she'd made more of a fuss, but I guess it shows she was a nice person underneath really. And I definitely recommend this episode (and probably the programme as a whole) for anyone who was disappointed with their wedding because it will probably make you feel relieved! Chances are your groom didn't order two left shoes and bothered to shave beforehand!
All in all, this programme had quite a lot of flaws. For one thing, the whole episode and dialogue was set up as the groom doing the bride a favour and making it 'her' wedding rather than 'their' wedding. It had to be all about what she wanted, despite the fact that she didn't get to pick anything or have any input beyond who the bridesmaids were. (I don't know if she cheated at all, but I suspect it's likely). The cut scenes showing her clasping bridal magazines and trying on wedding dresses was both tedious - particularly for her poor friends - and kind of sad, because she found her perfect dress and couldn't buy it.
Overall, I'd never do this in a million years, and I probably wouldn't watch this programme again unless there was nothing else on. It could have been fitted into a more appropriate half-hour slot, and was only vaguely entertaining.
I'm probably most interested in this programme as I am myself a bride-to-be and find myself attracted to all things wedding-related just now! Don't Tell the Bride is a fantastic watch. Each week a new couple is given £12000 to pay for their wedding on the proviso that the groom does all the planning and organising and the bride has absolutely nothing to do with the wedding organisation at all. To make sure that this happens properly, the couple sign a legally binding contract in the presence of a solicitor, stern stuff! The bride or groom will then move out to allow the groom to get busy sorting out the wedding in just 3 weeks.
The couples in this programme seem to fit a formula. The Bride: Strong character, has always dreamed of her perfect fairytale wedding, likes to make decisions, wears the trousers in the relationship, etc, etc.
The Groom: can't make a decision to save his life, more interested in his stag night than the wedding, wants his football/rugby colours as the colour scheme for the wedding, etc, etc. Obviously this makes for great viewing as we cringe when the groom makes choices which will make the bride's hair curl such as her least favourite colour for bridesmaids' dresses or taking only 18 minutes to choose the bride's wedding gown and paying more attention to the girl in the bridal shop modelling the dress than the dress itself!
The bridesmaids go with the groom to help to choose bridesmaids' dresses but they are not allowed to influence the groom's decision based on what they know the bride would or would not like.
As well as giving some cringeworthy moments, this programme also gives the groom the opportunity to show how well he knows his bride and how much he loves her, for example a number of grooms have ensured a church wedding, even though they aren't religious themselves they have worked hard to make the necessary arrangements to give their bride the special day they know they would like.
Once the venue has been arranged and invitations made (usually homemade by the groom and his groomsmen), the bride receives an invitation telling her the date and time of the wedding but not the venue. This stays secret until the day of the wedding when the bride is taken there. The groom also arranges the hen night and usually, during this night out the bride gets a bit emotional and realises how much she loves and misses her husband to be or realises how much of a wally he is and how could she ever allow him to organise a wedding!
Just before the wedding, perhaps a couple of days before, the bride goes to see her wedding dress that the groom picked out for her. Of all the episodes I've seen, the bride has loved the dress each time except for one. One bride kicked up such a stink that she refused to wear the dress and demanded another one. Whether she had to foot the bill for this or not I'm not sure but she wasn't wearing the dress her fiance had chosen!
On the day of the wedding, the bride finally gets to see the bridesmaids in their dresses, puts on her own dress (obviously!) and is taken to her wedding venue. So far none of the brides I have seen have been disappointed and sometimes, particularly when the bride is convinced that she hasn't got her dream church, the driver will take the bride and her father on a bit of a wild goose chase before driving to the real venue, adds a lovely touch when you see how happy the bride is. The bride has a lot to take in seeing everything for the first time: colour scheme, venue, evening entertainment, cake... you name it! I have never seen an episode yet that hasn't had a happy ending. Tissues at the ready! The only thing that spoils it a little bit is how emotional the brides can get. It can't be helped, after all, they've had nothing to do with the organisation of their wedding (stressful!!), haven't seen their beloved for 3 weeks and have all the emotion of the day to contend with so as they are blubbering their way down the aisle, it spoils the fairytale image a little bit!!
My fiance and I talked about whether we'd be happy to do something like this and I decided that if someone was prepared to give me £12000 to pay for my wedding then I'd jump at the chance and I'd be happy with any choices my hubby to be made because he'd be making those choices with thoughts of what i'd like (I think he would anyway!) and that would make me happy!
I can't miss an episode of this programme, people in love, weddings, lots of ideas, what more can a bride to be want?!!
Generally speaking I am not a great fan of reality television and go to great lengths to avoid programmes like "Big Brother" and "I'm a Celebrity" but "Don't Tell the Bride" is one I can tolerate and sometimes even enjoy. This is an offering from Renegade Pictures, a production company based in North London, which purports to specialise in "high quality factual programmes including feature documentaries, broadcast documentaries, factual formats and series". However, as none of its other products ring any bells with me, I will move swiftly on! At present in its third series, "Don't Tell the Bride" is screened each week on BBC 3, with the initial broadcast on a Tuesday evening and repeats playing throughout the week. The last three episodes can also currently be viewed on BBC iPlayer.
Each one hour episode is devoted to one couple and the recipe is simplicity itself. Take one loving, cash-strapped couple, give them £12,000, mix together in a haphazard fashion and serve up one perfect wedding. But of course there must be a catch and indeed there are several. The preparation time is just three weeks, the couple must have no contact in that time, horror of horror, the bridegroom must organize every last detail even his partner's wedding gown and they must sign a contract to this effect in front of a lawyer. Despite everything the end result is usually a gourmet offering but it's one which often seems to owe more to luck than to judgement.
Quite how the couples are selected is open to speculation but I notice the credits include a fair sized casting crew which presumably seeks out couples of a certain predisposition because the brides are usually the controllers in the relationship with very definite ideas of what they want whilst the grooms are laid back types who, whilst not exactly useless, generally somewhat lack in drive and organizational skills.
The formula is inevitably the same in each episode as we follow the groom and his accomplices getting in the beers and playing their computer games whilst the brides and their cronies fret, worry and mull over all that can go wrong and how their dreams might be trashed! Tension is built up by the juxtaposition of scenes such as the bride visiting her ideal location and the groom booking one which bears no similarity. In one episode the bride dreams of a picturesque country retreat whilst the groom is enquiring about the Aston Villa ground. He eventually settled for a second rate hotel by Manchester airport plus a claret and blue colour scheme but his beloved was happy enough! Often the dress is a problem and, as the bride tries on wedding dresses, she will declare her distaste for a certain style whilst the groom is seen handing over the cash for just such an abhorrent creation! The viewer is inevitably left wondering if the bride will walk away in disgust on her big day but knowing that inevitably there will be a happy ever after ending.
Often the families will feel it necessary to get involved. The Mum who is fretting that four days before the wedding no invitations have gone out, the Dad who is worried there won't be enough liquid refreshment collars his son-in- law to be but saves the day with a cash contribution. My favourite was in a recent episode when a formidable Grandma (a dead ringer for Blanche in Corrie) cornered her grandson, the groom, berating him for causing her sleepless nights and aggravating her arthritis and issuing an ultimatum that all arrangements must be finalized before he touched another drop of alcohol. Needless to say, her grandson, suitably chastened, obeyed her dictates with some alacrity!
Considering all has to be accomplished in a nail biting three weeks, it's a miracle that it all comes together and everything turns out pretty perfectly. I am sure that the various traders will be swayed and go that extra mile knowing they will get some TV publicity and it's obvious that the production team will be heavily involved in the behind the scenes arrangements but it's remarkable nevertheless.
It's a programme that will probably be of more appeal to the ladies who, let's face it, have more of an interest in such ceremonies and are generally of a more romantic disposition. The men's discomfort will be the cause of great mirth borne of female superiority as they indulge in outbursts of amused tut-tutting at the weaker sex's lack of organizational ability. They will also find immense pleasure getting through the tissues during the ceremonial grand finale. But the gents will surely also find something to please. If nothing else there is usually a scantily clad female at the stag do! My apologies for the unashamed sexism here but it's a fact of life!
The greatest strength of the show for me is that participants are all very natural. There is no posing for the camera and no presenter interviews or interference, just a true fly on the wall perspective as events unfold. Unfortunately I am not too impressed with the narration. The script lacks sparkle and the narrator, Rebekah Stanton, has a somewhat breathy voice and flat delivery which can become monotonous. It needs a more humourous script with a generous sprinkling of tongue in cheek sarcasm here and there and a narrator with much more panache in the delivery. Somebody of the calibre of Dave Lamb and his brand a cutting wit as demonstrated in the series "Come Dine with Me" springs to mind and a substitution of this order would really add to the programme's appeal.
Apart from this the production's greatest weakness is the lack of variety. All the couples fall into the same late twenties to early thirties age group, all are heterosexual couplings and all opt for very traditional white wedding. Why not give a chance to older couples, to same sex partnerships and to less traditional participants who might opt for more unusual ceremonial options? This would certainly widen the appeal.
Nevertheless I quite enjoy my weekly dose of tirades, tantrums, tears, tribulations and triumphs in its easily digestible, bite-sized format but then I am a typical romantic female. If, like me, you enjoy a good cry over a confetti shower then don your best bib and tucker, pour yourself a glass of bubbly, grab you tissues and join me.
'Dont Tell The Bride' is a great television programme which is shown on BBC Three. I don't normaly watch t.v programmes like this, but my friend kept talking about it and saying how good it was, so I had to watch it just to see what it was like.
This show is about a couple who wants to get married but cannot afford the kind of wedding that they want. So the t.v show offers to pay for their wedding on the conditions of the 'bride to be' not knowing anything about it! They get a sum of twelve thousand to spend on the wedding in total.
The couple have to spend three weeks apart with no contact at all. The only thing that the woman gets to see is the invitation to her wedding, the brides maids dresses and she will get to see her dress the day before the wedding.
On the other hand the man gets all of the power and control and picks everything from the invitations right down to the brides dress. To make it interesting at the start of the show the 'bride to be' picks her ideal dress and the place where she would like her wedding to take place. However on every episode that I have watched the man has never picked the place or kind of place that his fiance' origanally wanted or a dress that looks like the kind of dress she picked.
At the end of the show the bride is always happy and everything always works out right !